What to do?
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Anonymous
| When I come to work in the mornings the house is a mess and the dishes from last night are dirty. I am finding I have to clean up the family room and do dinner dishes just to be able to work. Cleaning outside of the children is not in my contract. My question is what is acceptable? If the children trash the play area after I have left because the parents let them is it fair to expect me to clean it in th morning? The dirty dishes from last nights dinner? The bottles are all dirty and I have to wash them and the actual dishes.. Plates,forks, pots pans etc. because the other children are preschool/ school age and I have to cook their food. Please help, not trolling or trying to start a war just looking for answers. |
Anonymous
| Do you have enough time to complete these tasks? |
Anonymous
| You could always have the children help you clean up the areas that they trashed. In fact they could do a lot of the clean up. This would be a valuable lesson for them to learn now. They will end up spoiled and entitled if someone always does everything for them. They made the mess so they can help clean it up. As for the dishes and baby bottles it really depends on how often it happens. If it is an every day thing then I would speak with your employers and tell them that you don't mind doing dishes to clean up from what is used throughout the day but that you will be leaving their dinner dishes for them. I think it's ridiculous that they keep living them for you to do. Switch their dishes to the other side of the sink and wash baby bottles in the other side. |
Anonymous
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BTDT several times. Everyone will say to talk to your employers, which I agree with- communication and clear expectations are key.
However, if you think it'll go right over heir heads, their lazy, entitled, and just suck as employers, do the following: Do what PP suggested and put all their dinner dishes, pots and pans included, in a pile in the sink. Tidy up common areas even though some of its their mess. As far as the kids toys go, tidy up but DON'T overdo it. If they are the ones letting kids wreak havoc and not cleaning up after themselves, there's no reason you should be responsible for that. |
Anonymous
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I'd make a big production about the kid mess to the kids and make THEM clean it up and if they whine and complain don't let them get any toys out until the old mess is picked up.make it a competition as to who can pick up the most toys the fastest.
For the kitchen mess...leave it.make the kods cold lunches if you have to. Let them know you don't mind helping here and there but you generally expect to come into aclean kitchen in the mornimg. |
Anonymous
| As long as you clean up their mess , they will continue to let you. I had a roommate who was also a slob and I just piled up one of the counters with dishes, etc., and let it stay until she got the message that I was not her maid. Stop and do what you contracted to do. |
Anonymous
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How about you do your job.
Why do nannies feel as if they're too good for these tasks? |
Anonymous
Oh COME on. Clearly this is NOT part of her job. What nanny crawled up your nose to make you so unpleasant and biased? |
Anonymous
How bout you do your job as a parent |
Anonymous
Nanny here. I don't have a problem cleaning up after myself. Do you? Why do parents feel they are too good to clean up after themselves? And why do parents feel they are entitled to ask their childcare provider to clean up after them? |
Anonymous
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It takes my charges all of five minutes to pick up toys, make a game out of it with them using colors, shapes, etc.
I don't mind loading a dishwasher if the dishes were rinsed off the night before. The dishwasher in this house is ridiculously small, and my employers rent. See if you can work with them about these issues. |
Anonymous
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Op here
I have cleaned the family room, and washed the dishes. The issue I have is when I come to work every morning and because I have been kind to help, I get the impression the parents think its ok, or I am supposed to do these things. It's especially hard on Monday morning and it looks like a tornado went through the house. I am not a lazy person or nanny. I don't think it's fair to have to clean up (again) after the home has been trashed during the weekend or overnight. I am also certain I should not have to pick up soiled diapers from the floor, moms Kotex wrappers or the used condoms I have found in the kitchen! I have been with this family for 4 months. I honestly do like them as people, just trying to see If this can work or should I start looking again. |
Anonymous
If they are this inconsiderate there is no salvaging this job. Quietly begin looking for a new one and give your notice when you're secure. I wouldn't even bring it up, to be honest, because I don't believe they'll change and they might be resentful if you suggest they need to change anything. |
Anonymous
| do you really need to clean up these things in order to do your job? I say not doing it for a while and see if they say anything. Some housekeeping is expected of most nanny positions but it seems like they expect a lot of housekeeping here. |
Anonymous
Ok, this is clearly inappropriate and disgusting. They need a housekeeper. I'd look for another job. |