Grandma saying for weeks/months, Ring cameras in every room of the house

[Anonymous]

I have never seen an Indian family raise their own kids. They hire "servants" to do the job.

Do NOT clean up after those lazy grandparents.

I would casually hang a towel over that laundry room camera. Time how long it takes for the family to text /call you from their job!

[Anonymous]

Quit if you don't like the job it's a free country. The grandparents are old (hopefully older than you) and they are "lazy" because hello old age! When our parents/ILs are visiting, we ask nanny to come later and leave earlier and its a win-win for everyone. Nanny gets a shorter workday ~6 hours for the same pay and gparents get to spend quality time with grandkids so they appreciate nanny more when she comes to take over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quit if you don't like the job it's a free country. The grandparents are old (hopefully older than you) and they are "lazy" because hello old age! When our parents/ILs are visiting, we ask nanny to come later and leave earlier and its a win-win for everyone. Nanny gets a shorter workday ~6 hours for the same pay and gparents get to spend quality time with grandkids so they appreciate nanny more when she comes to take over.

Expecting someone to clean the dishes when you can cook indicates laziness. Good luck finding a nanny that will stay long term with this setup. Most Nannie’s want a full day and no one micromanaging them with their old ways.

[Anonymous]

If the grandparents are so feeble they cannot clean up their own dishes they should be in a nursing facility.

[Anonymous]

Never work for Indians. I’m not sure about Pakistanis or Bangladeshis. I would just say no to all foreign people from developing countries that are used to a servant mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When our parents/ILs are visiting, we ask nanny to come later and leave earlier and its a win-win for everyone. Nanny gets a shorter workday ~6 hours for the same pay and gparents get to spend quality time with grandkids so they appreciate nanny more when she comes to take over.

Ok but that’s not the case here or what the OP described, making it irrelevant to their issue.

[Anonymous]

Not all Indians grew up in India or have grandparents visiting.

Sounds like you need to ask questions upfront to ensure you know what you’re signing up for before taking the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all Indians grew up in India or have grandparents visiting.

Sounds like you need to ask questions upfront to ensure you know what you’re signing up for before taking the job.

I live in a community with a ton of Indians and almost all of them have family staying with them for long periods. I’m also south Asian and this is very much the norm. It also sounds like she got good advice here because everyone has told her to run from Indian families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the perspective of a nanny employer, I am quite surprised at these responses. Our children are teenagers, and we have worked with the same nannies since our first was born. She is extraordinary and we are very grateful to be working with her.

From the employer perspective, I work in an office in which, there are cameras that track and record my location. I also have gone through of time where I work mostly alone, and then periods of time where, expectedly or unexpectedly, there are others in my close environment. I just simply do my job. If someone is watching me, I just don’t care. If someone is making a different choice as to how they run their part of the business, not my business I don’t care. I just do my job. I feel like a nanny. Office is their employers home. in the workplace, other than private locations, such as restrooms, employers now generally have cameras. Also, we all have situations in which we wish our bosses, or people who are unexpectedly in our spaces, wouldn’t be there. But I really don’t understand why nannies seem to think that, They are exempt from cameras and others in the room, while that is quite common in any other workplace. I’m guessing maybe nannies don’t realize this if they haven’t had other work experience?

I am a relatively senior executive in my office. I am also aware that , my badge tracks my general whereabouts and that cameras film my location to a large extent. That’s just the world. And that is where many employers are coming from. You may be thinking that, because you are in a person’s home as your place of work that you should expect more privacy and less oversight. I would suggest the contract, that if you are in the private space of your employers, that they would expect greater visibility into what happens in their home.

We have a lot of people in outside of our house, our children’s nanny, people working on the house, lots of visitors and also caregivers for my disabled father. From my view, it is not at all unreasonable to want to have a view a public basis. I don’t generally look at them, and I am very clear with everyone that cameras exist, I don’t see it as any different from the expectations and other workplaces.

I’m 6/23 23:28.

I recommend cameras… that doesn’t mean I want to see them and feel self-conscious. Ring cameras would be an issue for me.

I support family involvement. However, there’s a huge difference between disrupting a child’s schedule for a relative visiting for a few days vs not having a schedule at all and kids never knowing who is doing what, what time they’ll eat, etc.

As a live-in nanny, I need every adult who lives in the house to be a party to the contract so that I don’t have to constantly try to tell grandma that I don’t need permission to do my laundry after my shift or cook my food for the week on Sunday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quit if you don't like the job it's a free country. The grandparents are old (hopefully older than you) and they are "lazy" because hello old age! When our parents/ILs are visiting, we ask nanny to come later and leave earlier and its a win-win for everyone. Nanny gets a shorter workday ~6 hours for the same pay and gparents get to spend quality time with grandkids so they appreciate nanny more when she comes to take over.

That’s a reasonable situation. Grandparents tagging along with the kids’ schedule and not taking them is reasonable (especially if the grandparents are old enough to not be able to solo with grandkids anymore). Changing the schedule for short-term is fine… not throwing out a schedule for months.

[Anonymous]

I have a rule that I never nanny for foreign families. I babysit for a French and British family and they are great. I’ve had issues with foreigners and it’s just not worth the risk. I also only work with families that are middle class. It’s not just the servant mentality I am worried about. Communication and parenting style can be an issue as well.