Nanny quit

[Anonymous]

If your kids had been through a war as in Ukraine and lost a parent then bad behavior could be excused. Moving to a new country with parents and changing school does not excuse bratty behavior. And. It definitely does not excuse OP's behavior.

OP get used to replacing nannies every 2/3 months because no one has to put up with
badly behaved children and adults.

[Anonymous]

oP--I'm a nanny and I'm on your side. Some kids are more introverted and don't want to be peppered with questions the second they roll out of school. They need a bit of down time to decompress and will chat when they're in the mood. There's nothing wrong with that. I also agree that they've been through a lot of big changes and that should have been accounted for. Nanny doesn't sound like empathy and working with older kids is her strong suit.

[Anonymous]

OP here.
My kids are confident individuals but I agree that ex nanny was suited to working with younger kids and should have been more understanding.
They are great kids and we have no issues at home or school. Hopefully things will settle now.

[Anonymous]

I'm totally not a troll or anything like that but I agree with the mom.. you should always believe your kids over Nannies... I mean why would your kids act so disrespectfully? The Nanny was lying probably wanted a raise... you should be glad she left... no you can raise your kiddos properly. And if they start being disrespectful to you they must have learned that behavior from the Nanny.

[Anonymous]

It's clearly the three PP is written for the same OP. Yeah mom.. we are all on your side lol!

[Anonymous]

OP, While I sympathize w/your children for all the changes that have occurred - I also do not think they have the right to be disrespectful to their Nanny because of it.

Sure, they are going through a huge transition which would be tough for ANY child.

However, they need to respect authority which means that when in the care of others > they need to respect & listen.

If a caregiver told me that my child didn’t answer them + my child said they could not because they had a sore throat that would not sit well w/me.

It appears that you are discounting any feedback that your Nanny has given you.
If this is the case…then why even have a Nanny??!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's clearly the three PP is written for the same OP. Yeah mom.. we are all on your side lol!

:+ 1

[Anonymous]

OP, you should not hire an American nanny because they are not going to put up with your arrogance and your children's bad behavior. Maybe you can find a lackey from your home country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did I say my husband does not agree with me ?
He is very sad about it as felt that if it had to end, it could be done in a civil and nice way but it didn't end like that.
I barely saw her. It was him who did and so it will be harder on him I guess but the arrangement clearly wasn't working and the kids were no longer happy. I haven't made excuses for them, I'm just a mom who sees what her kids have been through and that they deserve understanding and patience.

You have made excuses for them in this thread. Try some self-awareness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She cared for our kids who are age 7 and 9 before and after school. We emigrated here from South Africa and the kids had to of course change schools and friendship groups. All was fine up until the past few months. She kept reporting back bad behaviors. Not listening to her, not talking or answering her when she spoke to them. Moody when coming out of school. Some backchatting etc.
My DH was the one who had the most contact with nanny. He spoke to the kids but things remained difficult. I personally felt the nanny was being a bit harsh especially as the kids have been through such a challenging time. I asked to meet with her and told her that the kids had said that they had not been misbehaving and that I wanted to believe them and be the type of mom that believes her kids. I reminded her that the kids had moved schools a second time and she said thats when the problems all started but I do not agree. I asked her to further explain the behaviors and she mentioned all the above and also said my eldest shuts doors on her. I told her that the kids side needed to be heard as well as hers which is something she needs to take into consideration. Back at home I punished the kids and then texted nanny to apologise because what she had told me was something I needed to address with the kids. She said she was quitting as she felt unappreciated and untrusted.
DH is upset at how it has all ended and kids are upset also. She's been with us nearly a year. I think we will cope without a new nanny but has anyone else been in this situation? I just wanted to make sure my kids had a voice but it all backfired.

You’re full of bit!! Wake up woman and be a mother and stop raising brats. If your nanny quit, find another. Move on, stop the drama if you aren’t willing to see your own faults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you should not hire an American nanny because they are not going to put up with your arrogance and your children's bad behavior. Maybe you can find a lackey from your home country.

Yeah, like American kids are known globally for their wonderful behavior

[Anonymous]

I can see why the nanny quit. I can also see that the kids are having a hard time. Maybe a nanny that is better suited to deal with emotional intelligence and actually connecting.

[Anonymous]

Your kids are not mature. You respect the nanny. She has experience and parents should call out, discipline thier kids in front of the nanny so your kids feel and understand their bad behavior is not acceptable.

Just take care of your da.. kids. I'm glad she quit. She deserves so much better.

[Anonymous]

Transition can be few months, not a year...

I know stupid naive parents whenever her kids in elementary has bad behavior she blames the fking transition to new grade. It's been YEAARS, discipline your kids.

It starts at home, not school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
My kids are confident individuals but I agree that ex nanny was suited to working with younger kids and should have been more understanding.
They are great kids and we have no issues at home or school. Hopefully things will settle now.

OP, your kids sound like they are not behaving and you clearly have issues at home.