Family I Nanny For Asked Me To Get A Car Because They Are Getting A Divorce

[Anonymous]

Tell him no.

[Anonymous]

I would honestly not like any more answers. I’ve been saying no to him - it’s not enough to keep him from asking. I kind of just wanted some suggestions on how to professionally put him off for good until I get a new position within the next couple of months because having the conversation every day is uncomfortable & I am trying to avoid having to leave before I find another position I like. To reiterate - I am leaving this job. I just wanted some advice. I also wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy for finding his response unprofessional.

[Anonymous]

Underpaying you and not providing agreed-upon benefits is a breach of contract. You are under no obligation to honor the contract provisions now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Live in Nanny here. My nanny family is getting a divorce & wants to keep me along. The father has asked me more than once if I can get a car so I can drive the baby between their houses.

I have qualms with this family as they frequently underpay me & take advantage of me & I have plans to leave when my contract is over. I am a live in nanny but I am not provided with any of the board or benefits I agreed to before working here. I am not interested in getting a car because I know the family wouldn’t even give me gas money let alone follow industry standards for using your nanny’s personal car - but I found it quite insulting that he even asked that in the first place. Never had a nanny family not provide a car for me to use while on the clock & I don’t think my past families would ever dream of asking me to buy something so their family could use it.

The dad has been asking me frequently lately to get a car or if I’ve saved for one so I can ‘give him the money to buy a car’ & I have to hold my tongue because I want to respond & tell him that he doesn’t even pay me enough for me to think about a car. They want me to buy the car & fully take care of it & they asked for 50 dollars a month FROM ME for parking (this part was also insulting).

I’d definitely like some advice - do you feel that this is a rude request? How would you professionally decline this request?

You simply say this is not something I wish to do. If you have a contract and they have not lived up to its terms, they are in breach of contract. You can leave immediately. They sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to pay for parking?! Lol leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can just get a new job and go. You don't have to wait for the contract. Since they didn't adhere to the contract, the contract is now broken, and therefore null and void.

This is actually an exceptional point OP.

If you can leave now - I would simply move out.
If not, plan for it!

Since you do not need a car for even your own personal usage >> I would refrain from even considering your DB’s outrageous request.
Is he high??!

He has no right to ask you to purchase a car for him!!
Kindly let him know that you simply cannot afford such a big ticket purchase at this time.
If he persists, give him the same answer until he stops asking.

In the meantime ~ make plans to move out as soon as you are able to.
I hope you find yourself a great family soon who treats you the way you most certainly deserve!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would honestly not like any more answers. I’ve been saying no to him - it’s not enough to keep him from asking. I kind of just wanted some suggestions on how to professionally put him off for good until I get a new position within the next couple of months because having the conversation every day is uncomfortable & I am trying to avoid having to leave before I find another position I like. To reiterate - I am leaving this job. I just wanted some advice. I also wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy for finding his response unprofessional.

If you do not want any more responses, you can always ask the moderator to remove your thread.

You should do this today so other people will not waste their time responding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would honestly not like any more answers. I’ve been saying no to him - it’s not enough to keep him from asking. I kind of just wanted some suggestions on how to professionally put him off for good until I get a new position within the next couple of months because having the conversation every day is uncomfortable & I am trying to avoid having to leave before I find another position I like. To reiterate - I am leaving this job. I just wanted some advice. I also wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy for finding his response unprofessional.

You can ask Jeff to lock the thread.

[Anonymous]

OP, you be clear and tell him no. You tell him that he need to provide a car or pay for uber and provide a car seat. Don't let it be up for discussion. Done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Live in Nanny here. My nanny family is getting a divorce & wants to keep me along. The father has asked me more than once if I can get a car so I can drive the baby between their houses.

I have qualms with this family as they frequently underpay me & take advantage of me & I have plans to leave when my contract is over. I am a live in nanny but I am not provided with any of the board or benefits I agreed to before working here. I am not interested in getting a car because I know the family wouldn’t even give me gas money let alone follow industry standards for using your nanny’s personal car - but I found it quite insulting that he even asked that in the first place. Never had a nanny family not provide a car for me to use while on the clock & I don’t think my past families would ever dream of asking me to buy something so their family could use it.

The dad has been asking me frequently lately to get a car or if I’ve saved for one so I can ‘give him the money to buy a car’ & I have to hold my tongue because I want to respond & tell him that he doesn’t even pay me enough for me to think about a car. They want me to buy the car & fully take care of it & they asked for 50 dollars a month FROM ME for parking (this part was also insulting).

I’d definitely like some advice - do you feel that this is a rude request? How would you professionally decline this request?

"Hi DB. I'm not interested in purchasing a car at this time as I uber on my time off and never have issues. If you want to provide a vehicle for me to use to transport you child, I'd be happy to drive it, providing that you are willing to cover insurance, gas, maintenance, parking and tolls, since it would be your vehicle, not mine.

On a separate note, my contract states xyz for board and benefits. I expect to have those reinstated immediately."

However, OP, I would already be interviewing to find my next family. And I completely agree, I've never had a live-in position that wanted their children driven and didn't provide the vehicle.

[Anonymous]

Please learn to stand up for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would honestly not like any more answers. I’ve been saying no to him - it’s not enough to keep him from asking. I kind of just wanted some suggestions on how to professionally put him off for good until I get a new position within the next couple of months because having the conversation every day is uncomfortable & I am trying to avoid having to leave before I find another position I like. To reiterate - I am leaving this job. I just wanted some advice. I also wanted to know that I wasn’t crazy for finding his response unprofessional.

I would just say "Bob, you've asked multiple times about a car and I'm 100% certain i will not be getting one. If you need me to drive the kids then you need to provide the car". Good luck.