OP does not understand that anyone can get COVID and you need to deal with it. |
Disagree. If I had a household card for OP's family, I would have no problem putting in a grocery order (including ziploc and rubbermaid containers) for the kids, picking it up, prepping veggies and food for them in my home, then dropping it off on their porch. No, I would not play with the kids outside until they were negative, but I would be happy to stand outside and supervise children who are 4+ who stay far away from me and who can go back inside to use the bathroom... for maybe up to 3 hours, beyond that and I'd want access to a bathroom for myself. Again, if errands involve the kids (picking up some new board games, picking up school supplies to get ready for the new year, etc), I'd be happy to do that during this time. |
Except nannies don't get promoted or advance. And the bonuses and raises we should get for merit and longevity don't materialize with many families, but we can't know when they will or won't until they don't. So, no... we'll stick to what we're contracted to do. Anything involving kids is totally fine, if my employer wants me to infect their kids and not take sick leave, I'm okay with that. But I'm not doing errands for my boss unless it's part of my contract or I'm paid extra. |
I'm with you on anything to do with the kids, not my employers. |
Oh, wonderful, please tell me how cushy my job is! Let's see: violence (hit with a lamp today), slp homework at home, ot homework at home, tutoring and/or homeschooling (not distance learning, I choose the pieces to fit the standards and expected progress for the year), helping kids learn to be independent, helping kids learn to recognize/name/manage emotions, etc. I go above and beyond... when it's to do with the kids, because that's my job. I spend hours that I'm *not* required to work researching, choosing and deciding how to implement things that help my charges. I am *not* doing my employer's laundry, shopping, cooking, cleaning, errands or anything else unless I'm contracted and paid for it. |
I used to be a nanny before I was a parent and now I employ a nanny. I have also waited tables, scrubbed toilets, worked fast food, retail, in restaurants. been a dog sitter/camp counselor/tutor, coached sports, worked in a day care, and more. I promise you, nannying is not the hardest job I’ve ever worked. Watching people’s kids is much better than standing on your feet for 8 hours in fast food with a line to the door, a hot oven going, and 2 15-minute breaks. Look, no one forced you to be a nanny. If you are no unhappy with your career profession, change it. |
I've waited tables, cashiered, run a gas station for 12 hour shifts without a break because I was the only one there, and a few others. However, nannying is by far the hardest thing I've ever done, mentally, emotionally, and sometimes physically. I'm thrilled with my profession. I just can't stand people saying it's an easy job, because it's not, not if it's done well by someone who cares about the children. |
Since this is primarily an employer’s section, I would not expect much support regarding “job creep.”
Yes, I think it is wonderful to go above + beyond to make someone else’s life easier. In theory. However as many Nannies I am sure can attest to - in the Nanny profession those that do a little extra for their employers are usually under appreciated for it. Worse > their employers often will expect these things as a given for the future & may decide to add on add’l tasks for the Nanny to complete. I can totally get why a Nanny may be hesitant to do a little extra for her family. There are just too many families out there that would take advantage of the situation rather than appreciate it. |
This 100+. |
I think there’s a big difference between asking her to add groceries to her normal duties (job creep), vs helping out for 1-2 weeks while she will have no other childcare duties. You talk about only doing things for the kids… do the kids not need to eat while they’re in quarantine? Would dropping off some crafts or other things to entertain sick kids not be “child-related duties”? I think it’s reasonable to ask a nanny to do these things when they are INSTEAD of normal duties rather than IN ADDITION TO.
It’s these type of “stress” situations that reveal how you feel about your nanny long-term. If this is someone amazing, then you look at this as a terrible inconvenience in your life that can’t be helped like most of Covid. If she is just so-so and you have been putting up with a lot of sub-optimal stuff for childcare, then you are probably pretty upset at her. Would her dropping off some groceries even make a difference in how you feel about the situation? I feel like there’s a good chance you would still be overwhelmed, as picking up groceries is a drop in the bucket. |
It’s not the hardest job. You are replacing a parent, who does all the extra stuff you refuse on top of everything else v |
Yep, they do the things I refuse: anything for the parents. I do everything for the child. |
Nanny here, Since Covid began, I have added Covid clauses to my employment contract(s) so families and Nannies fully understand expectations and agree in advance should Nanny or any family members get Covid. Its worked great! I am fully Vacc'd and double boosted and require proof of the same for all household members over age 5. I am paid and don't work if any family member gets Covid (guaranteed hrs), until entire family tests negative. If I get COVID, I am paid for up to ten paid days and return to work only after testing negative. These conditions have been revised to apply "per occurrence" as the family has contracted COVID multiple times. |
What happens if you bring Covid into the household and infect everyone? Asking because our nanny is traveling soon and will be visiting many family members, some of whom will be indoors and unvaccinated. |
So the answer is “no” then? Got it. Not sure why you typed all that irrelevant nonsense after it though. Weird. |