Potential Nanny doesn’t really need the job.

[Anonymous]

I love how she "was" a perfect match until you found out her family has more income than yours. Let her go to a family that will value her for her experience and skills. You felt she was worth the rate and agreed until you figured out who her husband is.

Should all women have to declare what their husband makes, and then employers decide how much the women are worth paying based on that?

[Anonymous]

OP, I honestly am not trying to be snarky here, but your logic regarding your prospective new Nanny is flawed.

If she is experienced + you click well w/her - then that is all that truly matters here.
Really.

You offered to pay her more.

Plus if she & her husband live in a nicer home than you > that does not mean she really does not need your money.
What you see is only the surface…..who truly knows any issues that may be going on w/their lives??

I honestly do not think you should hire this person.
Because due to your flawed dynamic of thinking, in time you will harbor much resentment towards this woman.
Unfair resentment.

[Anonymous]

Please send me her info so I can hire her. She sounds amazing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please send me her info so I can hire her. She sounds amazing!

You want to hire her because OP says she is educated, experienced and clicked very well? Lots of nannies are experienced and educated. But no every nanny click very well for any family. No every nanny is the perfect fit for every family and no every family it's the perfect fit for every nanny. You have to click each other. It's not just like " Please send me her inf so I can hire her?" Haha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please send me her info so I can hire her. She sounds amazing!

You want to hire her because OP says she is educated, experienced and clicked very well? Lots of nannies are experienced and educated. But no every nanny click very well for any family. No every nanny is the perfect fit for every family and no every family it's the perfect fit for every nanny. You have to click each other. It's not just like " Please send me her inf so I can hire her?" Haha!

It was just to make a point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please send me her info so I can hire her. She sounds amazing!

You want to hire her because OP says she is educated, experienced and clicked very well? Lots of nannies are experienced and educated. But no every nanny click very well for any family. No every nanny is the perfect fit for every family and no every family it's the perfect fit for every nanny. You have to click each other. It's not just like " Please send me her inf so I can hire her?" Haha!

It was just to make a point.

+1

[Anonymous]

I would have zero problem hiring someone with a higher net worth than me. But OP can you clarify why this rubbed your the wrong way? I assumed you meant that you were concerned she’d flake on you, since she doesn’t “need” the job. I suppose that might be a valid consideration, but ultimately, anyone can flake on a job at any time…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re in the process of hiring a nanny for our infant. We narrowed it down to one candidate who was a perfect match. She’s educated, experienced and we really clicked.

We recently realized she’s married to a man who works in the same industry as DH. DH has never met the man, he he’s well known and makes significantly more than we do combined.

I don’t know why but it just rubbed me the wrong way. We initially offered 2X an hour and she said her rate was 2X an hour ($2 an hour increase) and we agreed. Knowing she lives in a house worth twice what ours is worth, this just seems…wrong?

I do think due to her experience her requested pay makes sense, but I’d feel much better paying someone who actually needed the money. I feel like this is just a way to spend her time vs. a real need.

Wait, you agree that her rate makes sense for her experience but you think that it's ridiculous of her to work and earn a fair rate for her experience because she could afford to stay home and not work? What the hell?? Just don't hire her because your petty ass will probably be jealous of her and potentially treat her wrong due to your weird AF bias towards her.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny who inherited 1.5 million when I was 16. I’m in my 30’s now. Inherited a million more when I was 25. I didn’t touch the money until I bought a house for cash.

What do my finances have to do with my hourly wage? I’m not running a charity here. I’m in LA and charge $35-40/hr because I’m educated, honest, reliable, and worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re in the process of hiring a nanny for our infant. We narrowed it down to one candidate who was a perfect match. She’s educated, experienced and we really clicked.

We recently realized she’s married to a man who works in the same industry as DH. DH has never met the man, he he’s well known and makes significantly more than we do combined.

I don’t know why but it just rubbed me the wrong way. We initially offered 2X an hour and she said her rate was 2X an hour ($2 an hour increase) and we agreed. Knowing she lives in a house worth twice what ours is worth, this just seems…wrong?

I do think due to her experience her requested pay makes sense, but I’d feel much better paying someone who actually needed the money. I feel like this is just a way to spend her time vs. a real need.

Jackie Kennedy Onassis worked.
Sharon Rockefeller is president of WETA.

Not all wealthy people are lazy bums. It is to her credit that she wants to work and taking care of children is a definite asset the community.

[Anonymous]

I think we should cut the OP a little slack. I'd be slightly concerned about whether the nanny would jump if the job got a bit difficult.

Does she have prior long-term references?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we should cut the OP a little slack. I'd be slightly concerned about whether the nanny would jump if the job got a bit difficult.

Does she have prior long-term references?

OP would be a fool if she didn’t already know this.

[Anonymous]

A nanny that doesn’t need to work loves her job. As long as she’s qualified and you clicked, hire her although for her sake I hope you don’t so she can find someone that isn’t so narrow minded and seemingly envious.

[Anonymous]

The mom might thing this nanny doesn't need to work; but mostly she seems worried about hire someone who lives in a pretty good status like them. Same economic status. It's not about if the nanny is able to do her job or not. She must be great as OP says. I don't think there's a reason why no to hire her if she is the right fit for her family. But after OP found out about her economic status everything changed for the her. It's up to you OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom might thing this nanny doesn't need to work; but mostly she seems worried about hire someone who lives in a pretty good status like them. Same economic status. It's not about if the nanny is able to do her job or not. She must be great as OP says. I don't think there's a reason why no to hire her if she is the right fit for her family. But after OP found out about her economic status everything changed for the her. It's up to you OP.

You're probably correct. Nanny won't be subservient but her equal.