Weekend Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bad parent scenario is real. My sister, a former nurse, is now a weekend nanny. The family also has a M-F nanny. The parents simply have no interest in parenting. Both are big-law.

It is mean to assume these parents don't want to spend time with their kids or have no interest in parenting. Big-law often requires a lot of weekend work. I'm sure they would rather be with their kids, but they're probably just doing their best to make the choices that seem best for their family. Some parents take lower paying jobs and have more time with their kids, others want to have more resources to provide for their kids school and future. Others might be looking for a way out of big law and are just trying to get by until they can. Some parents in government jobs, medicine, etc. have to work big-law hours (or worse -- if you work at an agency dealing with the Ukraine crisis, you are probably working around the clock right now). They love spending time with their kids, wish they had more hours in the day, but also believe their work is important and want to set a good example to their kids of contributing positively to the world. I believe most parents are making choices for their kids and what they think is best.

Also, if big chunks of the weekends are spent shuttling kids to activities and friends houses, big law parents might be thinking it makes more financial sense to outsource the driving and work during those times. Every time I spend an hour in the car listening to the radio while I drive to and from school or activities, I think of how my time could have been better spent doing a dozen other things and wish I could pay someone to do that driving.

I agree with all of this

[Anonymous]

As Jackie Kennedy once opened:. "if you bungle raising your children, whatever else you do doesn't matter.". A nanny M-F and another nanny for week ends, is unforgivable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The bad parent scenario is real. My sister, a former nurse, is now a weekend nanny. The family also has a M-F nanny. The parents simply have no interest in parenting. Both are big-law.

It is mean to assume these parents don't want to spend time with their kids or have no interest in parenting. Big-law often requires a lot of weekend work. I'm sure they would rather be with their kids, but they're probably just doing their best to make the choices that seem best for their family. Some parents take lower paying jobs and have more time with their kids, others want to have more resources to provide for their kids school and future. Others might be looking for a way out of big law and are just trying to get by until they can. Some parents in government jobs, medicine, etc. have to work big-law hours (or worse -- if you work at an agency dealing with the Ukraine crisis, you are probably working around the clock right now). They love spending time with their kids, wish they had more hours in the day, but also believe their work is important and want to set a good example to their kids of contributing positively to the world. I believe most parents are making choices for their kids and what they think is best.

Also, if big chunks of the weekends are spent shuttling kids to activities and friends houses, big law parents might be thinking it makes more financial sense to outsource the driving and work during those times. Every time I spend an hour in the car listening to the radio while I drive to and from school or activities, I think of how my time could have been better spent doing a dozen other things and wish I could pay someone to do that driving.

I agree with all of this

We make time for the things that are important to us and, obviously, their children are not their top priority.

[Anonymous]

Agree with the poor, disinterested parenting. I am a teacher and we teachers know who these kids are within minutes.