Unpaid time off during summer

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Seven weeks is a long time. I think your options here are:

1. Get a temporary gig for the summer and go back to them in the fall.

2. Start looking for a new family.

Were you expecting to be paid for two months while not working? They *definitely* should have raised this with you directly and let you know that they can't employ you for the summer, but it is equally weird to expect to be paid for that long when the children are gone.

Op here
No I didnt expect to be paid for no work but I think you misred my post. The older ones are here during summer, they will be gone in the fall. So this “we don’t need you” during summer is kind of from left field. I expected to have my hours possibly reduced but still work and possibly having 2 or 3 weeks off because I know they will all travel as a family and go away at some point on vacation. I didn't anticipate not working at all. They paid me thru 10 weeks of covid last year so yeah I find this odd that she wants to furlough me and still expect me to be available in the fall. Im weighing my options

If the older kids are college age, moving away and the youngest is 12 they really don't need you and its time to find a new job. She should pay you through covid as you could work and she choose not to have your come. Same as now. She should pay you during their vacations as well if this is a full time job. A 12 year old really only needs a driver before/after school.

12yo may need a tutor, but unless OP's boss is gone overnight frequently, I'm not sure why a 12yo still has a nanny.

The 2 older kids may be going to boarding school or moving in with the other parent in the fall. Regardless, they are older than 12yo and don't need a nanny.

If the parents work or aren't involved, a 12 year old needs someone to monitor them, drive them to activities, make sure they are fed, etc. But, they don't need a full time nanny in the fall except if its a 3-overnight or 3-10PM shift or something. I would assume the older ones are in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seven weeks is a long time. I think your options here are:

1. Get a temporary gig for the summer and go back to them in the fall.

2. Start looking for a new family.

Were you expecting to be paid for two months while not working? They *definitely* should have raised this with you directly and let you know that they can't employ you for the summer, but it is equally weird to expect to be paid for that long when the children are gone.

Op here
No I didnt expect to be paid for no work but I think you misred my post. The older ones are here during summer, they will be gone in the fall. So this “we don’t need you” during summer is kind of from left field. I expected to have my hours possibly reduced but still work and possibly having 2 or 3 weeks off because I know they will all travel as a family and go away at some point on vacation. I didn't anticipate not working at all. They paid me thru 10 weeks of covid last year so yeah I find this odd that she wants to furlough me and still expect me to be available in the fall. Im weighing my options

If the older kids are college age, moving away and the youngest is 12 they really don't need you and its time to find a new job. She should pay you through covid as you could work and she choose not to have your come. Same as now. She should pay you during their vacations as well if this is a full time job. A 12 year old really only needs a driver before/after school.

12yo may need a tutor, but unless OP's boss is gone overnight frequently, I'm not sure why a 12yo still has a nanny.

The 2 older kids may be going to boarding school or moving in with the other parent in the fall. Regardless, they are older than 12yo and don't need a nanny.

If the parents work or aren't involved, a 12 year old needs someone to monitor them, drive them to activities, make sure they are fed, etc. But, they don't need a full time nanny in the fall except if its a 3-overnight or 3-10PM shift or something. I would assume the older ones are in college.

A 12yo is capable of getting their own snack and dinner, doing their own homework and does not need someone home with them for 2-3 hours unless there are SN. In addition, they are capable of using metro or a bus, if it's close enough, but I agree that most parents don't think about public transit for tweens and teens when they purchase their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seven weeks is a long time. I think your options here are:

1. Get a temporary gig for the summer and go back to them in the fall.

2. Start looking for a new family.

Were you expecting to be paid for two months while not working? They *definitely* should have raised this with you directly and let you know that they can't employ you for the summer, but it is equally weird to expect to be paid for that long when the children are gone.

Op here
No I didnt expect to be paid for no work but I think you misred my post. The older ones are here during summer, they will be gone in the fall. So this “we don’t need you” during summer is kind of from left field. I expected to have my hours possibly reduced but still work and possibly having 2 or 3 weeks off because I know they will all travel as a family and go away at some point on vacation. I didn't anticipate not working at all. They paid me thru 10 weeks of covid last year so yeah I find this odd that she wants to furlough me and still expect me to be available in the fall. Im weighing my options

If the older kids are college age, moving away and the youngest is 12 they really don't need you and its time to find a new job. She should pay you through covid as you could work and she choose not to have your come. Same as now. She should pay you during their vacations as well if this is a full time job. A 12 year old really only needs a driver before/after school.

12yo may need a tutor, but unless OP's boss is gone overnight frequently, I'm not sure why a 12yo still has a nanny.

The 2 older kids may be going to boarding school or moving in with the other parent in the fall. Regardless, they are older than 12yo and don't need a nanny.

If the parents work or aren't involved, a 12 year old needs someone to monitor them, drive them to activities, make sure they are fed, etc. But, they don't need a full time nanny in the fall except if its a 3-overnight or 3-10PM shift or something. I would assume the older ones are in college.

A 12yo is capable of getting their own snack and dinner, doing their own homework and does not need someone home with them for 2-3 hours unless there are SN. In addition, they are capable of using metro or a bus, if it's close enough, but I agree that most parents don't think about public transit for tweens and teens when they purchase their home.

Most people don’t let a 12 year old on transportation nor is it always accessible. And you are basically saying the 12 year old should fully care for themselves. They still need supervision. But, this job sounds over.

[Anonymous]

As much as we sacrifice and love the relationship with
parents and kids, it time to cut the umbilical cord. Realistically you can't stay there forever. I know it's hard and went through the same thing. Time to move on like others have stated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seven weeks is a long time. I think your options here are:

1. Get a temporary gig for the summer and go back to them in the fall.

2. Start looking for a new family.

Were you expecting to be paid for two months while not working? They *definitely* should have raised this with you directly and let you know that they can't employ you for the summer, but it is equally weird to expect to be paid for that long when the children are gone.

Op here
No I didnt expect to be paid for no work but I think you misred my post. The older ones are here during summer, they will be gone in the fall. So this “we don’t need you” during summer is kind of from left field. I expected to have my hours possibly reduced but still work and possibly having 2 or 3 weeks off because I know they will all travel as a family and go away at some point on vacation. I didn't anticipate not working at all. They paid me thru 10 weeks of covid last year so yeah I find this odd that she wants to furlough me and still expect me to be available in the fall. Im weighing my options

If the older kids are college age, moving away and the youngest is 12 they really don't need you and its time to find a new job. She should pay you through covid as you could work and she choose not to have your come. Same as now. She should pay you during their vacations as well if this is a full time job. A 12 year old really only needs a driver before/after school.

12yo may need a tutor, but unless OP's boss is gone overnight frequently, I'm not sure why a 12yo still has a nanny.

The 2 older kids may be going to boarding school or moving in with the other parent in the fall. Regardless, they are older than 12yo and don't need a nanny.

If the parents work or aren't involved, a 12 year old needs someone to monitor them, drive them to activities, make sure they are fed, etc. But, they don't need a full time nanny in the fall except if its a 3-overnight or 3-10PM shift or something. I would assume the older ones are in college.

A 12yo is capable of getting their own snack and dinner, doing their own homework and does not need someone home with them for 2-3 hours unless there are SN. In addition, they are capable of using metro or a bus, if it's close enough, but I agree that most parents don't think about public transit for tweens and teens when they purchase their home.

Most people don’t let a 12 year old on transportation nor is it always accessible. And you are basically saying the 12 year old should fully care for themselves. They still need supervision. But, this job sounds over.

13yo can babysit. 12yo can stay home a line for a few hours...

[Anonymous]

OP, considering we are going to be in summer very soon - did you even receive adequate notice here….??!

It seems your boss just told you this unexpectedly.

I wouldn’t be too happy if I were you, this would put a bad taste in my mouth.

I would seek a new, permanent position.
You may need her as your reference so you likely will have to stay on good terms w/her.

So sorry.
I wish you the best of luck!

[Anonymous]

OP! Come work for me, with paid our last nanny 4 months to just stay home and stay safe during the initial period in the pandemic!

This lady is a coward and you are smart to read between all the lines including about next fall.