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Anonymous wrote:I agree with the previous poster, only pay if needed for the children. Otherwise provide a stipend for Uber/lyft if you are comfortable letting her ride in car during pandemic ( we aren't). Anything above/beyond Uber that would be her responsibility.

So, how does the AP get around if you don’t let her drive or take Uber? If you make her take a bus or metro, that’s some sick logic.

It is "sick logic" that I expect her to take the same bus or metro that I use to get to work? You cannot be serious. For all the "member of the family" expectations that au pairs have... the actual members of my family take Metro regularly. You're not getting treated better than my actual children, sweetheart.

The misogyny is real up in here. You won't let her take uber/lyft with her own money. Yup. That's sick. And the bus is hardly more sterile. Yikes.

What is up with the new troll on this board who absurdly claims anything host parents do is "racism" or "misogyny"? I know you think you "win" by saying that, but it just makes it clear that you have no serious argument. Who said she can't spend her own money for Uber? No one. You made that up to have something to cry about. That is literally what my toddlers do.

[Anonymous]

One on the people who doesn't let au pair ride in car with others where you cannot be 6 feet apart. Au pair can walk places, take the bicycle and ride places, or I will drive them/drop off pick up if and when it's arranged within a certain distance of our house. No public transport for "pleasure" it's one thing if it's required/essential for work to take bus/metro, but this is not for pleasure travel during a global pandemic.

We don't do it and expect au pair to follow to rules the rest of the family does. Signed family of physicians who follow covid science.

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I would invest heavily ($500-$600) + my time to give her more driving lessons, to get her to drive.

Even if I do not need a driver (which we do not), her being able to drive to meet friends (outside,
Socially distanced) is critical for her mental health / happiness (IMO).

We do not allow our Au pair to take Uber, or to ride in the car of any other Au Pairs, so if our Au pair could not drive she would essentially be “stuck” at the house / limited to
A few mile radius around the house. This is not sustainable for the long term IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One on the people who doesn't let au pair ride in car with others where you cannot be 6 feet apart. Au pair can walk places, take the bicycle and ride places, or I will drive them/drop off pick up if and when it's arranged within a certain distance of our house. No public transport for "pleasure" it's one thing if it's required/essential for work to take bus/metro, but this is not for pleasure travel during a global pandemic.

We don't do it and expect au pair to follow to rules the rest of the family does. Signed family of physicians who follow covid science.

Your version of "covid science," apparently. It's explicitly against what Fauci recommended. I think you have outed yourself though, because you have lost several au pairs during the pandemic - also b/c you didn't buy them enough food, cold weather gear. Trust that APs talk (as do LCCs).