Au pair walks

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You cannot bar her from taking a walk with a friend.

I disagree. We’re seriously social distancing meaning minimizing all non-essential contact with anyone other than household members. Our au pairs doesn’t get an exception. I’m fine with rematch if she decides she needs to go out and meet with others.

It sounds like it would be better and healthier to be with a more emotionally stable host family.

Um, this is actually what has been ordered by Mayor Bowser and the governors of Maryland and Virginia.

No walks with another AP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot bar her from taking a walk with a friend.

I disagree. We’re seriously social distancing meaning minimizing all non-essential contact with anyone other than household members. Our au pairs doesn’t get an exception. I’m fine with rematch if she decides she needs to go out and meet with others.

It sounds like it would be better and healthier to be with a more emotionally stable host family.

NP. Seriously? do you know the history of this family? It is easy to call people names in an anonymous forum because u have different opinion! I don't understand how people can go for a walk together while staying 6 feet apart. How are they going to chat? I will probably say no as well. It is almost better for the other AP to just come in the front of the house and they can chat while staying 6 feet apart (like many of our neighbors do), she can also go for a walk on her own or with any member of the family, but with someone else it is not feasible while been safe! Keep in mind, everyone has their risk tolerance.

Also of course she could do that without asking, she will be breaking the rule and opening herself to going into immediate rematch! Nobody should be pressured into doing something they are not comfortable with.

She is an adult woman. She needs access to sunlight and exercise and emotional support that she is not getting from her host family/jailers. Our LCC sent an email reminding families to allow their APs to exercise and have social interactions.

NP. an LCC encouraging "social interactions" in person right now is irresponsible. That's the opposite of what social DISTANCING means. Over Facetime or WhatsApp- fine. but out in person - no. Exercise, sure. But only with people from your 'immediate family' which right now means the host family.

Listen - this sucks. For everyone. But everywhere in the world this is happening. So we all need to grin and bear it, even our au pairs. Our very mature au pair totally gets it and is doing whatever needs to be done to help from a public health standpoint. She's been amazing.

Let the LCC host the AP during the rematch period then. It's part of her job when the HF is "unreasonable."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot bar her from taking a walk with a friend.

I disagree. We’re seriously social distancing meaning minimizing all non-essential contact with anyone other than household members. Our au pairs doesn’t get an exception. I’m fine with rematch if she decides she needs to go out and meet with others.

It sounds like it would be better and healthier to be with a more emotionally stable host family.

NP. Seriously? do you know the history of this family? It is easy to call people names in an anonymous forum because u have different opinion! I don't understand how people can go for a walk together while staying 6 feet apart. How are they going to chat? I will probably say no as well. It is almost better for the other AP to just come in the front of the house and they can chat while staying 6 feet apart (like many of our neighbors do), she can also go for a walk on her own or with any member of the family, but with someone else it is not feasible while been safe! Keep in mind, everyone has their risk tolerance.

Also of course she could do that without asking, she will be breaking the rule and opening herself to going into immediate rematch! Nobody should be pressured into doing something they are not comfortable with.

She is an adult woman. She needs access to sunlight and exercise and emotional support that she is not getting from her host family/jailers. Our LCC sent an email reminding families to allow their APs to exercise and have social interactions.

NP. an LCC encouraging "social interactions" in person right now is irresponsible. That's the opposite of what social DISTANCING means. Over Facetime or WhatsApp- fine. but out in person - no. Exercise, sure. But only with people from your 'immediate family' which right now means the host family.

Listen - this sucks. For everyone. But everywhere in the world this is happening. So we all need to grin and bear it, even our au pairs. Our very mature au pair totally gets it and is doing whatever needs to be done to help from a public health standpoint. She's been amazing.

Let the LCC host the AP during the rematch period then. It's part of her job when the HF is "unreasonable."

How is obeying a state government mandate to 'stay at home' unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot bar her from taking a walk with a friend.

I disagree. We’re seriously social distancing meaning minimizing all non-essential contact with anyone other than household members. Our au pairs doesn’t get an exception. I’m fine with rematch if she decides she needs to go out and meet with others.

It sounds like it would be better and healthier to be with a more emotionally stable host family.

NP. Seriously? do you know the history of this family? It is easy to call people names in an anonymous forum because u have different opinion! I don't understand how people can go for a walk together while staying 6 feet apart. How are they going to chat? I will probably say no as well. It is almost better for the other AP to just come in the front of the house and they can chat while staying 6 feet apart (like many of our neighbors do), she can also go for a walk on her own or with any member of the family, but with someone else it is not feasible while been safe! Keep in mind, everyone has their risk tolerance.

Also of course she could do that without asking, she will be breaking the rule and opening herself to going into immediate rematch! Nobody should be pressured into doing something they are not comfortable with.

She is an adult woman. She needs access to sunlight and exercise and emotional support that she is not getting from her host family/jailers. Our LCC sent an email reminding families to allow their APs to exercise and have social interactions.

NP. an LCC encouraging "social interactions" in person right now is irresponsible. That's the opposite of what social DISTANCING means. Over Facetime or WhatsApp- fine. but out in person - no. Exercise, sure. But only with people from your 'immediate family' which right now means the host family.

Listen - this sucks. For everyone. But everywhere in the world this is happening. So we all need to grin and bear it, even our au pairs. Our very mature au pair totally gets it and is doing whatever needs to be done to help from a public health standpoint. She's been amazing.

Let the LCC host the AP during the rematch period then. It's part of her job when the HF is "unreasonable."

How is obeying a state government mandate to 'stay at home' unreasonable?

I think PP was being sarcastic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You cannot bar her from taking a walk with a friend.

I disagree. We’re seriously social distancing meaning minimizing all non-essential contact with anyone other than household members. Our au pairs doesn’t get an exception. I’m fine with rematch if she decides she needs to go out and meet with others.

It sounds like it would be better and healthier to be with a more emotionally stable host family.

NP. Seriously? do you know the history of this family? It is easy to call people names in an anonymous forum because u have different opinion! I don't understand how people can go for a walk together while staying 6 feet apart. How are they going to chat? I will probably say no as well. It is almost better for the other AP to just come in the front of the house and they can chat while staying 6 feet apart (like many of our neighbors do), she can also go for a walk on her own or with any member of the family, but with someone else it is not feasible while been safe! Keep in mind, everyone has their risk tolerance.

Also of course she could do that without asking, she will be breaking the rule and opening herself to going into immediate rematch! Nobody should be pressured into doing something they are not comfortable with.

She is an adult woman. She needs access to sunlight and exercise and emotional support that she is not getting from her host family/jailers. Our LCC sent an email reminding families to allow their APs to exercise and have social interactions.

NP. an LCC encouraging "social interactions" in person right now is irresponsible. That's the opposite of what social DISTANCING means. Over Facetime or WhatsApp- fine. but out in person - no. Exercise, sure. But only with people from your 'immediate family' which right now means the host family.

Listen - this sucks. For everyone. But everywhere in the world this is happening. So we all need to grin and bear it, even our au pairs. Our very mature au pair totally gets it and is doing whatever needs to be done to help from a public health standpoint. She's been amazing.

Let the LCC host the AP during the rematch period then. It's part of her job when the HF is "unreasonable."

How is obeying a state government mandate to 'stay at home' unreasonable?

I think PP was being sarcastic.

Yes, hence the quotes. Sorry to be ambiguous.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Of course I would. Ask them to wear bandanas if you want.

I love that people here want to impose more restrictions than the experts.

[Anonymous]

If you do allow, just be clear what you’re allowing. We thought we were clear about walks but a walk turned into an overnight with a boyfriend. (Pre- lockdown but still very unfortunate)

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t allow it-even if she agrees to stay 6 feet apart, I’m sure there will be times when they are 3 feet or 4 feet apart. Even with best intentions, it’s hard to stay 6 feet apart when walking.
If you need to be social, do what the rest of us are doing-zoom happy hours, FaceTime, whatsapp, or sitting 6 feet apart on the lawn talking. The longer people don’t abide by social distancing, the longer the rest of us will have to stay holed up at home. Everyone just needs to get with the program so we can be done with this sooner.

[Anonymous]

I’m walking with a friend. We gave our phones set to speaker and we’re on separate sides of the street. Works perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Of course I would. Ask them to wear bandanas if you want.

I love that people here want to impose more restrictions than the experts.

Who are these experts? The ones who said it wouldn't spread person to person OR get out of China (WHO)? The ones who said asymptomatic spread was very minor, if it happened at all (CDC), the one who said masks weren't needed (Surgeon General).

It makes a lot of sense to me to be more conservative than what the experts recommend because they are motivated by more than public health and they just don't know enough to be accurate. Not to mention financial and political considerations

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m walking with a friend. We gave our phones set to speaker and we’re on separate sides of the street. Works perfectly.

Great idea, let's hope some of the nutter, jailer-HF types find their moral compasses and think of the emotional/physical health of their APs.

[Anonymous]

absolutely not and you better damn well believe that I will rematch over this too. I have an immunocompromised child. My husband is staying in a hotel because he sees covid patients. Don't like this, go home. I don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:absolutely not and you better damn well believe that I will rematch over this too. I have an immunocompromised child. My husband is staying in a hotel because he sees covid patients. Don't like this, go home. I don't care.

You actually cannot send her home, you can send her into rematch for a less "special needs" family, tho.

[Anonymous]

I have no issues with out AuPair walking with a friend outdoors. Just no indoor time at anyone's house. However I'm also someone who goes to the grocery store 2xs a week and I don't have a mask. So I'm clearly not that anxious about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no issues with out AuPair walking with a friend outdoors. Just no indoor time at anyone's house. However I'm also someone who goes to the grocery store 2xs a week and I don't have a mask. So I'm clearly not that anxious about this.

Good for you! you are so brave