Au pair only eats junk food

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you see she gains weight just tell her nicely, like a mom would say it to her daughter Apart from that there's not much you can do.

I think k this is great advice if your AuPair is blind. If not, and she has a mirror, I think she will be aware of her weight gain.

[Anonymous]

We only match with northern Europeans. This is the first year we have had an unhealthy eater. Typical day:
Breakfast: Recees Puffs or fruity pebbles cereal (she has an AP credit card and buys this garbage)
Cookies afterwards
Lunch: Nutella and Banana Sandwich. More cookies, and some leftover halloween candy
Chips all afternoon
Dinner: whatever I'm serving with all vegetables picked out. Won't eat at all of there is seafood. If I serve pasta I have to set some plain on the side for her with butter.

A bowl of ice cream.

I know this because I work from home and have school aged kids so I see a good amount of her during the day. She also has her own special cabinet in the kitchen absolutely brimming with garbage (including marshmallow fluff)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you see she gains weight just tell her nicely, like a mom would say it to her daughter Apart from that there's not much you can do.

I think k this is great advice if your AuPair is blind. If not, and she has a mirror, I think she will be aware of her weight gain.

This is not great advice if you are blind either.... you certainly don't need to be sighted to know if you've gained weight. if your pants have become too tight to button, you might want to think about your food choices.

[Anonymous]

That's really gross, but I wouldn't say anything. Virtually all these girls believe that the American diet is full of junk and some use that as an excuse to eat junk. We had a German ap that packed on 30 lbs in a year.

[Anonymous]

Particularly if you have daughters, bitchy, fat-shaming HF behavior is internalized by your kids, so if you must do it (e.g., because you want to feel better about your own slovenliness), make sure to set aside money for tween/teen therapy as your kids grapple with inter Alia eating disorders/coping with hyper vigilant narcissistic parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We only match with northern Europeans. This is the first year we have had an unhealthy eater. Typical day:
Breakfast: Recees Puffs or fruity pebbles cereal (she has an AP credit card and buys this garbage)
Cookies afterwards
Lunch: Nutella and Banana Sandwich. More cookies, and some leftover halloween candy
Chips all afternoon
Dinner: whatever I'm serving with all vegetables picked out. Won't eat at all of there is seafood. If I serve pasta I have to set some plain on the side for her with butter.

A bowl of ice cream.

I know this because I work from home and have school aged kids so I see a good amount of her during the day. She also has her own special cabinet in the kitchen absolutely brimming with garbage (including marshmallow fluff)

What a judgmental host mom you sound. If you are working from home shouldn't you be focusing on you know, your work and what you are paid for, instead of what your AP eats?

She is an ADULT, and it might seem a foreign concept to you but adults are entitled to eat whatever they want. If you think she is eating too much, then feel free to give her an acceptable food budget but you have no right to control what she eats. Your kids, if they are school aged, are old enough to understand that ''as adults, they will be able to eat what they want too, but in the meantime they have to eat what's on the table'' like we all did at their age.

Your AP's weight is absolutely none of your business as is her diet. If she is fine with her weight and what she eats then I suggest you let her be.

No wonder some kids and teenager develop massive eating disorders when some people feel so entitled to controlling other people's food intake.

I think you picked the wrong country to raise your kids in if bad eating habits and obesity are a massive fear of yours, this country is riddled with it, so I think your European AP gaining a few pounds throughout her year due to junk food isn't the worst example they'll have been exposed to.