Nanny is late regularly

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been late to anything in my life ever. I always leave early, like 20 minutes to an hr early.

Ask her if there is a reason she can’t leave 15 minutes earlier each day. Honestly this is unexceptional to me and I would replace her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My start time is 8. I leave my house at 7am and end up sitting in my car for 30mins outside until my start time, just in case anything happens with traffic. Maybe once in 8 years there’s been traffic and I needed those 30 minsZ I still leave that buffer just in case. If I took the metro, I’d use a buffer then sit at the metro or a cafe until start time. Your nanny is irresponsible and doesn’t respect your time.

Well that’s extreme! I understand leaving early but sitting in a car for 30mins on a regular basis is plain stupid

It isn’t stupid - it’s professional. I am always early too but usually go right in and start work. A nanny is the first in the chain - if she is late then the parents are late. If the parents are late their appointments/ clients/ patients are late.

As an MB, this would annoy me. 5 min no issues. More than 15 min? I'm probably still getting ready and half dressed. Plus I don't want to pay OT just because you're early

I don’t charge my employers when I choose to be early. And it’s a huge help to them. I wouldn’t do it if I sensed it was an inconvenience.

[Anonymous]

She needs to be on an earlier train. Or find another job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My start time is 8. I leave my house at 7am and end up sitting in my car for 30mins outside until my start time, just in case anything happens with traffic. Maybe once in 8 years there’s been traffic and I needed those 30 minsZ I still leave that buffer just in case. If I took the metro, I’d use a buffer then sit at the metro or a cafe until start time. Your nanny is irresponsible and doesn’t respect your time.

Well that’s extreme! I understand leaving early but sitting in a car for 30mins on a regular basis is plain stupid

Well this stupid nanny has been at the same job for 8 years now. Guess it must be working for me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you are late for work you will be out of a job. If you are out of a job, then she will be as well. Her being late more than a few times a year is not an option. It is not out of her hands. She needs to come up with a way to be on time, or find other employment.

This.

You don't have to say it quite this baldly to her, but pretty close. "Jane, when you're late - I'm late. When I'm late my boss notices and my colleagues notice and it's bad for me. You need to allow sufficient time to get here on time, or we will need to change your hours so that the day starts earlier. Which would be easier for you?"

Umm, no. OP does not need to pay her nanny extra; the nanny needs to figure out a way to be on time, just like the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never been late to anything in my life ever. I always leave early, like 20 minutes to an hr early.

Ask her if there is a reason she can’t leave 15 minutes earlier each day. Honestly this is unexceptional to me and I would replace her.

I buffer at least half my expected commute time. In the past 15 years, I’ve been late twice. Once was in the middle of a blizzard; police closed the highway and there was an accident blocking my way through on a side road. The other one involved a train parking on the tracks and blocking everybody from crossing sides of town.

There are NO acceptable reasons for being late, imo. I grew up with the adage that if you arrived early, you were on time, but if you arrived on time, you’d be late starting. Idc what I’m doing or where I’m going, I’m always early, and I carry hints to do with kids (as well as a book for me!).

[Anonymous]

I am not a nanny but have a long commute. We have kids and leave “early” (as in it seems ridiculous it would take that long to get to work) everyday so that we can be assured arrival at all schools and day care and work on time. I have been to work 30 to 45 minutes early many times because surprise! Traffic is easy. More often it is normal horrific and I am on time. Sometimes I am late because traffic in this area.

When early I might sit outside daycare and play with my kid. Maybe I go to Starbucks or go for a walk. Maybe I sit in my car at work or just sit in my office. Sometimes I just get started on the day.

If your Nanny is consistently late three times a week she is lot leaving early enough. She is not estimating correctly how long it takes to get to work.

I’d giver her one more firm warning and that would be that. You have to wonder/stress each morning and that is not worth it.

[Anonymous]

Definitely sit her down and tell her that by now she has ample evidence that trains are often delayed and she needs to PLAN for that and arrive on time. No more excuses, unacceptable, and it is entirely within her control because SHE controls whether she allows herself enough time to account for what appear to be expected and not unusual delays. (If there are delays 60% of the time, then delay is “normal” state - PLAN FOR IT).

Seriously firm conversation and no more job if she continues to be late. There are plenty of great nannies who arrive on time.