It’s not cheap, but we love the program. I did the math, and it costs us 30k+. But we have the APs speak my home country language to the kids and that is priceless. We send our kids to preschool, so after all is said and done, it is pretty expensive. Still, we love the energy that these young women bring with them. Still if a nanny were an option for us, I would seriously consider it. |
It’s a thought experiment to teach you people the economics of the labor force but you people are unteachable. |
Cheap relative to what, that is the question. Yes it’s much more than less convenient care like before and aftercare. But dirt cheap relative to a nanny who will work a flexible schedule. |
Daycare is cheaper with one kid. At least in my area. |
"The market rate" is the cheapest rate you can find an after-school nanny for in your area. So "market rate" in this case is obviously not $25/hour (because in that case PP would have found somebody to take the job). It may be $30/hr or $40/hr. Or it may be paying somebody for a full-time position and only asking them to work from 4 - 7 pm. Nobody said "market rate for after-school nannies is $100/hour" but if that is the cheapest you can find somebody for the job? Then yes, it might be.
- get a non-driver. No need for $600 driving lessons if you can make do with a non-driver. Also, not all APs need $600 driving lessons. Screen for APs from a country with strong driving and somebody with plenty of experience driving. - no need for $150 linens/towels. Linens/towels can be used for more than two years and don't have to be fancy if you really want to provide your AP with new linens/towels (Walmart, Target, Ikea...). - welcome gifts are your choice. Yes, they are appreciated. But they are not a prerequisite. - yes, insurance is expensive. Are you talking car insurance? Cf. point one - get a non-driver, don't require AP to drive. - again, your choice. Yes, appreciated, but not a prerequisite. - I don't have a $300 phone. My husband doesn't have a $300 phone. Next. Thing is... no, having an AP is not "cheap" childcare. It can be inexpensive childcare, depending on where you live and how many children you have. If you have one child and live in Bumfuck Nowhere where daycare is $150/week or where you can get a after-school nanny for $15/hr, who is flexible to pitch in on snow days, sick days, teacher days, vacation days you can't cover etc., yes, having an AP might be more expensive than other childcare options. Living in a high-cost area? Three or four children? Yes, having an AP may be the more sensible decision, financially. I was an AP in Bumfuck. My HM also told me how much money they were saving when comparing having an AP to full-time daycare for a toddler plus before and after care for three (pre)teens plus summer camp (plus a babysitter for snow days, sick days...). You are making expensive choices and calculate them as "AP cost." It doesn't work that way. If you buy a $60,000 car for your AP to drive, you cannot say your AP cost you $60,000. If you decide to buy a $2,000,000 6br/4bath home, eventhough you only need one extra bedroom for your AP and only have one child (and could make do with a 4br/2.5bath for $500,000), you cannot calculate that as AP cost. If you decide to take your AP on a two-week trip to Disney, you cannot complain that your AP is so expensive. You cannot decide to buy a $300 phone and complain that having an AP is not cheap. No, it is not cheap. The agency fee is not cheap, the educational stipend is not cheap (so it hasn't been raised in at least 20 years, which is ridiculous), housing and feeding her is not cheap. But depending on where you are and what you need, it may be less expensive (and more flexible) than other options you have. You are making expensive choices. Some are nice choices, good choices and the right choices - but they are still something you decide on. You have the option to make other choices. They may inconvenience you. But they exist. Having a child is a privilege. It's something millions of people on this planet can either not afford or just cannot have due to infertility. Being able to put your child in daycare, daycare even existing, is a privilege. Having the luxury to worry if you can put your child in daycare instead of having to quit your job to care for it is a privilege. Being able to hire a young foreigner to watch you child, in your home, without you having to take your tired 2-year old to daycare at 6 am and pick them up at 6 pm, having to go to the grocery store, washing LO's clothes, cleaning their room, entertaining them in the evening when you are tired, cooking dinner, taking time off for sick days (and if you have your child in daycare you know how frequent those will be, especially in young children), struggling to find somebody to watch your child on snow days, having to cover months of summer break with different camps (and having to take your young child to day camp in the morning)... is a privilege. Having an AP is a privilege. It's something millions of people cannot afford. It's like offering your AP a $300 phone or the possibility to drive your car. It's a privilege. And privileges come at a price. That's the way life is. If you don't want to pay for it? Don't. But don't complain about choices you make. And no, having an AP is not cheap. It's inexpensive at best and sometimes not even that. But it's a choice. And it's your choices that make it more and more expensive. You can find cheap? Go for it. You can find higher quality? Go for it. And if you can't afford it, you can't afford it. Remeber, it's a choice. And a privilege. Free market. You can go wherever whenever. |
You missed the part where I said they already go to private school. This calculation is solely based on the hours that we absolutely need childcare, so summers and breaks. Sure, we use the AP during the school year to pack lunches in the morning, etc., but that part is not necessary in the way we require summer childcare. If our non-public school age kids were stuck with an AP all day, we'd be highly dissatisfied with the program. APs are sufficient childcare to keep the kids alive and (mostly) safe. They're not Master's degree in childhood education nannies. Sometimes APs barely speak adequate English. Therefore, we spend the $$$ on expensive private education and have left our oldest in the same school (who has been eligible for public school) for ease. These are the choices we've been privileged to make. However, my original point stands that APs are NOT "cheap" childcare for even a family with 3 kids. "Cheap" childcare may simply not exist in the DC area unless you devalue a SAHM enough to call it the "cheapest" option (which I don't). |
Are you the french AP? your posts are always funny lol Anyway I agree with most of what you said. To your points: - My current AP is a bad driver and she is been taking public transportation, many of her AP friends don't drive, THIS is saving me a few thousand of $, so i will not require next AP to drive. My high real-estate price for DC should be worth something! - I got AP a used Iphone 6s (which is what I have) for $50 on CL and her phone bill with simple mobile is $25/month - I have 3 kids so it is totally worth it, when I had two kids I did daycare (2 kids in school). - I get AP new Lines from Walmart for less than $30 - Welcome gift of about $100 but I spread the gift cards within the first few weeks. So the AP is not as cheap as people think but it is what you make of it! I have acquaintances thinking an AP just come to your house and live for free, eat your food and take care of your kids. They don't know about the almost $10K agency fees and another $10k AP wages you have to pay etc |
We found that daycare was cheaper once our child was 3 years. The daycare rates drop considerably and switching to a daycare that offered a 15% discount to federal employees made more sense. With the discount, the price for a 3 year old was just under $1200 at a major daycare chain near metro stop in suburban Maryland (DC area). This was in 2017
We are now considering an au pair again so that our child can have more time to sleep in the morning before school and so that we have an extra set of hands to help with our youngest in the evenings. Our kids (we have an older child that doesn't require child care) like having an au pair. We will pay a touch under $600 per month for before and after for thr youngest, and fulltime summer camp in our suburban neighborhood is a very low $250/week including before and aftercare. So for us, adding an au pair is an additional $1200 per month. |
PP 07:17 — you nailed it! Thank you!
AP is not cheap as any childcare is not cheap, but it is a reasonable option for some. I think what OP wanted to say is that AP costs more than $4/hr or the advertised total cost by agencies. Agree with that. We had nannies for close to 10 years (3 kids) and nannies ran us about $42-45K per year with taxes and all for about 47 hrs/week with purely business hours coverage. I could probably now find a person with flexibility to cover breaks/pre/after hours reliably if I’d pay similar amount per year. I think my APs cost me about $32-35K per year including family vacations (my choice! Worth it!), fancy gym membership (again my choice! I host BPs and that’s what makes them happy), car insurance, taking them out every time we go out, etc. Our first BP became truly part of our family, and this is priceless. Somehow I never got that bond with either of our our 4 nannies... I totally get that this was my choice, and I have to confess I started the AP route because of advertised cost and the fact that I needed someone reliable to take kids to the after school activities, and flexibility. I stayed because of the experience, loving my BPs, and honestly not wanting to search for alternative child care. My friend who hosted APs for 2 years switched to after-school nanny. That works for her best. We are privileged to have options. My BPs are happy, not think of themselves as servitude labor, and happily enjoy all their perks. They were able to buy whatever they want as they have 0 day-to-day expenses and bills. They actually don’t understand why other APs constantly complain that they don’t have money... |
You need a refresher in arithmetic. Its cheap for live in personalized childcare. Period. Unless of course you live in West Virginia. You can't get a babysitter to lift a finger in DC for under $22/hr and you definitely aren't getting one to work odd hours reliably for even that. |
I am a nanny who works 45 hours per week and it costs my employers closer to $70,000. My point being that the AP program is significantly cheaper than hiring a nanny. The AP can also be more convenient for split schedules and a great way to introduce your kids to other cultures! Also, as you are doing, having a BP when you have young boys can be a great experience as well. I am in full support of the AP program, but it is significantly cheaper than hiring an experienced nanny, both of which have their benefits! |
I don't think anyone disagrees that APs are cheaper than nannies. They are also much less qualified and much more burdensome than a nanny. That doesn't mean that they are "cheap" relative to ALL the options parents consider. For one child or even two or three older children, center based care is usually cheaper AND higher quality. |
You believe in the program and it’s a great opportunity. Ok. Think about the amount of money that’s actually paid to the AP. |
If AP were only coming for the money, far fewer of them would be here. They're here for other reasons, many for the opportunity to improve their language skills that may improve their opportunities at home after their return. APs get so much that can't be quantified exclusively into their stipend as pay, which is why there are always applicants available. |
I have only hired my 4 APs due to their needing better English or more experience in childcare back in their home country. All were 21+. |