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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I personally think she should have asked me how the girls day was.As the was things that day she needed to be informed about. I had to text her after I left. I was not upset she didn't say hi & my name. I just thought since I spend 50 to 60 hours week taking care of her children. It's important we communicate. She just never dose its starting to get to me.

If you had information that needed to be shared, you should have opened your mouth to share it. Communication goes two ways.

[Anonymous]

OP here. She was on the phone talking & the girls were running around talking trying to get her attention. I gave my hugs to the girls then said bye & left then texted her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She was on the phone talking & the girls were running around talking trying to get her attention. I gave my hugs to the girls then said bye & left then texted her.

*e hug to you* sorry she couldn’t even bother to get off the phone to greet you or her kids. My mb has had moments like that but because it is IN FACT RUDE despite people telling you to deal with it and open your mouth etc, my Mb actually texted me to apologize and another occasion called me.

[Anonymous]

Are they overall disrespectful to you or are you viewing certain things as being disrespectful that are subjective and not objectively so?

My NF are very busy with their careers, I get a hello (they are mostly saying hello from the children and not from themselves) when I arrive and generally, though not always, a goodbye when I leave. When they come home, their attention and greeting are focused on the children. And even though I have brought up twice about them arriving 5 minutes before my departure time to discuss the day and leave in time, that does not happen. I’ve gotten over it because there is bound to be something negative with every NF. Then, the kids are in their parents face, vying for attention and we cannot have a conversation about the children. I will leave a note with the important issues of the day and questions/concerns go on the whiteboard to discuss in the morning when we have a moment. Find a solution and don’t whine about it. If you attempt a few solutions to the problems that you are having, have had open communication with your bosses about any issues, and are still unable to resolve, then find a new position.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t get over it at all op! These people are rude on this board. Your boss is a rude bitch and I’m actually on the verge of quitting myself for similar reasons after 3 years. My employers especially DB will act like I’m a cushion on the sofa and only talk to the 18 month old and never ask me about his day or how I’m doing after being there 8am - 6pm and having a 4 and 6 year old brother too. It’s disgusting behavior to display to people that essentially raise your children for you.

You have every right to feel slighted. My nanny family has gotten increasingly comfortable the more responsibility I take on and treating me ruder by the week.

Stop using phrases like “nanny family” (they are not your family) and “DB” (he isn’t your dad). These are strictly employers and not friends or family. You love your charge but never the employers.

For me, as a nanny, making these distinctions really helped make my life easier and my job more enjoyable.

If your employers are rude - that’s on them. Greet them everyday with a smile and cheerful greeting and stop caring about what they give back to you. As a PP wrote above, their lack of social graces is on them. If they are rude to you - who cares? You know your own worth.

The terms Nanny family, Dad boss and Mom boss have been used on this board for ages and everyone knows what the terms mean. Stay on topic please.

And just because you like to be disrespected and suck it up doesn’t mean other nannies feel the same way. Knowing your own worth doesn’t mean a thing if you still allow others to mistreat you. “I know my own worth, but SHHHHH! It’s a secret!” Gmafb

I disagree completely with all of your assertions. “Nanny family” as well as DB/MB” are demeaning to nannies and where the terms come from or how long they have been used are immaterial.

Further, welcome to the real world, child. Lots of employers and superiors in a work place will not engage nor treat you like a friend. It is simply the way it is. You are only responsible for your own behavior and will have a miserable career in ANY field if you think this is disrespectful. Clearly you have issues with your own worth if you see yourself in the reflection of someone else’s social behavior.

And my advice to OP: take the job as a whole. Is your employer’s rudeness the tip of the iceberg or is she generally fair and decent? Her lack of response to her children is sad but out of your hands. You do the best “you” you can.