AP taking care of other kids

[Anonymous]

APs are not there to pick up you and your extended family’s slack. If you want your nephew to come, you need to have a plan that doesn’t break rules. You are not correct on this one AP. I feel like you are resentful that you are paying for camp and an AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Former AP here
I don’t think she’s supposed to be watching other kids
Other kids = other rules= other panrents....
Her job are your kids, no matter if it’s 1 or 40 hours a week, that’s what you signed up for.
I’m a nanny and I would not watch somebody else’s kid, especially for safety reasons. I don’t know the kid, the parents, what if something happens to cousin in the pool?
No, but thanks.
The way you talk is very insulting.
I hope she won’t do it or she’ll call the agency.
What is the matter with you people? You think you can just throw kids into the house and have APs watch them too? It’s more of a safety concern than money

+1

[Anonymous]

Ask your LCC. Get her on your side and have them reassure your AP it's ok.

Revisit your schedule (of 15hrs/week). Let AP know if you have to rearrange your schedule to be around with the cousin, then AP is going to be working more hours instead because you had to make alternate arrangements to be around which may include more evening hours so you can make up your own work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask your LCC. Get her on your side and have them reassure your AP it's ok.

Revisit your schedule (of 15hrs/week). Let AP know if you have to rearrange your schedule to be around with the cousin, then AP is going to be working more hours instead because you had to make alternate arrangements to be around which may include more evening hours so you can make up your own work.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask your LCC. Get her on your side and have them reassure your AP it's ok.

Revisit your schedule (of 15hrs/week). Let AP know if you have to rearrange your schedule to be around with the cousin, then AP is going to be working more hours instead because you had to make alternate arrangements to be around which may include more evening hours so you can make up your own work.

+100

It's worth a try---but I know that our LCC would never go for it.

[Anonymous]

Former AP here.

So she has a right to say no to watch other children.
It is indeed against the rules.

Bad things happen when you bend the rules.
Why would she do that for no extra dollars and just to "please you"?
It's not a one way street here. You want something from her, just give something back as well.

It's not her fault there are fewer hours. It doesn't mean she should help you out for free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask your LCC. Get her on your side and have them reassure your AP it's ok.

Revisit your schedule (of 15hrs/week). Let AP know if you have to rearrange your schedule to be around with the cousin, then AP is going to be working more hours instead because you had to make alternate arrangements to be around which may include more evening hours so you can make up your own work.

The LCC is not going to be on OP's side if it's against the rules. The second part is what OP needs to do; Rearrange your schedule so that you are home with nephew and increase AP's hours in the evenings and weekends.

[Anonymous]

Rearrange the hours (add weekends and evenings) so she knows flexibility also goes both ways!

[Anonymous]

I do not see anything in the contract that says AP cannot be responsible for other children. Only that AP cannot work outside the HF home (i.e. other babysitting) or that HF cannot ask for additional hours above the 45 per week/10 per day.

If there were actually something explicit in the contract, APs would not be able to do drop off play dates at all because it's "not their responsibility."

Your AP's friend is probably a golddigger that told her to hold out for a bonus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not see anything in the contract that says AP cannot be responsible for other children. Only that AP cannot work outside the HF home (i.e. other babysitting) or that HF cannot ask for additional hours above the 45 per week/10 per day.

If there were actually something explicit in the contract, APs would not be able to do drop off play dates at all because it's "not their responsibility."

Your AP's friend is probably a golddigger that told her to hold out for a bonus.

+1, where is that stated? can someone point me to it? Yeah the AP's friend is not good news. If she wants to make your life hard, do the same to her. Please keep us posted.

[Anonymous]

There's a huge difference between AP watching two kids on a playdate and AP being responsible for another child living in the house for two weeks. That is absolutely against the rules of the program and I can't believe an LCC would be on board. If AP complained, she would be in the right.

Now, personally I think AP should do it because she has a cake gig and is taking long weekends/generally getting it easy. And, two eight-year-olds together are less work than entertaining one by herself. Still though...she has the right to say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a huge difference between AP watching two kids on a playdate and AP being responsible for another child living in the house for two weeks. That is absolutely against the rules of the program and I can't believe an LCC would be on board. If AP complained, she would be in the right.

Now, personally I think AP should do it because she has a cake gig and is taking long weekends/generally getting it easy. And, two eight-year-olds together are less work than entertaining one by herself. Still though...she has the right to say no.

a 2 week stint is very different from a 2 hour playdate.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this against the rule? if yes what rule, can she point you to it? I am don't know. I mean if your nephew is your responsibility for two weeks, I assume AP should take care of them as well. It is almost like you get a new addition to the family/adoption an AP says No.
Let assume there is not rule about that, I think you should tell your AP that she said yes which is probably the reason you had the cousin comes, so it is unfair to you that she will backtrack because she talked to one friend. But again if this is really against the rules there is nothing you can do about that.

APs are not supposed to watch other kids.

And no, having a cousin stay with the family for 2 weeks is not the same as adoption. Don't be insulting.

Insulting to who?

To families formed by adoption that have to go through major hoops, and whose children go through loss of their birth family. It’s not just inviting a kid over for two weeks

Thank you!

--Mommy to 3 kids, one adopted from Asia and 2 adopted form Central America

[Anonymous]

^^^ we would never ask our wonderful Brazilian AP to watch my kids' cousins. Against the rules.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this against the rule? if yes what rule, can she point you to it? I am don't know. I mean if your nephew is your responsibility for two weeks, I assume AP should take care of them as well. It is almost like you get a new addition to the family/adoption an AP says No.
Let assume there is not rule about that, I think you should tell your AP that she said yes which is probably the reason you had the cousin comes, so it is unfair to you that she will backtrack because she talked to one friend. But again if this is really against the rules there is nothing you can do about that.

APs are not supposed to watch other kids.

And no, having a cousin stay with the family for 2 weeks is not the same as adoption. Don't be insulting.

Insulting to who?

To families formed by adoption that have to go through major hoops, and whose children go through loss of their birth family. It’s not just inviting a kid over for two weeks

Glad you can relate! Any an adoption agency would have to review the family and household before the child would be placed there--including a criminal background check of all family members--and the au pair!



Thank you!

--Mommy to 3 kids, one adopted from Asia and 2 adopted form Central America