Employer laid off....asking me to defer paycheck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a MB and tell her you CANNOT do that until he gets a new job. Who knows when that could be. That is a ridiculous request to tie to when he gets a new job.
You are friends, which is why she even asked and you're considering it, so tell you can do the amount you can realistically do. However many days or weeks you can do.

I wrote this. Whatever you can afford to do,max it at 10 days. Even if you could do so, I would not go past 10 days. She might have been distraught with the bad news, and didn't think this through when she asked you. That I can understand. But if she persists or asks seriously again, then that's a little shady. They should have savings to float them at least a month. If they were the type they are in deep debt and have you ask you to forgo, what, $2-$3k for childcare, that tells me that even if they repay you, it will take a really long time. How come she can't borrow from friends or family to pay for the childcare.

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I'd start looking for a new job. You have no idea how long it will take him to find a job. If you're able to help care for the kids while you're looking, you could do that, but I would expect them to find lots of reasons not to pay you if you're working for someone else if/when he does get employed, so don't count on that money.

You might be "friends," but you have bills to pay, too. Unless you can forego getting paid for the imaginable future, say you're sorry, but you can't afford to work without getting paid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a MB and tell her you CANNOT do that until he gets a new job. Who knows when that could be. That is a ridiculous request to tie to when he gets a new job.
You are friends, which is why she even asked and you're considering it, so tell you can do the amount you can realistically do. However many days or weeks you can do.

I wrote this. Whatever you can afford to do,max it at 10 days. Even if you could do so, I would not go past 10 days. She might have been distraught with the bad news, and didn't think this through when she asked you. That I can understand. But if she persists or asks seriously again, then that's a little shady. They should have savings to float them at least a month. If they were the type they are in deep debt and have you ask you to forgo, what, $2-$3k for childcare, that tells me that even if they repay you, it will take a really long time. How come she can't borrow from friends or family to pay for the childcare.

I'm also an MB and I agree with this advice.

Say no - the most you can offer is X days (and I think a week is more than generous) but you will need to start looking for another job immediately.

It's complete BS to ask your employee OR your friend to work for free.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely wholeheartedly NO.

To even ask such a request is purely ludicrous in my opinion.

No one works for free.
Tell her that while you do sympathize w/her situation,
You are unable to do it since you have your own living expenses that you are responsible for.

Tell her that you need to begin looking for a new position immediately if money is that tight for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work for a family and have become close friends with the mother. The father was recently laid off from a commission only job. It doesn't sound like he is getting any unemployment benefits.

The mother has asked if I will keep working for the family taking care of their kids, but defer getting paid until the husband gets a new job. I feel stuck because we have become friends.

How would you respond to this? I feel obligated to help them out, but I also have my own bills to pay.

First, you are NOT friends. Trust me. They will drop you asap.

No, they need to pay you. They don't need to make their money problems your money problems. It could be 1 week lay off or 6 months. Don't you have bills too? Honestly, you should look for another job because they can't afford you.

[Anonymous]

I’m an MB, and my husband got laid off a month ago. Our nanny offered to defer her paycheck if we needed it, but there is NO way I would ever do that. You need a new job, OP. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

OP, tell her to negotiate with her mortgage company about not paying them. What a DB. Get out of there ASAP and remember this:. You don't buy your meat and potatoes at the same store. This means that your employer is not your friend!

[Anonymous]

MB here. Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that, unfortunately, you cannot pay your bills if you don’t get paid.

It is really this simple.

[Anonymous]

You have bills to pay to so must work to make money

[Anonymous]

You are never going to see that money. Get out now.