Nannies, do you speak frankly to other nannies about...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. The same way people do in every other profession. You better believe your doctor goes home and tells their husband about their patients and coworkers. Teachers go home and tell their partners and friends about their students and the other staff members. It's a normal part of having a job. It would be very naive to assume that your nanny never said a word about you.

PP here who talks to her grandmother again. I’m sorry you have such a negative view. My grandmother taught for 30 years, and she’s been volunteering at the school ever since. I hear about who had a baby, who is taking extended maternity leave, whether she thinks new teachers will last more than a year (title 1 school teaching Common Core, so many don’t!), whether the secretary/principal are up to snuff in her opinion (including how they handle behavior issues). I hear about the reams she copied that day, the stack to be laminated Friday piling up in her box, and over the weekend we compare the things they laminate to prior years while she spends 7-9 hours cutting it out. I may hear that people I know have a child old enough for school now, and possibly who the teacher is. I have NEVER heard her talk to ANYONE about a specific child; even when she was teaching and had to talk to a teacher, it was in the empty lounge or in her office off the gym. The reason my NDA excludes her is because she has a wealth of experience with kids, is several states away, and she would have no frame of reference for their financials anyway.

[Anonymous]

I was a nanny and I would speak to my mom and other nannies about my job in relation to the children and parents. I hate to say it but I would gossip with other nannies sometimes. Now I’m a teacher and I usually talk to my partner about my students or other co workers. I also talk to my 2 best friends about my work.

[Anonymous]

Volunteering at a school is not the same thing as being a teacher. Why would you hear about specific children when she is volunteering to do administrative tasks like copying? Those things take place in the office. I'm a teacher and if I came home and all I wanted to chat about was laminating and stacks of paper I think my husband would divorce me. The kids are what makes the job and what makes it interesting. The hierarchy of special ed with paraprofessionals, teachers, and administrators are what amount to office politics. Does he have the kids identifying information? No, because it isn't relevant and that would be inappropriate. Would I post pictures or their information here or anywhere else on the internet or elsewhere? No, because that would likewise be wrong. Acting like teachers and nannies and other people who work with kids should have no normal social relationships with other adults or be able to discuss their jobs is ridiculous. Whatever it is that goes down in your house is not that special, believe me. These don't amount to state secrets.

[Anonymous]

Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

Please stop. You have no clue what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

“... nanny-to-employee confidentiality”? Who is the nanny’s employee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

Being blue collar has nothing to do with reasoning not to speak to other nannies about your employer or charge - it is simply impolitic. It would be very unwise to say anything that could get back to your employer.

[Anonymous]

Come on, People! The thread is about nannies who talk to other nannies about their employers or charges - not about nannies who talk to their grandmothers, husbands or college friends!

And my response is a big NO. I would never talk about issues with my charge or employers to other neighborhood or preschool nannies. Even in other professions, it is a bad idea to speak anyone about anything that could easily get back to your boss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes everyone does it

PP from the above response here. And no, not every nanny speaks to other nannies about problems.

Then you have no real friends, because everyone does it.

Not PP but I have many friends and don't share details.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes everyone does it

PP from the above response here. And no, not every nanny speaks to other nannies about problems.

Then you have no real friends, because everyone does it.

Not PP but I have many friends and don't share details.

This. I don’t discuss where my charges attend school, what the parents do (let along where they work), their finances, any health information, etc. I only give the address for play dates, otherwise I give a neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

Please stop. You have no clue what you are talking about.

No clue? The last time i checked my legal textbook, they forgot to mention the nanny-to-employee confidentiality clause? I can check again if you would like. Maybe there is new case precedence that I didn't know about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

“... nanny-to-employee confidentiality”? Who is the nanny’s employee?

Nanny to employer confidentiality. It is there along with many other fiduciary duties that nannies hold!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

Please stop. You have no clue what you are talking about.

No clue? The last time i checked my legal textbook, they forgot to mention the nanny-to-employee confidentiality clause? I can check again if you would like. Maybe there is new case precedence that I didn't know about.

It is common sense, you supercilious ass. You do not discuss anything that could get back you your boss (eg talking to another neighborhood nanny).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

“... nanny-to-employee confidentiality”? Who is the nanny’s employee?

Nanny to employer confidentiality. It is there along with many other fiduciary duties that nannies hold!

Stop trolling, Dear, and go out and get yourself a little life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team,

Of course not, that would violate nanny-to-employee confidentiality

Seriously, of course, they do. This is a blue collar job, and there is nothing stopping them from complaining about pay, and etc.

Anonymous wrote:... issues or problems you may be having with your employer or charge? Not playground gossiping but honest issues with one other trusted nanny?

This is the same weird troll from the other thread who quotes incorrectly. Ignore her. She is pathetic, fat and lonely.