New nanny?

[Anonymous]

I think you need to have a conversation with your nanny if you like her otherwise (she's reliable, she cares about the kids, etc.) If you haven't made it clear that you want her to follow xyz consequences and rules then she doesn't know, especially if she doesn't speak good English. I would try to have a sit down about behavior and your expectations before firing her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny must set expectations and manage the child’s behavior to those expectations. This nanny nanny at the gymboree I go to brings an older boy who is a terror, steamrolling other kids, using equipment inappropriately etc. the nanny just walks around telling him “no thank you” like that’s going to stop the behavior, eventually the poor staff have to intervene. Think about what that kid is learning about how much he has to listen, what is expected of him, how to treat adults etc. is that how you want your kid to turn out?!

OMG, the stupid "no thank you" people are the WORST. I hear this periodically and am always thinking WTF....tell the kid NO. There's no thank you about it, just plain old NO, or knock it off right this instant if NO fails to work.

I say, “No thank you” to my charges. Not always, but sometimes. The thank you comes with the expectation that they listen. I don’t always say it and I always follow through on expectations, but your judgement of me is very inaccurate and I am not the worst.

I do too. I also say “Do this. Please and thank you.” The kids learn that there’s a difference between that and “Please do this.” The former is simply a polite way of phrasing something that isn’t a choice, while the latter is a choice.