“It must be Thursday! Ha ha!”

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny usually gets three-year-old DD ready for morning preschool except on Thursdays when she takes the morning off. On Thursdays, I get her dressed, do her hair and get her to school. I don’t do things the way nanny does. Nanny gets her hair in perfect pigtails or braids while I like her hair down. And we were a little late which our nanny never is.

When we got to school this morning her teacher said looked at DD and said, “It must be Thursday” and laughed. I also forgot DD’s water bottle and her teacher told me not to worry, that Nanny keeps a clean, dry water bottle in her cubby just in case along with an extra sweat shirt.

I feel like a bad mother! Everyone raves about how great our nanny is - which is wonderful - but now I feel like they think I suck.

One day a week and you can't even comb your child's hair properly and remember her water bottle? You should be concerned about your skills.

Ok you are the perfect parent never get hassled and have superior skills kudus to you!

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You just have a stellar nanny, and you have a teacher who knows what you have more than one thing to do in the morning while nanny only has the child.

What else does OP have to do in the morning that the nanny doesn’t do?

Presumably, nanny is not showering and getting dressed and packing her own meal while also caring for her charge. She does thise things in her own time.

And a mother can’t do that before her child wakes up? Honestly, I don’t understand.

Don’t be intentionally obtuse. OP has a normal workday routine that includes a nanny caring for her child. On Thursdays she is either multitasking all of the above with caring for her child or she woke up an hour earlier than she typically does. Either of those things could lead to a more rushed, flustered and distracted morning for OP. If you don’t believe me, check out all the reports from people who are exhausted and stressed out every time daylight savings time begins and we all collectively lose an house of sleep.

The nanny gets up, showers, gets dressed and drives over to her employers home to start breakfast, get the child dressed, backpack loaded and gets to school on time.

The mother does the same presumably without the commute to her house - she just has to get up earlier one day.

And OP didn’t say her kid wakes up earlier on Thursdays.

Are you really this stupid? On Thursdays, OP would need to wake earlier than she usually does in order to get ready (causing her to be tired and out of her rhythm and therefore making the mornings more difficult than they are for the nanny) or OP would wake at the dame time as she usually does, but would juggle her normal morning routine with getting her daughter ready (making the morning more difficult).

The nanny’s normal routine includes that earlier wake time, therefore waking up early enough to arrive at her job on time is not a hardship and should not be throwing her off. Stepping outside of the normal routine makes life harder. This is not a complicated or controversial point.

Oh for God’s sake!! That is beyond ridiculous! We are parents and never have a set schedule of exact minutes of sleep each night!!! NP here and you make parents sound like some delicate flowers that have set routines that must be followed or disaster ensues!!

And OP, the teacher was just talking about your kid’s hair do!

The PP cannot possibly respond. Setting the clocks back an hour has thrown her into such a tizzy that she won’t be able to type for a week.

[Anonymous]

Hey OP - you got your daughter to school, right? You worked a full day in addition to being a mom right? You had extra time w/ your daughter that morning (and every Thursday). You did her hair the way you like it. You've hired a nanny who is prepared enough to have backup systems in place that came in handy. So you hired well.

She went to school in clean clothes, well fed, with loving attention from mommy. You did that and then did your day job and then (I'm sure) spent the evening being mommy/wife/house manager/etc... And your nanny had the morning off, and came back to feel appreciated and valued and that her foresight was helpful.

Sounds like a total win to me. Sounds like competence across the board, but for a bit of insecurity that actually seeks validation on DCUM - that's your only mistake!

You're doing great.

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Also, the preschool teacher should have kept her mouth shut.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, the preschool teacher should have kept her mouth shut.

Why? OP said her DD’s hair is up every day except Thursday. It sounds like an observation and not a judgement.

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Anonymous wrote:Nope. You just have a stellar nanny, and you have a teacher who knows what you have more than one thing to do in the morning while nanny only has the child.

What else does OP have to do in the morning that the nanny doesn’t do?

Presumably, nanny is not showering and getting dressed and packing her own meal while also caring for her charge. She does thise things in her own time.

And a mother can’t do that before her child wakes up? Honestly, I don’t understand.

Don’t be intentionally obtuse. OP has a normal workday routine that includes a nanny caring for her child. On Thursdays she is either multitasking all of the above with caring for her child or she woke up an hour earlier than she typically does. Either of those things could lead to a more rushed, flustered and distracted morning for OP. If you don’t believe me, check out all the reports from people who are exhausted and stressed out every time daylight savings time begins and we all collectively lose an house of sleep.

I feel so bad for you, PP. I hope you and your children survived the time change today. I am sure it is going to be so hard for you! You’re in my prayers!

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The nanny probably does your daughter's hair because, even though you "prefer" it down, she's less likely to contract lice or have filthy hair at the end of the day with it tied back. Maybe help her out and learn to do a ponytail.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny usually gets three-year-old DD ready for morning preschool except on Thursdays when she takes the morning off. On Thursdays, I get her dressed, do her hair and get her to school. I don’t do things the way nanny does. Nanny gets her hair in perfect pigtails or braids while I like her hair down. And we were a little late which our nanny never is.

When we got to school this morning her teacher said looked at DD and said, “It must be Thursday” and laughed. I also forgot DD’s water bottle and her teacher told me not to worry, that Nanny keeps a clean, dry water bottle in her cubby just in case along with an extra sweat shirt.

I feel like a bad mother! Everyone raves about how great our nanny is - which is wonderful - but now I feel like they think I suck.

OP. You're better than me because my children never had water bottles. Water fountains are all around them, and they deal. I don't feel the need to kit them out with their own personal drinking utensil. I don't carry snacks either.

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP - you got your daughter to school, right? You worked a full day in addition to being a mom right? You had extra time w/ your daughter that morning (and every Thursday). You did her hair the way you like it. You've hired a nanny who is prepared enough to have backup systems in place that came in handy. So you hired well.

She went to school in clean clothes, well fed, with loving attention from mommy. You did that and then did your day job and then (I'm sure) spent the evening being mommy/wife/house manager/etc... And your nanny had the morning off, and came back to feel appreciated and valued and that her foresight was helpful.

Sounds like a total win to me. Sounds like competence across the board, but for a bit of insecurity that actually seeks validation on DCUM - that's your only mistake!

You're doing great.

This!!! I am a career nanny and am in full support of uplifting and supporting one another! I’m so over the bashing, be it mommy bashing, nanny bashing, political bashing, etc. You did great and so what if your routine is a little off when you didn’t do that aspect daily!

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Anonymous wrote:The nanny probably does your daughter's hair because, even though you "prefer" it down, she's less likely to contract lice or have filthy hair at the end of the day with it tied back. Maybe help her out and learn to do a ponytail.

STOP WITH THE JUDGEMENT! Trying giving a recommendation in a kind way, just try it!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hey OP - you got your daughter to school, right? You worked a full day in addition to being a mom right? You had extra time w/ your daughter that morning (and every Thursday). You did her hair the way you like it. You've hired a nanny who is prepared enough to have backup systems in place that came in handy. So you hired well.

She went to school in clean clothes, well fed, with loving attention from mommy. You did that and then did your day job and then (I'm sure) spent the evening being mommy/wife/house manager/etc... And your nanny had the morning off, and came back to feel appreciated and valued and that her foresight was helpful.

Sounds like a total win to me. Sounds like competence across the board, but for a bit of insecurity that actually seeks validation on DCUM - that's your only mistake!

You're doing great.

This!!! I am a career nanny and am in full support of uplifting and supporting one another! I’m so over the bashing, be it mommy bashing, nanny bashing, political bashing, etc. You did great and so what if your routine is a little off when you didn’t do that aspect daily!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We’re all good at different things and we all make mistakes, especially if we’re not used to doing it. I assume you are as good at your career as nanny is at hers. Parenting is hard, mistakes happen, and only the random judgy people actually care, the rest of us understand!

Signed,
Career nanny that supports all parents!

I'm also a career nanny (and a mother) and I totally agree! You're doing good Mom!

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Anonymous wrote:We’re all good at different things and we all make mistakes, especially if we’re not used to doing it. I assume you are as good at your career as nanny is at hers. Parenting is hard, mistakes happen, and only the random judgy people actually care, the rest of us understand!

Signed,
Career nanny that supports all parents!

I'm also a career nanny (and a mother) and I totally agree! You're doing good Mom!

I’m a sahm and I agree. One time I packed a sandwich for dd, but I forgot to put anything between the 2 slices of bread. Just a bread sandwich

Don’t feel bad about the water bottle. Feel good about your skills in choosing such a great nanny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re all good at different things and we all make mistakes, especially if we’re not used to doing it. I assume you are as good at your career as nanny is at hers. Parenting is hard, mistakes happen, and only the random judgy people actually care, the rest of us understand!

Signed,
Career nanny that supports all parents!

I'm also a career nanny (and a mother) and I totally agree! You're doing good Mom!

I’m a sahm and I agree. One time I packed a sandwich for dd, but I forgot to put anything between the 2 slices of bread. Just a bread sandwich

Don’t feel bad about the water bottle. Feel good about your skills in choosing such a great nanny.

Nanny here. I accidentally sent slimy carrots to school for lunch yesterday. In my defense, they were fine Wednesday night, and the lunch was intended for Thursday, but with the snow day... Anyway, the child in question had pulled out his lunch on Thursday morning, and maybe it was in the inch ox for 3 hours prior to the school canceling while they dithered with the delay. I didn’t check it, he just put it back in the fridge and pulled it out again yesterday.

Stuff happens, whether we’re nannies, wahm, sahm or wohm. We deal with it and move on, and we model for the children that a deep breath and a smile can make anything easier to hear.