Can’t stay late anymore due to family issues— will they let me go?!

[Anonymous]

It depends. If they have to stay late at work at the last minute, then they need a nanny that can stay late at work at the last minute. This is fairly common, and some nannies can accommodate it and some cannot. If they ask you to stay late so they can run errands or have personal time, then they are likely to be more flexible with your changed availability.

One option would be to say that you can stay, but you have to leave to pickup your sister at x time, so you would need to take the kids with you and then come back with your sister. This would only work if your sister's school is fairly close by.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are buses but basically she would take 2 hours to get home. She goes to a school far from our home. Most of her friends live nearby and it’s inconvenient for them to drive her home. There’s a school bus but again it would take her 2 hours to get home. My contracted hours are 8-5 everyday. Most of the time they need me for 30 mins -3 hours. And I said they need me AT LEAST once a week. Most of the time it’s 2+ nights a week. It’s also a last minute thing. I’m usually asked 30 mins to an hour before I’m supposed to leave to stay late so it’s not like I can arrange other transportation for my sister

Was flexibility in this way part of the job description when you accepted the job? If not, maybe they'll work around you.

Also, how about getting your sister an Uber account? I gotta say, I think this is your parents' problem and not yours (getting her home). I understand that was the deal with you moving back in, but you'll never move out again if you lose this job.

Flexibility was never mentioned. I clearly asked during the interview if they would need extra hours and they said no. Which was false as they underestimated how much they would need me. Like I said, my sisters school is far from our home so it would easily be $20+ for a ride every time.

Then it seems perfectly reasonable to say you can't be flexible anymore, but they may also have decided their needs have changed since they hired you. It sounds like you don't have much choice in the matter, so I guess you'll just have to wait and see.

They underestimated their needs. What if they extended your hours by 30 minutes daily (as part of your guaranteed pay) and could have you stay late once per week with at least 2 days (or whatever works for you) notice? If that worked for them, would it also work for you? May I ask how much you make? Your years of experience? Benefits? I ask because some people will take advantage and you may feel stuck. But obviously they need more that they hired you for, so now is a good time rmto reassess everyone’s needs. Simply telling them you can no longer accommodate likely will not work for them, but being on-call will no longer work for you, nor is it what you were hired for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends. If they have to stay late at work at the last minute, then they need a nanny that can stay late at work at the last minute. This is fairly common, and some nannies can accommodate it and some cannot. If they ask you to stay late so they can run errands or have personal time, then they are likely to be more flexible with your changed availability.

One option would be to say that you can stay, but you have to leave to pickup your sister at x time, so you would need to take the kids with you and then come back with your sister. This would only work if your sister's school is fairly close by.

Both parents work from home. My sisters school is 15 minutes away. And it’s on my way home so it wouldn’t make sense to pick her up and go back to work. This is why I asked and clarified if they would need me to stay past a certain time. They said no, but like I said before they underestimate their needs. Most of the time I stay late because they run errands or are having personal time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are buses but basically she would take 2 hours to get home. She goes to a school far from our home. Most of her friends live nearby and it’s inconvenient for them to drive her home. There’s a school bus but again it would take her 2 hours to get home. My contracted hours are 8-5 everyday. Most of the time they need me for 30 mins -3 hours. And I said they need me AT LEAST once a week. Most of the time it’s 2+ nights a week. It’s also a last minute thing. I’m usually asked 30 mins to an hour before I’m supposed to leave to stay late so it’s not like I can arrange other transportation for my sister

Was flexibility in this way part of the job description when you accepted the job? If not, maybe they'll work around you.

Also, how about getting your sister an Uber account? I gotta say, I think this is your parents' problem and not yours (getting her home). I understand that was the deal with you moving back in, but you'll never move out again if you lose this job.

Flexibility was never mentioned. I clearly asked during the interview if they would need extra hours and they said no. Which was false as they underestimated how much they would need me. Like I said, my sisters school is far from our home so it would easily be $20+ for a ride every time.

Then it seems perfectly reasonable to say you can't be flexible anymore, but they may also have decided their needs have changed since they hired you. It sounds like you don't have much choice in the matter, so I guess you'll just have to wait and see.

They underestimated their needs. What if they extended your hours by 30 minutes daily (as part of your guaranteed pay) and could have you stay late once per week with at least 2 days (or whatever works for you) notice? If that worked for them, would it also work for you? May I ask how much you make? Your years of experience? Benefits? I ask because some people will take advantage and you may feel stuck. But obviously they need more that they hired you for, so now is a good time rmto reassess everyone’s needs. Simply telling them you can no longer accommodate likely will not work for them, but being on-call will no longer work for you, nor is it what you were hired for.

I have 3 years experience. I really don’t want to say how much I get paid. It’s really low and not at all typical espyfor 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

They both work at home? There should be no problem and if there is, then home to reevaluate this job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are buses but basically she would take 2 hours to get home. She goes to a school far from our home. Most of her friends live nearby and it’s inconvenient for them to drive her home. There’s a school bus but again it would take her 2 hours to get home. My contracted hours are 8-5 everyday. Most of the time they need me for 30 mins -3 hours. And I said they need me AT LEAST once a week. Most of the time it’s 2+ nights a week. It’s also a last minute thing. I’m usually asked 30 mins to an hour before I’m supposed to leave to stay late so it’s not like I can arrange other transportation for my sister

Was flexibility in this way part of the job description when you accepted the job? If not, maybe they'll work around you.

Also, how about getting your sister an Uber account? I gotta say, I think this is your parents' problem and not yours (getting her home). I understand that was the deal with you moving back in, but you'll never move out again if you lose this job.

Flexibility was never mentioned. I clearly asked during the interview if they would need extra hours and they said no. Which was false as they underestimated how much they would need me. Like I said, my sisters school is far from our home so it would easily be $20+ for a ride every time.

Then it seems perfectly reasonable to say you can't be flexible anymore, but they may also have decided their needs have changed since they hired you. It sounds like you don't have much choice in the matter, so I guess you'll just have to wait and see.

They underestimated their needs. What if they extended your hours by 30 minutes daily (as part of your guaranteed pay) and could have you stay late once per week with at least 2 days (or whatever works for you) notice? If that worked for them, would it also work for you? May I ask how much you make? Your years of experience? Benefits? I ask because some people will take advantage and you may feel stuck. But obviously they need more that they hired you for, so now is a good time rmto reassess everyone’s needs. Simply telling them you can no longer accommodate likely will not work for them, but being on-call will no longer work for you, nor is it what you were hired for.

I have 3 years experience. I really don’t want to say how much I get paid. It’s really low and not at all typical espyfor 2 kids.

Most agencies only require 2 year’s experience and you can make a proper wage. That seems to be a big issue and no one else is going to fight your battles for you. It sounds like you deserve more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There are buses but basically she would take 2 hours to get home. She goes to a school far from our home. Most of her friends live nearby and it’s inconvenient for them to drive her home. There’s a school bus but again it would take her 2 hours to get home. My contracted hours are 8-5 everyday. Most of the time they need me for 30 mins -3 hours. And I said they need me AT LEAST once a week. Most of the time it’s 2+ nights a week. It’s also a last minute thing. I’m usually asked 30 mins to an hour before I’m supposed to leave to stay late so it’s not like I can arrange other transportation for my sister

Was flexibility in this way part of the job description when you accepted the job? If not, maybe they'll work around you.

Also, how about getting your sister an Uber account? I gotta say, I think this is your parents' problem and not yours (getting her home). I understand that was the deal with you moving back in, but you'll never move out again if you lose this job.

Flexibility was never mentioned. I clearly asked during the interview if they would need extra hours and they said no. Which was false as they underestimated how much they would need me. Like I said, my sisters school is far from our home so it would easily be $20+ for a ride every time.

Then it seems perfectly reasonable to say you can't be flexible anymore, but they may also have decided their needs have changed since they hired you. It sounds like you don't have much choice in the matter, so I guess you'll just have to wait and see.

They underestimated their needs. What if they extended your hours by 30 minutes daily (as part of your guaranteed pay) and could have you stay late once per week with at least 2 days (or whatever works for you) notice? If that worked for them, would it also work for you? May I ask how much you make? Your years of experience? Benefits? I ask because some people will take advantage and you may feel stuck. But obviously they need more that they hired you for, so now is a good time rmto reassess everyone’s needs. Simply telling them you can no longer accommodate likely will not work for them, but being on-call will no longer work for you, nor is it what you were hired for.

I have 3 years experience. I really don’t want to say how much I get paid. It’s really low and not at all typical espyfor 2 kids.

Most agencies only require 2 year’s experience and you can make a proper wage. That seems to be a big issue and no one else is going to fight your battles for you. It sounds like you deserve more.

I applied at an agency so hopefully I can find a better more livable wage through them.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised by how many people say that you should put your sister in an Uber. The nanny family told you no late nights, but then spring late nights on you. If they have jobs that required flexibility, they should have made finding that a priority. They did not. They are taking advantage of you. You not being able to stay may be an issue but it is their fault for not being honest about their needs and PLEASE make sure you are getting time and a half for overtime hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised by how many people say that you should put your sister in an Uber. The nanny family told you no late nights, but then spring late nights on you. If they have jobs that required flexibility, they should have made finding that a priority. They did not. They are taking advantage of you. You not being able to stay may be an issue but it is their fault for not being honest about their needs and PLEASE make sure you are getting time and a half for overtime hours.

People are saying this because it is not unusual for nannies to be asked to stay late occasionally, and her parents have put a responsibility with a hard deadline on her that now affects her job.

She sounds young and like she has a lot of trouble with any kind of confrontation, which means she wants to please everyone.

[Anonymous]

You are not their slave and your family comes before their famy. Give notice, quit, and find a new non-nanny job where you make a good salary, job has growth potential, and you are respected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am surprised by how many people say that you should put your sister in an Uber. The nanny family told you no late nights, but then spring late nights on you. If they have jobs that required flexibility, they should have made finding that a priority. They did not. They are taking advantage of you. You not being able to stay may be an issue but it is their fault for not being honest about their needs and PLEASE make sure you are getting time and a half for overtime hours.

Op here. I was also surprised they underestimated their needs since MB has worked from home for almost 5 years now and according to her, her work load has stayed consistent the 5 years. They have had nannies in the past So im not sure why they claimed they never needed late nights.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised by how many people say that you should put your sister in an Uber. The nanny family told you no late nights, but then spring late nights on you. If they have jobs that required flexibility, they should have made finding that a priority. They did not. They are taking advantage of you. You not being able to stay may be an issue but it is their fault for not being honest about their needs and PLEASE make sure you are getting time and a half for overtime hours.

People are saying this because it is not unusual for nannies to be asked to stay late occasionally, and her parents have put a responsibility with a hard deadline on her that now affects her job.

She sounds young and like she has a lot of trouble with any kind of confrontation, which means she wants to please everyone.

Op here. I am young and I do have problem with confrontation. I know many nannies stay late and I used to be the one who would always be able to stay late since I had no other responsibilities. However, I see now how they truly don’t respect my time. About 99% of the time I’m asked to stay late it’s always about 5-10 minutes before I’m supposed to leave. Very rarely do they ask me 3-4 hours before I leave. They have also never asked me a day before. I’m just really conflicted because I hve been extremely flexible. I’m hoping picking up my sister is short term because she doesn’t plan to drive but even then she’ll need to wait at least 6 months

[Anonymous]

Do they pay you OT for the extra time,?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not their slave and your family comes before their famy. Give notice, quit, and find a new non-nanny job where you make a good salary, job has growth potential, and you are respected.

Actually, her parents seem to have made a reasonable point here, which is that if her job doesn't support her living on her own as a single person with no dependents, and they are now back to housing (and feeding?) their adult daughter, her job isn't much of a job, and she should be able to drop it for their needs.

OP, unless you moved home just because you didn't like being on your own, they are right. Don't worry about what happens with this job; it's not a good one anyway. If they fire you, you can tell new families that it was a scheduling problem. You'll also have all day long to look for a better job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are not their slave and your family comes before their famy. Give notice, quit, and find a new non-nanny job where you make a good salary, job has growth potential, and you are respected.

Actually, her parents seem to have made a reasonable point here, which is that if her job doesn't support her living on her own as a single person with no dependents, and they are now back to housing (and feeding?) their adult daughter, her job isn't much of a job, and she should be able to drop it for their needs.

OP, unless you moved home just because you didn't like being on your own, they are right. Don't worry about what happens with this job; it's not a good one anyway. If they fire you, you can tell new families that it was a scheduling problem. You'll also have all day long to look for a better job.

I moved for financial and other personal issues. I’m in debt from my undergrad and my parents accepted me back into their home with no obligation to help our financially. Thus, my mom believes I should help out in other way. Which I don’t mind, I just don’t want to jeopardize my job anyway.