Nanny vs daycare vs... Something else?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks everyone for your insights. Unfortunately I can't move closer to work, we just bought a house so I'm a bit tied up. The nanny share near my work is brilliant! Fewer hours in childcare and I would get to nurse!

Staggering schedules is also something I've thought of but haven't done because the travel time with DH is basically our only time together during the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone for your insights. Unfortunately I can't move closer to work, we just bought a house so I'm a bit tied up. The nanny share near my work is brilliant! Fewer hours in childcare and I would get to nurse!

Staggering schedules is also something I've thought of but haven't done because the travel time with DH is basically our only time together during the week.

If you and dh commute into dc together, definitely look into a share in dc! You can sit next to the baby in the back and play/entertain, which should help you feel more connected

[Anonymous]

It never ceases to amaze me that PRIOR to having a baby plans for daycare aren't factored into having child!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It never ceases to amaze me that PRIOR to having a baby plans for daycare aren't factored into having child!

It never ceases to amaze me the snarky comments that people can come up with on this website! Get a life or maybe work on planning one. Because every mom knows that planning ahead means you won't have any issues down the line ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It never ceases to amaze me that PRIOR to having a baby plans for daycare aren't factored into having child!

It never ceases to amaze me the snarky comments that people can come up with on this website! Get a life or maybe work on planning one. Because every mom knows that planning ahead means you won't have any issues down the line ?

Planning ahead for important aspects of childcare does eliminate most problems. Smart, organized parents have emergency plans in place. Your ignorance/stupidity/ laziness is your problem.

[Anonymous]

Smart, organized parents understand the concept of flexibility and leaving room for unexpected things. You can hire the best nanny months in advance but if your child doesn't get along with her, it's not going to work. You can put hours into researching the best structure for your child but at the end of the day, if your baby shows tendencies or needs that differ you will have to adjust. Not to mention being a mother comes with new feelings and thoughts. You can't possibly anticipate all of them. I know numerous moms who planned to go back to work and had everyone lined up but then just couldn't go through with it. A mom knows and feels and listening to that inner voice is what makes you the best mom for your child. Sometimes that means ditching a plan, reassessing and adjusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Smart, organized parents understand the concept of flexibility and leaving room for unexpected things. You can hire the best nanny months in advance but if your child doesn't get along with her, it's not going to work. You can put hours into researching the best structure for your child but at the end of the day, if your baby shows tendencies or needs that differ you will have to adjust. Not to mention being a mother comes with new feelings and thoughts. You can't possibly anticipate all of them. I know numerous moms who planned to go back to work and had everyone lined up but then just couldn't go through with it. A mom knows and feels and listening to that inner voice is what makes you the best mom for your child. Sometimes that means ditching a plan, reassessing and adjusting.

Then do it and stop whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It never ceases to amaze me that PRIOR to having a baby plans for daycare aren't factored into having child!

It never ceases to amaze me the snarky comments that people can come up with on this website! Get a life or maybe work on planning one. Because every mom knows that planning ahead means you won't have any issues down the line ?

Planning ahead for important aspects of childcare does eliminate most problems. Smart, organized parents have emergency plans in place. Your ignorance/stupidity/ laziness is your problem.

Indeed. If you are having a child, prepare yourselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a great nanny close to your home. And I mean really look for the right nanny - someone who will love your child. I feel so good about leaving my daughter because I know how much she and her nanny love each other and how much our nanny is teaching her and exposing her to (Nanny believes in narration, singing, engaging and reading to even a day old baby).

It has been a financial sacrifice for us to pay for a good nanny - but so, so, so with it.

I agree with everything, but sometimes it can be difficult to find nannies who can afford to live close to you. It usually depends on her income bracket.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks everyone for your insights. Unfortunately I can't move closer to work, we just bought a house so I'm a bit tied up. The nanny share near my work is brilliant! Fewer hours in childcare and I would get to nurse!

Staggering schedules is also something I've thought of but haven't done because the travel time with DH is basically our only time together during the week.

If you and dh commute into dc together, definitely look into a share in dc! You can sit next to the baby in the back and play/entertain, which should help you feel more connected

Hey, if OP is around anymore, did you end up doing a share in DC? How has it been? If not, what did you decide to do?

[Anonymous]

You're missing probably the 2 best options for your situation: an in-home daycare by your work or an au pair.

[Anonymous]

I‘m confused: did OP have the baby outside with the nanny all day until she got out of work? Like, 8 hours per day the baby was at the library?