My charge looks like a hot mess on weekends!

[Anonymous]

having been a Nanny for many years and now the Mom of a 5yo I can tell you that your priorities are different when you are a parent vs a Nanny.
The hair brushing would annoy me too but there is so much more than goes into being a parent than a Nanny that you are just so exhausted thinking about it all and some things you just let slide.
When I was a Nanny, by the time the kids wee 5 they could ride bikes, tie shoe laces, read etc.....My now 5yo can read but has no clue how to tie laces so I just buy velcro and cant ride a bike, but loves her scooter.
Your priorities are different from a parents priorities.
Yes you look after kids for many hours during the week and we appreciate it, but we work many hours at work and then have our kids in the evening and on the weekend. Not complaining about it, its just a fact of life. We don't get the down time to regroup that you get, so again, thats why we let stuff slide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:having been a Nanny for many years and now the Mom of a 5yo I can tell you that your priorities are different when you are a parent vs a Nanny.
The hair brushing would annoy me too but there is so much more than goes into being a parent than a Nanny that you are just so exhausted thinking about it all and some things you just let slide.
When I was a Nanny, by the time the kids wee 5 they could ride bikes, tie shoe laces, read etc.....My now 5yo can read but has no clue how to tie laces so I just buy velcro and cant ride a bike, but loves her scooter.
Your priorities are different from a parents priorities.
Yes you look after kids for many hours during the week and we appreciate it, but we work many hours at work and then have our kids in the evening and on the weekend. Not complaining about it, its just a fact of life. We don't get the down time to regroup that you get, so again, thats why we let stuff slide.

Having worked 24/7, I didn’t get time to regroup, and I was in charge of the finances and house as well as the kids. Parents make choices, but they have to live with them. Sorry, but no, I don’t like the “poor me” routine, either own your choices or make other choices.

[Anonymous]

I hate nannies like you, OP, who think they're better than parents.

Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:having been a Nanny for many years and now the Mom of a 5yo I can tell you that your priorities are different when you are a parent vs a Nanny.
The hair brushing would annoy me too but there is so much more than goes into being a parent than a Nanny that you are just so exhausted thinking about it all and some things you just let slide.
When I was a Nanny, by the time the kids wee 5 they could ride bikes, tie shoe laces, read etc.....My now 5yo can read but has no clue how to tie laces so I just buy velcro and cant ride a bike, but loves her scooter.
Your priorities are different from a parents priorities.
Yes you look after kids for many hours during the week and we appreciate it, but we work many hours at work and then have our kids in the evening and on the weekend. Not complaining about it, its just a fact of life. We don't get the down time to regroup that you get, so again, thats why we let stuff slide.

Having worked 24/7, I didn’t get time to regroup, and I was in charge of the finances and house as well as the kids. Parents make choices, but they have to live with them. Sorry, but no, I don’t like the “poor me” routine, either own your choices or make other choices.

I wasnt saying poor me, i am happy with my choices, I am just saying why some stuff goes to the wayside, that you think is more important when youre a Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Who cares?

- nanny

My charges also weren’t dressed particularly nice with brushes hair but they were happy and cared for... their parents just didn’t prioritize that as I did. It’s not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

My daughter has curly/frizzy hair, and I taught her to take care of it when she was 3. She knew how to use detangler on it, and I bought a brush especially made for her hair type. This solved the problem of someone always having to keep up with her hair, because she enjoyed brushing it and keeping it looking nice. It wouldn't stay in braids so that idea was quickly discarded. I just bought the Suave children's detangling spray, which is inexpensive and it didn't matter if she used a little extra when she was first learning. As for the clothes, OP, I don't see the problem because it's not like she's going to a fashion show.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree. You are a better caregiver than the parents.

So helpful. Nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree. You are a better caregiver than the parents.

So helpful. Nasty.

Are you the neglectful parent of a weekend hot mess?

[Anonymous]

It’s the weekend op. Relax.

[Anonymous]

In exactly the same situation as OP.

My charge has no many knots and snarls in her hair by Monday morning that I have to wet it and comb through conditioner before I can even wash it. There are stains on every one of her shirts because my employers seem to be against her wearing a bib. It looks like a hurricane hit her closet and drawers and her dirty clothes are all inside out on the bedroom and bathroom floors.

And, in my experience, parents never seem to know what a bad picture of their child is. My charge is so beautiful but - like everyone on earth - can take a bad picture. And my employers still post the bad pictures of her.

[Anonymous]

I almost never brush my son’s hair. I like the way the curls form naturally so I don’t brush it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I almost never brush my son’s hair. I like the way the curls form naturally so I don’t brush it.

Do you comb it after you wash it? Do you wash it?