Feeling Depressed Re: My Boss Today ;(

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you everyone for the wonderful feedback!

I am actually going to send her a text message kindly letting her know that I feel slighted by her actions & am no longer going to babysit or clean for her any longer.

The text will be short + sweet because after five years, really don’t want to leave any bridges burned.
However she needs to know that I also am not someone who can be low balled and will just accept it w/out giving her a piece of my mind.
~ OP Here

Will keep you posted on how she will act.

Sorry but I don’t feel sorry for you. You sound very young. You can’t accept something and the whine about it later. You should have told her that was not the agreed upon rate, and not take the check. You set yourself up to be taken advantage of. You’re an adult - stand of for yourself during the situation. Whining and get mad after the fact is your own fault.

Easier said than done

Not really. Get a backbone.

[Anonymous]

You should've to her and tell her that underpaying you is unacceptable and that she can take this text as your notice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you everyone for the wonderful feedback!

I am actually going to send her a text message kindly letting her know that I feel slighted by her actions & am no longer going to babysit or clean for her any longer.

The text will be short + sweet because after five years, really don’t want to leave any bridges burned.
However she needs to know that I also am not someone who can be low balled and will just accept it w/out giving her a piece of my mind.
~ OP Here

Will keep you posted on how she will act.

Sorry but I don’t feel sorry for you. You sound very young. You can’t accept something and the whine about it later. You should have told her that was not the agreed upon rate, and not take the check. You set yourself up to be taken advantage of. You’re an adult - stand of for yourself during the situation. Whining and get mad after the fact is your own fault.

Easier said than done

Not really. Get a backbone.

No OP but I have backbone and I would also be caught off guard.

Have you sent the text? I really do think that would burn the bridge but OTOH, I do think she should know that changing the terms of payment AFTER the work is done is bad.

[Anonymous]

OP Here:

Yes, I did send her a text yesterday outlining my feelings.
It was not a mean text at all, I simply stated that I worked really hard for her & that being shortchanged upon payment really hurt my feelings a lot.
I told her that I didn’t dislike her at all + still considered her my friend, etc.

She basically responded that I did a really awesome job and that she was grateful for my help.
She stated that if I had felt bad, she accepted full responsibility for everything.
Funny though.....
She never addressed the money $$ issue and I will let it go for now.

However I did let her know that I would no longer be working for her again.

She is currently going through a divorce now & blames the stress of that for how her personality may be affected right now.

I feel for her on that, but still need to make sure that I am not lowballed by anyone!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you everyone for the wonderful feedback!

I am actually going to send her a text message kindly letting her know that I feel slighted by her actions & am no longer going to babysit or clean for her any longer.

The text will be short + sweet because after five years, really don’t want to leave any bridges burned.
However she needs to know that I also am not someone who can be low balled and will just accept it w/out giving her a piece of my mind.
~ OP Here

Will keep you posted on how she will act.

Sorry but I don’t feel sorry for you. You sound very young. You can’t accept something and the whine about it later. You should have told her that was not the agreed upon rate, and not take the check. You set yourself up to be taken advantage of. You’re an adult - stand of for yourself during the situation. Whining and get mad after the fact is your own fault.

Easier said than done

You probably work in a tole where you're an a**hole on a daily basis

Not really. Get a backbone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Yes, I did send her a text yesterday outlining my feelings.
It was not a mean text at all, I simply stated that I worked really hard for her & that being shortchanged upon payment really hurt my feelings a lot.
I told her that I didn’t dislike her at all + still considered her my friend, etc.

She basically responded that I did a really awesome job and that she was grateful for my help.
She stated that if I had felt bad, she accepted full responsibility for everything.
Funny though.....
She never addressed the money $$ issue and I will let it go for now.

However I did let her know that I would no longer be working for her again.

She is currently going through a divorce now & blames the stress of that for how her personality may be affected right now.

I feel for her on that, but still need to make sure that I am not lowballed by anyone!!

Good on you! Her personal issues shouldn't have anything to do with your payment or how you are treated.
How would she feel had you let personal issues affect how you cared for her child?

[Anonymous]

Remember you are unique and a precious gift that does lots of work at reasonable prices... you should say thank you for any monies paid to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember you are unique and a precious gift that does lots of work at reasonable prices... you should say thank you for any monies paid to you.

You again? Go out and get a little life for yourself, Sweetie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember you are unique and a precious gift that does lots of work at reasonable prices... you should say thank you for any monies paid to you.

You are a moron.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here:

Yes, I did send her a text yesterday outlining my feelings.
It was not a mean text at all, I simply stated that I worked really hard for her & that being shortchanged upon payment really hurt my feelings a lot.
I told her that I didn’t dislike her at all + still considered her my friend, etc.

She basically responded that I did a really awesome job and that she was grateful for my help.
She stated that if I had felt bad, she accepted full responsibility for everything.
Funny though.....
She never addressed the money $$ issue and I will let it go for now.

However I did let her know that I would no longer be working for her again.

She is currently going through a divorce now & blames the stress of that for how her personality may be affected right now.

I feel for her on that, but still need to make sure that I am not lowballed by anyone!!

If you want to make sure you’re not lowballed, next time someone tells you they are going to pay you less than what previously agreed you say “No, my hourly rate is X and we agreed on X”. You have to use your voice and not let this happen again! Speak up people!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why on earth would you agree to the lower rate?? You need to stand up for yourself!!

+1 just dumb
go back there and tell her she caught you off guard, and your rate is $15 as previously agreed upon, and if that's too much for her, it mutually agreeable that you won't clean again.

[Anonymous]

PP Above:

I already text messaged her & got my response.

I am not going to go out of my way and drive to her house + demand payment when I already have let her know how I feel.
Plus, I already told her I would no longer be willing to work for her again after this happened.

I am just counting my losses and have learned a great life lesson for the future.

Thanks for your advice though!

[Anonymous]

OP, I understand your feelings and have trouble asserting myself with pushier types. Here’s what I did in a similar situation: the next time she asked, I said that I no longer did A (cleaning/organizing) but I still was available for B (sitting, driving, simple meal prep for charge) for $x/hr. It does not burn bridges and sets clear boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Lol at the You should appreciate any monies comment. Some of you here are really off your rockers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol at the You should appreciate any monies comment. Some of you here are really off your rockers

Obviously sarcasm, people.