"I wish my Mom and Dad would play with me"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kids can be dramatic. They can also be manipulative.

I bet he got a significant and very loving response from you.

Wow, you are cold-hearted, PP. I hope to God you are not a parent.

I am a parent. Maybe the child is genuinely deprived of parental attention, maybe not. I have several kids and two of them are particularly prone to dramatic pronouncements. One because she's just mercurial and reacts dramatically to everything, the other because he's keenly aware that triggering a sympathetic emotional reaction pays dividends for him. I also have one kid who would never say or do something like this - he just kind of sails through life without much bothering him.

I am never inclined to believe the worst of a parent just because a child, especially one young enough to have a nanny, says something seemingly alarming.

Show me finger marks on arms, bruises on the torso, a flinching reaction to sudden gestures, a sexually explicit child, etc.... then you get my attention. Dramatic statements? Meh.

The nanny is around here will probably tear you apart for this, but as a nanny who has worked for this exact type of kid, I can concur that they totally exist and they feed off of overly emotional and dramatic adults like the OP.

I love when the resident pick me nanny chimes in. The nanny is always wrong except Nanny pickme because she is experienced. The MB is always right. The unpopular opinion is always right. Your schtick is tired.

What TF on earth are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

I once had a little girl tell me "I wish you were my mom".
I was puzzled ! I asked her why, she said : "because you take me places, when my mom takes me to eat out, it's only because her friends are there" ...
She was a very unhappy kid whose mom barely spent 5 hours per week with (would rather go out at parties). Sad.
Once she heard her daughter tell me :"my mom doesn't love me". And instead of taking her on the side to cuddle her and reassuring her, she yelled at her for telling such a nasty thing.
Some people should never be parents ...

[Anonymous]

It's so sad . And my nanny career I've noticed that parents not all but some don't even really give the kids a day or even a minute. They just want to come home do that day I would wake up with the children and put the children to bed and they would have a weekend nanny . If you're not gonna be a parent don't have children it's very sad being a nanny what I see how parents treat their kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids can be dramatic. They can also be manipulative.

I bet he got a significant and very loving response from you.

Wow, you are cold-hearted, PP. I hope to God you are not a parent.

I am a parent. Maybe the child is genuinely deprived of parental attention, maybe not. I have several kids and two of them are particularly prone to dramatic pronouncements. One because she's just mercurial and reacts dramatically to everything, the other because he's keenly aware that triggering a sympathetic emotional reaction pays dividends for him. I also have one kid who would never say or do something like this - he just kind of sails through life without much bothering him.

I am never inclined to believe the worst of a parent just because a child, especially one young enough to have a nanny, says something seemingly alarming.

Show me finger marks on arms, bruises on the torso, a flinching reaction to sudden gestures, a sexually explicit child, etc.... then you get my attention. Dramatic statements? Meh.

How sad that you view your kids wanting to spend time with you as manipulation.
How sad that it sails right over your hed that you have two kids doing what they can to gain your attention and one who realizes it doesn't matter what he does because you won't care unless it's something you have to take time off work .

That's the most dramatic interpretation possible of what I wrote, as is the OP's reaction her charge's statement. That's not how I approach life or how I want my children experiencing their life. We have a primarily drama free household and it works well. To each their own...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids can be dramatic. They can also be manipulative.

I bet he got a significant and very loving response from you.

Wow, you are cold-hearted, PP. I hope to God you are not a parent.

I am a parent. Maybe the child is genuinely deprived of parental attention, maybe not. I have several kids and two of them are particularly prone to dramatic pronouncements. One because she's just mercurial and reacts dramatically to everything, the other because he's keenly aware that triggering a sympathetic emotional reaction pays dividends for him. I also have one kid who would never say or do something like this - he just kind of sails through life without much bothering him.

I am never inclined to believe the worst of a parent just because a child, especially one young enough to have a nanny, says something seemingly alarming.

Show me finger marks on arms, bruises on the torso, a flinching reaction to sudden gestures, a sexually explicit child, etc.... then you get my attention. Dramatic statements? Meh.

How sad that you view your kids wanting to spend time with you as manipulation.
How sad that it sails right over your hed that you have two kids doing what they can to gain your attention and one who realizes it doesn't matter what he does because you won't care unless it's something you have to take time off work .

That's the most dramatic interpretation possible of what I wrote, as is the OP's reaction her charge's statement. That's not how I approach life or how I want my children experiencing their life. We have a primarily drama free household and it works well. To each their own...

Of course. It's al about you. Can't have the kids interfering with you agenda. Narcissist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my charge at a Christmas event where they had a wishing well. I gave him a coin and told him to make a wish for what he wanted most in the whole world. I truly expected him to say that he wished for a scooter or to be a part of the Paw Patrol - but this was what he wished most of all.

My eyes actually filled with tears. The father relieved me yesterday and I told him what his son wished for and he just blew it off. I know he will not tell his wife.

Really so sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids can be dramatic. They can also be manipulative.

I bet he got a significant and very loving response from you.

Wow, you are cold-hearted, PP. I hope to God you are not a parent.

I am a parent. Maybe the child is genuinely deprived of parental attention, maybe not. I have several kids and two of them are particularly prone to dramatic pronouncements. One because she's just mercurial and reacts dramatically to everything, the other because he's keenly aware that triggering a sympathetic emotional reaction pays dividends for him. I also have one kid who would never say or do something like this - he just kind of sails through life without much bothering him.

I am never inclined to believe the worst of a parent just because a child, especially one young enough to have a nanny, says something seemingly alarming.

Show me finger marks on arms, bruises on the torso, a flinching reaction to sudden gestures, a sexually explicit child, etc.... then you get my attention. Dramatic statements? Meh.

How sad that you view your kids wanting to spend time with you as manipulation.
How sad that it sails right over your hed that you have two kids doing what they can to gain your attention and one who realizes it doesn't matter what he does because you won't care unless it's something you have to take time off work .

That's the most dramatic interpretation possible of what I wrote, as is the OP's reaction her charge's statement. That's not how I approach life or how I want my children experiencing their life. We have a primarily drama free household and it works well. To each their own...

Of course. It's al about you. Can't have the kids interfering with you agenda. Narcissist

[Anonymous]

I would say that 99% of kids in the DC/northern VA area don’t see their parents much-hence the nannies. The parents don’t spend time with their kids, even on weekends-they have Home offices. If you’re working 60-90 hours a week to afford your 2 million dollar house and your Range Rover I can guarantee you don’t play with your kids. They’re an accessory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would say that 99% of kids in the DC/northern VA area don’t see their parents much-hence the nannies. The parents don’t spend time with their kids, even on weekends-they have Home offices. If you’re working 60-90 hours a week to afford your 2 million dollar house and your Range Rover I can guarantee you don’t play with your kids. They’re an accessory.

Or one parent works normal hours, the other doesn't see the kids, and kids and nanny deal with both parents' issues.