Parents, be honest with potential nannies

[Anonymous]

What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

I meant work from home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

If you truelly stay out of the way and create boundaries ta fine. But many (if not most) WAHP do not.

Many nannies (myself included) don’t even bother with a job with a WAHP.

[Anonymous]

the problem is that it's really annoying, you can never relax, and parents want to be "home" and don't understand boundaries. unless the kids are being difficult, in which case they suddenly don't have the time. you're supposed to keep the kids quiet all the time. you're supposed to keep them away from the parents, but the second a child is upset they want to run from them, and it becomes your job to chase after them and drag them away. i can't think of a single upside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

Ok we aren’t talking about an occasional work from home parents here. Your kids are obviously used to your nanny more and therefor likely not going to throw a fit every time they hear you squirm in he house. I am glad to see more nannies saving their sanity and staying away from these types of working conditions. I don’t understand why they won’t let the mother watch the child full time or take him to a daycare????? No place for a nanny there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a shame the parents failed to first ask the nanny. Now the poor children will have to get used to a new primary caregiver. Hope that doesn't happen too often!

i can’t tell if you are being sarcastic or not. Maybe you are being sincere?

But I never said the parents should ask me. They are free to have any childcare arrangement they wish. I also have the right to know what I’m signing up for, and that’s not to be a Gransmothers helper.

I was being sincere. I would personally expect the parents to first check with me before they leave houseguests for me to manage. My job is already challenging enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

Ok we aren’t talking about an occasional work from home parents here. Your kids are obviously used to your nanny more and therefor likely not going to throw a fit every time they hear you squirm in he house. I am glad to see more nannies saving their sanity and staying away from these types of working conditions. I don’t understand why they won’t let the mother watch the child full time or take him to a daycare????? No place for a nanny there.

PP here. I was asking more because I don't want to be a pain in my nanny's ass when I'm working from home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

Ok we aren’t talking about an occasional work from home parents here. Your kids are obviously used to your nanny more and therefor likely not going to throw a fit every time they hear you squirm in he house. I am glad to see more nannies saving their sanity and staying away from these types of working conditions. I don’t understand why they won’t let the mother watch the child full time or take him to a daycare????? No place for a nanny there.

PP here. I was asking more because I don't want to be a pain in my nanny's ass when I'm working from home.

If you're the pp with good boundaries, you're fine. Just make sure it's consistent. Doesn't matter what happens when the nanny is there, unless your child needs to go to the er, she is in charge.

[Anonymous]

I'm in a job right now where the parents are basically home ALL day - and this was not communicated to me before I accepted the position. I don't know if I would have taken the job if I'd known this beforehand. I wish they would have mentioned it to me!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in a job right now where the parents are basically home ALL day - and this was not communicated to me before I accepted the position. I don't know if I would have taken the job if I'd known this beforehand. I wish they would have mentioned it to me!

I feel you. I think parents know once we accept a job we are more likely to stay. I think many know this isn't an ideal situation and don't tell their nannies so they can get that contract.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the problem with having a stay at home parent? I work from home occasionally, and my kids know that when our nanny is in the house, Mom is working and the nanny is in charge. They go to her for everything when I'm here, and if they ask me for something, I tell them Nanny is in charge, go ask her.

If you truelly stay out of the way and create boundaries ta fine. But many (if not most) WAHP do not.

Many nannies (myself included) don’t even bother with a job with a WAHP.

I learned some nannies don't like it, so I posted it in my ads. I've had no trouble finding good to great candidates. My nanny has had no complaints, has been with us about a year and a half since baby's infancy. The MB with the daily grandma should have included it in their ad, but it might have been because they didn't know better. Per OP, they were surprised OP quit.