Work from home parents with nanny in house with kids

[Anonymous]

Ive been there. NEVER going to nanny again if one of tge parents are at home. Kids gets tantrums, spoiled by parents and undoing everything good nanny taught thier kids. Go find a daycare

[Anonymous]

I’ve nannied for 15 years and wouldn’t apply to this type of position. It makes my job more difficult, and your pay seems to reflect you consider it “easier”.

I have no doubt you’ll find someone, but do doubt you will keep someone.

The MB above stated “all my nannies have been fine with this arrangement” and that speaks volumes.

All.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve nannied for 15 years and wouldn’t apply to this type of position. It makes my job more difficult, and your pay seems to reflect you consider it “easier”.

I have no doubt you’ll find someone, but do doubt you will keep someone.

The MB above stated “all my nannies have been fine with this arrangement” and that speaks volumes.

All.

She also stated that there had been military moves. It's more common to have a wah parent when the other is military, because there's no job search every time they move.

[Anonymous]

MB who works from home. It's your home but it's her workplace, and those two can conflict. We have had very successful arrangements, and I think that's due to the following:

Being very upfront with applicants that I WAH 100% of the time and there's no way around it.
Respecting her workspace. When the kids were tiny I would nurse them during the day but at specific times. The nanny would text to let me know when they were ready. As they got older I would stay out of their way as best I could. There were days where I didn't see them during the workday at all. At most I saw them once, usually at lunch.
If I needed to come downstairs unexpectedly for something I would text the nanny first to make sure it was a good time. If she was about to go out with my child, I would wait until they were gone and then go down.

Basically, I did everything I could to avoid them. The day ran more smoothly when I wasn't popping in and out, I found it emotionally easier, my child found it easier, the nanny was much happier. It helps that my office is in a separate part of the house (its own floor) with a bathroom, so there really was little need for me to leave except to get food--and I could do that when they were out or when my kids were napping.

I disagree with nannies who say this arrangement can't work. It can, but you really need to consider the nanny's perspective and think about what will be most helpful to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB who works from home. It's your home but it's her workplace, and those two can conflict. We have had very successful arrangements, and I think that's due to the following:

Being very upfront with applicants that I WAH 100% of the time and there's no way around it.
Respecting her workspace. When the kids were tiny I would nurse them during the day but at specific times. The nanny would text to let me know when they were ready. As they got older I would stay out of their way as best I could. There were days where I didn't see them during the workday at all. At most I saw them once, usually at lunch.
If I needed to come downstairs unexpectedly for something I would text the nanny first to make sure it was a good time. If she was about to go out with my child, I would wait until they were gone and then go down.

Basically, I did everything I could to avoid them. The day ran more smoothly when I wasn't popping in and out, I found it emotionally easier, my child found it easier, the nanny was much happier. It helps that my office is in a separate part of the house (its own floor) with a bathroom, so there really was little need for me to leave except to get food--and I could do that when they were out or when my kids were napping.

I disagree with nannies who say this arrangement can't work. It can, but you really need to consider the nanny's perspective and think about what will be most helpful to her.

You are a rare breed. It can work, but most WAHP are not like you. They interfere, don’t have boundaries and micromanage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB who works from home. It's your home but it's her workplace, and those two can conflict. We have had very successful arrangements, and I think that's due to the following:

Being very upfront with applicants that I WAH 100% of the time and there's no way around it.
Respecting her workspace. When the kids were tiny I would nurse them during the day but at specific times. The nanny would text to let me know when they were ready. As they got older I would stay out of their way as best I could. There were days where I didn't see them during the workday at all. At most I saw them once, usually at lunch.
If I needed to come downstairs unexpectedly for something I would text the nanny first to make sure it was a good time. If she was about to go out with my child, I would wait until they were gone and then go down.

Basically, I did everything I could to avoid them. The day ran more smoothly when I wasn't popping in and out, I found it emotionally easier, my child found it easier, the nanny was much happier. It helps that my office is in a separate part of the house (its own floor) with a bathroom, so there really was little need for me to leave except to get food--and I could do that when they were out or when my kids were napping.

I disagree with nannies who say this arrangement can't work. It can, but you really need to consider the nanny's perspective and think about what will be most helpful to her.

You are a rare breed. It can work, but most WAHP are not like you. They interfere, don’t have boundaries and micromanage.

Exactly. Most parents simply want to see their kid whenever it's convenient for them. Sheer hell.