Nanny not "teaching" things
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Read up on child development.
All learning should be play based until age 7. You aren't a flash card parent, are you? |
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I tend to think learning can be fun and a natural part of play, but at 2.5, your child is not behind academically for not knowing her alphabet or drawing scribbles. It's certainly possible for kids to learn their letters at this age, but they'll pick it up even faster if you wait until later, and there is no disadvantage in waiting. Does your nanny read to her and talk to her to develop her vocabulary? I think this is more important than teaching her party tricks like recognizing letters and numbers.
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[Post New]10/03/2017 22:13 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous My nanny arranges an endless amounts of play dates, so I have the most social 2.5 year old, but she seems to be behind "academically." She doesn't know her letters or drawing more than scribbles. She just started preschool, but it more playbased. At what age do I need to worry about academics? [Report Post] [Post New]10/03/2017 22:33 Subject: Re:Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Our nanny was a preschool teacher and DD (2.5) does know her letters, numbers, shapes and colors (all colors and what colors combined make other colors) as well as about 25 sight words. Nanny is teaching her to read now. Academics were important to me, too and DD has really thrived and is always asking what something "says" and how to sound it out so it has been a perfect match with her personality and Nanny's skills. That said, I don't think it really matters in the long run. DD has always been ahead of her peers because of Nanny, but it generally all evens out once the kids are in elementary school. What Nanny has given her - which is invaluable now and in the long run - is a love of reading/books. Now that is one thing that does translate into academic success. [Report Post] [Post New]10/04/2017 03:58 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Let it go, she's only 2.5 yo and will learn at preschool. [Report Post] [Post New]10/04/2017 05:48 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Knowing that stuff at this age is like a party trick. It's cute and it makes the parents feel good but there's really no evidence that it has any correlation to long-term academic success. What does have a long-term correlation to academic success is plenty of creative play and social play ( especially outdoors or sensory-based), since those build strong neural pathways, help with body integration and sensory organization and teach executive function. [Report Post] [Post New]10/04/2017 08:40 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Anonymous wrote: Knowing that stuff at this age is like a party trick. It's cute and it makes the parents feel good but there's really no evidence that it has any correlation to long-term academic success. What does have a long-term correlation to academic success is plenty of creative play and social play ( especially outdoors or sensory-based), since those build strong neural pathways, help with body integration and sensory organization and teach executive function. They do a lot of play with their friends and outside. Is there anything in particular that we should be encouraging? What is creative play? [Report Post] [Post New]10/04/2017 10:29 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Building blocks or legos would be best if you're nanny is not into academics. PS I am a nanny [Report Post] [Post New]10/04/2017 18:16 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Knowing that stuff at this age is like a party trick. It's cute and it makes the parents feel good but there's really no evidence that it has any correlation to long-term academic success. What does have a long-term correlation to academic success is plenty of creative play and social play ( especially outdoors or sensory-based), since those build strong neural pathways, help with body integration and sensory organization and teach executive function. They do a lot of play with their friends and outside. Is there anything in particular that we should be encouraging? What is creative play? Where do you live? Parent education would help your apprehension. [Report Post] [Post New]10/05/2017 00:20 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Knowing that stuff at this age is like a party trick. It's cute and it makes the parents feel good but there's really no evidence that it has any correlation to long-term academic success. What does have a long-term correlation to academic success is plenty of creative play and social play ( especially outdoors or sensory-based), since those build strong neural pathways, help with body integration and sensory organization and teach executive function. They do a lot of play with their friends and outside. Is there anything in particular that we should be encouraging? What is creative play? PP here. My twin charges are just over 2. Activities this week: driving toy cars "to the store," and filling them with "food," (actually leaves), then driving them home and unloading the groceries--lots of turn-taking, language, memory work via listing, one-to-one correspondence, and symbolic thinking. We made birdfeeders with prickly pinecones, sticky peanut butter and silky/grainy birdseed. They loved the birdseed texture so much that I dumped the rest of the bag into the kiddie pool so that they could sit and walk in it--sensory stimulation, cause-and-effect, body integration, crossing-the-midline, balance and proprioceptive input. Practiced changing their baby dolls' diapers and preparing and serving baby food--motor planning, ordering steps, gross and fine-motor skills, lots and lots of language, emotion language and emotional response modeling. We made muffins--sensory stimulation, logical reasoning and ordering of steps, one-to-one correspondence, early science (relative volume), gross and fine motor control and planning Played memory--well, memory skills, duh!, language practice, sorting and comparing, turn-taking and sharing, emotional control Obviously we did more than this but my point is that even for very simple activities, kids are learning a lot. I think there is a false dichotomy presented to parents that you can either "let kids be kids" and they won't learn much, or you can "focus on education" (which always seems to mean academics) and they will learn. The reality is that the majority of the academic skills in the early grades are things that you can painstakingly teach at 2 or 3 or 4, OR they can pickit up quite easily at 4/5/6/7. The big question is what are they missing if you are focused on making them learn these academic parlour tricks at the youngest possible age? Well, they are missing play--play is not a universal childhood trait because it's nice to have fun. Play is universal to human children across cultures because it is the way out brains and bodies are meant to develop. If you allow kids to mostly manifest their own interests and desires and needs during play, they will create a rich and varied sensory diet, a strong and healthy body (including the underlying brain structure) and a complex social understanding that are the basic building blocks of later knowledge. [Report Post] [Post New]10/05/2017 12:36 Subject: Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Knowing that stuff at this age is like a party trick. It's cute and it makes the parents feel good but there's really no evidence that it has any correlation to long-term academic success. What does have a long-term correlation to academic success is plenty of creative play and social play ( especially outdoors or sensory-based), since those build strong neural pathways, help with body integration and sensory organization and teach executive function. They do a lot of play with their friends and outside. Is there anything in particular that we should be encouraging? What is creative play? Creative play is whatever the kid chooses to play and uses their imagination without being told what to do or think or say by an adult. Playing house, playing store, playing with babydolls, setting up trains or cars and playing with them, that's all creative play. [Report Post] [Post New]10/05/2017 14:23 Subject: Re:Nanny not "teaching" things***** [Up] Anonymous Kids needs to learn to be nice and have good manners, the fucking ABC's and Numbers are not important, even speech specialists agree on that. ABC's and Numbers can learn it fast at school as well another language or reinforce English. This is so true. |
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| Dear dcurbanmom.com admin, Your posts are always well thought out. |
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| This is ridiculous. You hired a nanny, she probably doesn't have a teaching background therefore she's doing what she's hired to do that is, love, care, and have fun with your kids, clean up after your kids, read to them, do crafts, maybe even bake cookies. It seems to me as the years go by parents expect so much more from a nanny. I'm saying all this to say, unless you hired a teacher and part of your ask was for her to academically prepare your kid for school her main goal is to care for your child. Also, you should blame yourself FIRST before trying to put the blame on the caregiver after all you are her mother. Why aren't you teaching your kid math, science, history etc so she can be ahead when school starts. You sound ridiculous and anyone who comments under this nonsense in defense of you should have their brain checked as well. Another entitled parent ranting and complaining about absolutely NOTHING. |
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What’s ridiculous is this post being revived from 2017 |
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Why should that be a problem? If the subject matter is one that is still relevant and relatable to some, let it be. |