Nanny interaction - MB needs advice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I do this sometimes in the mornings. I clean up the kitchen and my nanny kid plays by herself. I'll sit down, have coffee, sometimes I'm on my phone (often ordering things for MB) but I'll still narrate her activities and ask questions. When my NK starts being more interactive with me we head out for fun activities (I never use my phone when we're out).
I only mess with my phone during that portion of the day.

I don't see an issue. I pay attention but I'm not going to bother a kid who is happily playing without me so some MB who throws on the tv the second I leave can feel like she's getting her money's worth every second. Your kid isn't fascinating to anyone but you and no amount of money will change that. Even if she didn't have a phone in hand your nanny would be daydreaming.

Sorry lady, but some people actually enjoy spending time with children. Maybe you should find a different line of work if you're so bored.

+1000%

[Anonymous]

It's not a matter of being bored.

Do you know a mom that's 100% with her child on a Saturday? No. Why a nanny should? Because she's getting paid? That's ridiculous. Taking little "breaks" here and there and daydream or checking your facebook can keep you sane and focused when you need to be.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she has a night gig and needs to rest and recharge? Perhaps she is bored as a PP was talking about? Either scenario doesn't sound good for your baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not a matter of being bored.

Do you know a mom that's 100% with her child on a Saturday? No. Why a nanny should? Because she's getting paid? That's ridiculous. Taking little "breaks" here and there and daydream or checking your facebook can keep you sane and focused when you need to be.

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Do you know how ridiculous and entitled you sound?

Yes, when someone is paying you to do a job, you do that job, not just whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it.

Many of us have jobs where we cannot, whether via internet restrictions or the lack of time/schedule, surf the web or spend time on our phones. Some people even work in - gasp - rooms where one cannot bring in phones/electronic equipment. And, some of us also work in courtrooms, where - gasp - phones are not allowed. I'm trying to imagine a world in which I could relay your message to my bosses and NOT get fired.

If you cannot perform your job functions without your phone, you are either addicted to your phone/technology, or you are in the wrong field/profession.

[Anonymous]

^PP. Not sure how the random RH link got inserted. So weird!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not a matter of being bored.

Do you know a mom that's 100% with her child on a Saturday? No. Why a nanny should? Because she's getting paid? That's ridiculous. Taking little "breaks" here and there and daydream or checking your facebook can keep you sane and focused when you need to be.

https://www.restorationhardware.com/catalog/category/products.jsp?categoryId=cat1860011

Do you know how ridiculous and entitled you sound?

Yes, when someone is paying you to do a job, you do that job, not just whatever you want to do, whenever you want to do it.

Many of us have jobs where we cannot, whether via internet restrictions or the lack of time/schedule, surf the web or spend time on our phones. Some people even work in - gasp - rooms where one cannot bring in phones/electronic equipment. And, some of us also work in courtrooms, where - gasp - phones are not allowed. I'm trying to imagine a world in which I could relay your message to my bosses and NOT get fired.

If you cannot perform your job functions without your phone, you are either addicted to your phone/technology, or you are in the wrong field/profession.

shhh, stop telling dcum nannies how real jobs work, they don't want to know this information!! They want guaranteed hours, vacations, benefits, gas money, free food, generous bonuses, and to be allowed to spend all day on a phone or hanging out in a coffee shop "because stay at home moms do that."

[Anonymous]

OP -- I was in your situation. We love our nanny, and our nanny seems to really love our child, but she's on her phone more than I'd like her to be. So what did we do? I arranged activities for our child and our nanny to attend almost every day. Look for a playgroup in your area or sign them up for one of those kid gyms or classes during the day. That will probably solve the phone problem, and if it doesn't, at least you know your kid is getting some stimulation.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound like a very similar MB to me (also WAH and stay completely out of the way--it worked well for 8 years until we didn't need a nanny anymore). I would talk to you nanny pronto. Despite the various excuses made by other nannies, she should not be on her phone regularly unless she is attending to a specific, time-sensitive issue. I would make clear what phone use you consider acceptable. It would be good for her to get out of the house with your child. Especially for a young toddler, the morning is an ideal time to be out and about, before they become tired and cranky. I don't understand why she is sitting downstairs with your baby for two hours when they could be engaging in activities.

[Anonymous]

This is a perfect example of how even when it comes to nice, "respectful" nannies and MBs, a WAH parent situation NEVER works - for the nanny, for you, or for your kid.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised, frankly, that your nanny is at home for two hours after she arrives. That's primetime stroller walking time. Both nannies we had headed outside with the kids no later than 9.30 am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so common. Once your kid can talk (which might be late, since she may not be receiving adequate verbal stimulation), she'll tell you everything. The nanny probably spends half her day on the phone, if not more. Most of my friends with cameras have had to fire at least one nanny for this same reason.

How much quiet time do you allow your child? Zero?

[Anonymous]

Them mommy why you don't quit your job and glue yourself to your child 24/7

[Anonymous]

Hi there,
She is not professional. She don't know how important is engageing with a child. It's good a child could play with himself as well but not more then 30 min.
I am nanny I all the time engage with the child. The parents are extremely happy from me. They had another nanny before . She was taking care of their older child. She was not engaged with child most of time. The child became very quite . He is not social as well like younger one. The parents see the difference. My opinion talk with her seriously. This is not something you ignore.

[Anonymous]

If the child is happy, let the child be happy, it's not like the nanny ignores the kid all day lol. It could be all in your head, don't be insecure and one of those overprotected parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the child is happy, let the child be happy, it's not like the nanny ignores the kid all day lol. It could be all in your head, don't be insecure and one of those overprotected parents.

I think OP has found her nanny