Was I OK for being upset?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

As a nanny who spends time with and around other nannies - that is a falsehood. How did you arrive at these percentages? And how do you have so much time to spend observing 'most' nannies behaviors? Do some nannies spend too much time on their phones - of course! Do most nannies do so - No. I actually chose not to associate with nannies who do not pay close attention to their charges. And I have several nanny friends.

Please stop with the sweeping statements based on your own prejudices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

Hire an older nanny. I am an MB and 90% of the mothers I see at the park, library and indoor gym are addicted to their phones. It is a problem with our generation. I have a 60 yr old nanny who keeps her phone in her diaper bag. If she is ever texting anyone when DD is awake it is me.

Are you freaking kidding me? PP, these generalizations shouldn't come from a smart (non-ignorant) person although I may be making assumptions about you as a mother and employer. I am not an older nanny and I do use my phone - to take pictures of my charges and to text their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

As a nanny who spends time with and around other nannies - that is a falsehood. How did you arrive at these percentages? And how do you have so much time to spend observing 'most' nannies behaviors? Do some nannies spend too much time on their phones - of course! Do most nannies do so - No. I actually chose not to associate with nannies who do not pay close attention to their charges. And I have several nanny friends.

Please stop with the sweeping statements based on your own prejudices.

I stayed at home with my children for 5 years. I had lots of time to observe what goes on at the park because my face wasn't glued to my phone. And engaged, attentive nannies are truly rare. I feel sad for the children.

[Anonymous]

You need to fire her , she needs to be watching him at all times. If he wasn't in her line of sight, then she was jeopardizing his safety.

[Anonymous]

No, you were not wrong.

You just made a bad choice.

Next time, hire an older Nanny for your son.

The kind that doesn't feel it is imperative to be connected all the time.
Or check her Instagram + Snapchat 24/7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

Hire an older nanny. I am an MB and 90% of the mothers I see at the park, library and indoor gym are addicted to their phones. It is a problem with our generation. I have a 60 yr old nanny who keeps her phone in her diaper bag. If she is ever texting anyone when DD is awake it is me.

Are you freaking kidding me? PP, these generalizations shouldn't come from a smart (non-ignorant) person although I may be making assumptions about you as a mother and employer. I am not an older nanny and I do use my phone - to take pictures of my charges and to text their parents.

No, the former PP is sadly correct. Both younger nannies and mothers are on their phones constantly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

As a nanny who spends time with and around other nannies - that is a falsehood. How did you arrive at these percentages? And how do you have so much time to spend observing 'most' nannies behaviors? Do some nannies spend too much time on their phones - of course! Do most nannies do so - No. I actually chose not to associate with nannies who do not pay close attention to their charges. And I have several nanny friends.

Please stop with the sweeping statements based on your own prejudices.

I stayed at home with my children for 5 years. I had lots of time to observe what goes on at the park because my face wasn't glued to my phone. And engaged, attentive nannies are truly rare. I feel sad for the children.

I am a SAHM now and I see more mothers on their phones than nannies. In fact, I rarely see the nannies I know on their phones except to take pictures. Where were you living, PP, with the phone addicted nannies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not surprised by this at all. Most nannies spend 90% of their day on their phone. I see dangerous situations like this all the time. Good luck finding the 10% nanny who isn't a lazy phone addict.

As a nanny who spends time with and around other nannies - that is a falsehood. How did you arrive at these percentages? And how do you have so much time to spend observing 'most' nannies behaviors? Do some nannies spend too much time on their phones - of course! Do most nannies do so - No. I actually chose not to associate with nannies who do not pay close attention to their charges. And I have several nanny friends.

Please stop with the sweeping statements based on your own prejudices.

I stayed at home with my children for 5 years. I had lots of time to observe what goes on at the park because my face wasn't glued to my phone. And engaged, attentive nannies are truly rare. I feel sad for the children.

I am a SAHM now and I see more mothers on their phones than nannies. In fact, I rarely see the nannies I know on their phones except to take pictures. Where were you living, PP, with the phone addicted nannies?

NP here and in Los Angeles. Here it is the other mothers on their phones all the damn time and not the nannies.

[Anonymous]

Haha I've seen TONS of parents on thier phones too and just leaving thier kids to play, explore freely. Don't blame just nannies, parents are in thier phones too and a lot after having the second kid.

Find a new nanny and pay her well, i think your nanny was not happy.

[Anonymous]

It's fine for your kid to run around without the nanny hovering, but she should always be able to see him, even if she is on the other side of the park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's fine for your kid to run around without the nanny hovering, but she should always be able to see him, even if she is on the other side of the park.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I drove by the park on the way home and saw my nanny on the bench looking at her phone. I couldn't see my 16 month old son anywhere, I drove all around the park and saw him on the opposite side of the park (where she would not be able to see him) picking up a random banana from a bench and about to eat it. It upset me so much. I put my car somewhere ran over to him and found my nanny who didn't seem fazed at all. I asked why she wasn't watching him and looking at her phone and she said he always runs around the park and he doesn't like to sit still by her. She said "do you want me to hold him or sit next to him the whole time"? It rubbed me the wrong way and I did raise my voice and asked her why she thought it was ok to be sitting on the opposite side of the park from him and she should be able to at least see him at all times in the park...
She totally acted like it was no big deal and I felt like it was unsafe. Was I wrong?

terrible actions, terrible response. lazy lazy lazy. no phone time around kid either. no no no