My charge doesn't seem to like me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP, any kid you work with is going to try to push your buttons. You cannot be taking things this seriously and personally if you expect to be able to work with children past the verbal stage. If you need and want adoration from the children you work with, then perhaps you should be working exclusively with infants. Toddlers, preschoolers, and older kids to are all working on independence from caregivers, and a big piece of that is intentionally pushing buttons and trying to get a reaction out of you. If you stay calm and get your emotional support from some more appropriate source such as a peer of any kind rather than from a child, then they will see that the behavior gets them nothing and move on and be able to bond with you. If every time a small child is "mean" to you it hurts your feelings, then you are in the wrong profession as a nanny. Kids don't do crap like this to their preschool teachers. Maybe you are better suited for that field.

Yup.

[Anonymous]

My charge is an asshole and I don't care too much for him. Even his dad has called him a jerk to one of his teachers because, well he is. However I love his parents and his brother. I love him too just don't like him much and his attitude. He is a know it all and very disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

OP here and yes, sounds like my charge. Except his parents think he shits butterflies and don't for one moment think he can be a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yeah, I wouldn't say budding sociopath but he is manipulative and can be cruel. Guess I just have to accept things the way they are and look for another job. Would be nice to have a really strong bond with the kids I nanny for. Like the ones I used to have at the preschool and which other nannies have with their charges.

Op, I say this kindly Quit. You don't know what you are doing with this age group and all of your responses are making it painfully clear. The fact that you are taking anything a 6 year old does personally speaks volumes. Preschoolers and kindergartners (VERY FEW, btw, are manipulative and cruel ) are worlds apart, you know in your heart you aren't cut out for this.

[Anonymous]

Sweetheart, I ran an out of school club for 8 years. Yes, I am more used to preschool kids but I am able to deal with older kids as my outstanding inspection report proves. Do not patronise me. I am just upset he isn't bonding with me, not devastated obviously, just a bit upset and concerned. I am not basing my happiness around a 6 yr old, that would be insanity
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I do laugh at how many of you claim to know so much about a person through just one post. Gotta love DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sweetheart, I ran an out of school club for 8 years. Yes, I am more used to preschool kids but I am able to deal with older kids as my outstanding inspection report proves. Do not patronise me. I am just upset he isn't bonding with me, not devastated obviously, just a bit upset and concerned. I am not basing my happiness around a 6 yr old, that would be insanity
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I do laugh at how many of you claim to know so much about a person through just one post. Gotta love DCUM.

We know what you have told us. Your feelings are hurt because a 6-year-old is picking on you. You assume yhat this is indicative of the 6yo having/being a problem because you have SO much experience (in group settings only). Any nanny will tell you that this kind of boundary-pushing and verbal agression is just as age-appropriate for a 6yo as hitting is for a young toddler.