One of my employers passed away unexpectedly

[Anonymous]

Only 70%? Why? Was the sister writing you a check out of her account and that's all she could cover until she has access to her sister's account, or are they actually trying to short you 30% of your pay? Because honestly it sounds like you should get a bonus for your actions, if anything.

[Anonymous]

Mom may not have access to all the money or there may not be much after bills and funeral expenses. Look for a new job.

[Anonymous]

If they shortpaid you, they should have given you a reason why and quickly pay the balance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom may not have access to all the money or there may not be much after bills and funeral expenses. Look for a new job.

OP again,

those are my thoughts. I was always paid via DB and MB had little to nothing to do with my pay/taxes. Everything seems a bit odd. MB is absolutely not cognizant. I believe she's on some pretty heavy prescriptions to keep herself somewhat sedated. It's still a mad house with family members in and out and being very hush hush. I have the children half the time and they're really having a hard time because of the lack of schedule.

I'm at a loss. I feel like something is up, and I can't get a clear answer. I hate to leave this family, these kids..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mom may not have access to all the money or there may not be much after bills and funeral expenses. Look for a new job.

OP again,

those are my thoughts. I was always paid via DB and MB had little to nothing to do with my pay/taxes. Everything seems a bit odd. MB is absolutely not cognizant. I believe she's on some pretty heavy prescriptions to keep herself somewhat sedated. It's still a mad house with family members in and out and being very hush hush. I have the children half the time and they're really having a hard time because of the lack of schedule.

I'm at a loss. I feel like something is up, and I can't get a clear answer. I hate to leave this family, these kids..

You need to look for another job, find one and talk to the Mom on if you are staying or not. Mom may not be able to afford a nanny even if she still needs one. They are losing Dad's income, which for many families is significant. She may not have access to all the accounts if Dad pays for everything and takes care of it. Its a bad situation. However, you need your income and need to protect yourself.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for their loss and all you have been going through but they should absolutely be able to pay you fully because most responsible families have life insurance ( through work, auto, privately) set up for these kind of unfortunate circumstances. I would record every hour and ask them to be compensated. Also look for another job....grieving children/household won't be easy to care for. Their mother and family members should take time off work and stay with them ( hence why life insurance protection is really important).

[Anonymous]

Monday morning, go to work and before anything say "I'm really sorry for all that you are going through.
However, I need to be paid my full wage today. I have bills that depend on my full pay, and I can't delay them. "
Then be quiet. No need to further explain, and certainly don't apologize. Stay firm and quiet the rest f the day until you are paid.
If they don't cut the check before you leave, go up to mom or sister and say, "Can I please have the remainder of my check now?"
I feel terrible for her, but they need to carve out the 2 minutes to make sure you are paid for your services.
-MB

[Anonymous]

Another MB here. I wouldn't be surprised if DB handled all the bill-paying and your payroll. This is a very difficult situation all around but you need to be paid. 16:10 gave excellent advice. I also think, for your sake, you should start looking for another position in case the payroll problems continue. When interviewing, ask if the family offers direct deposit. My nanny is paid automatically by our payroll company from our joint checking account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Monday morning, go to work and before anything say "I'm really sorry for all that you are going through.
However, I need to be paid my full wage today. I have bills that depend on my full pay, and I can't delay them. "
Then be quiet. No need to further explain, and certainly don't apologize. Stay firm and quiet the rest f the day until you are paid.
If they don't cut the check before you leave, go up to mom or sister and say, "Can I please have the remainder of my check now?"
I feel terrible for her, but they need to carve out the 2 minutes to make sure you are paid for your services.
-MB

This.

[Anonymous]

A similar situation happened with a acquaintance. Husband passed away suddenly and she didn't have the user names and passwords to their accounts. He had done all their banking online and was the one who got cash from the ATM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry for their loss and all you have been going through but they should absolutely be able to pay you fully because most responsible families have life insurance ( through work, auto, privately) set up for these kind of unfortunate circumstances. I would record every hour and ask them to be compensated. Also look for another job....grieving children/household won't be easy to care for. Their mother and family members should take time off work and stay with them ( hence why life insurance protection is really important).

When my dad died, it took more than 6 months to get the life insurance check. I was surprised it took that long and have wondered ever since then if that was typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes I agree you need to ask the sister if she is the one telling you when to work. Tell her you haven't been paid and I would have a log ready with the days and hours you have worked so it will be easy for her to get you a check. And I don't think it's out of line to ask how long they will continue to need you, whether short term or long term.

+ 1

This.
And you sound like a loyal Nanny for working for free at times due to the difficult situation.

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Monday morning, go to work and before anything say "I'm really sorry for all that you are going through.
However, I need to be paid my full wage today. I have bills that depend on my full pay, and I can't delay them. "
Then be quiet. No need to further explain, and certainly don't apologize. Stay firm and quiet the rest f the day until you are paid.
If they don't cut the check before you leave, go up to mom or sister and say, "Can I please have the remainder of my check now?"
I feel terrible for her, but they need to carve out the 2 minutes to make sure you are paid for your services.
-MB

This.

Yes, this. I'm sure the funeral home has been paid and any catering for receptions. Most people would assume you are on a direct withdrawal payment, especially if you don't speak up. Be direct, polite and firm.

[Anonymous]

You should be paid for all the time you worked. I hope you kept track of all your hours.