Therapy sessions for nanny

[Anonymous]

I would be totally fine with this, tbh, if it was a pre-existing commitment (it's often hard to change a therapist's hours for a standing weekly appointment and many therapists don't have any appointments during typical nanny off hours) and you loved the nanny. I'm surprised that so many people are bothered by this for a 6 month old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be totally fine with this, tbh, if it was a pre-existing commitment (it's often hard to change a therapist's hours for a standing weekly appointment and many therapists don't have any appointments during typical nanny off hours) and you loved the nanny. I'm surprised that so many people are bothered by this for a 6 month old.

The baby will be six months old for exactly 1 month. And who says this particular baby will be a good napper?

Are you a mom? Have you ever had therapy? Was everything you discussed appropriate for a six-month-old (maybe)? A one-year-old? An 18-month-old who might repeat things, too?
What if something upsetting comes up in therapy?

Imagine yourself, for a moment, in a therapy session with your baby.
First, you're hoping the baby doesn't wake up.
Then, you're hoping if the baby wakes up, he/she will be contented with whatever toy you've got.
Or, you're now planning to pull out a bottle and feed the baby during your session. And then change him or her. And maybe the baby is content and easy, or maybe s/he's teething.
In any case, you are no longer focusing on the task at hand, which is your therapy. You are at least half focused on the baby.

And now imagine this is your nanny. She is paying for an hour of therapy, and your baby won't sleep, or wakes up halfway through ... So now either she ignores your baby to finish her therapy, or she abandons the therapy that she's paying for. If she's a reasonable person, she decides at that point that this is a terrible idea and never does it again. If she's less reasonable, she complains to you about it and makes it your problem somehow.

I'm guessing that the original MB, because she was in mental health, thought it was a fantastic idea. I think it's an awful one, and not just for the logistics.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks we will come up with another solution. A friend of ours is moving and her nanny is amazing. We've been discussing having her work for us and my friend let me know that she has this one appt weekly and that she just brought baby a long with her.

Is it mental health therapy or physical therapy?

Mental, all I know it's more routine. So no crisis but just an hour to decompress. My friend works in mental health and is super open with it.

This. I'd think it'd be a good thing to have an adult conversation at least once a week.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks we will come up with another solution. A friend of ours is moving and her nanny is amazing. We've been discussing having her work for us and my friend let me know that she has this one appt weekly and that she just brought baby a long with her.

Is it mental health therapy or physical therapy?

Mental, all I know it's more routine. So no crisis but just an hour to decompress. My friend works in mental health and is super open with it.

This. I'd think it'd be a good thing to have an adult conversation at least once a week.

So let her meet up with friends or something. I am surprised how many people think it is totally appropriate to take a child to an adult's therapy session. And I know you're going to say "it's an infant," but unless this nanny job hops as soon as her charges can talk, that won't matter for long.