How to handle this situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is an isolated incident and she otherwise is a top-notch Nanny, then I would let it all go.

It is the parent's responsibility to always have a backup plan in place in case of emergencies.

Not the Nanny's fault for losing her keys.

To err is only human....

You are obviously not an employer. It was entirely the nanny's fault for losing her own car keys and not having a second set. When you have a nanny and no notice that she isn't coming in, the backup plan is you don't get to work unless your spouse can cover or you have local family available at a few moments notice. Actions have consequences.

[Anonymous]

OP, our nanny is absent-minded, too. I really regret not docking her pay when she was late because it slowly became a trend where sh*t kept happening to her to make her late. The difference, though, is that our nanny was new while your nanny's built up goodwill with you for the last couple years. Having said that, I think it's perfectly reasonable to dock her pay assuming that she gets paid extra time whenever you come home late. Especially considering you feel like she is getting less reliable and you sound concerned this will not be a one-off. Now is the time to be firm with her and set expectations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is an isolated incident and she otherwise is a top-notch Nanny, then I would let it all go.

It is the parent's responsibility to always have a backup plan in place in case of emergencies.

Not the Nanny's fault for losing her keys.

To err is only human....

You are obviously not an employer. It was entirely the nanny's fault for losing her own car keys and not having a second set. When you have a nanny and no notice that she isn't coming in, the backup plan is you don't get to work unless your spouse can cover or you have local family available at a few moments notice. Actions have consequences.

Yes of course they do.
But sometimes life throws you curveballs.
We all know this.

My life motto:----> Always have a Plan B in place.
Always,

[Anonymous]

If it was the first time, I would go easy but be firm at the same time. Something like:

'Larla, We need to discuss what happened the other morning. It cannot happen again, I need someone I can rely on and I felt you did not handle the situation well the other week. It is imperative you get here on time and take responsibility. Next time, I will dock your pay but for this occurence, I am prepared to give you just a warning. '

[Anonymous]

It was the nanny's fault, and parents should always have back up options.

Talk to your neighbors, people. Of course you'll need to reciprocate in some way. Why not?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I agree you also need to have back up, PP.
If I was ever late, I know my MB's neighbor would step in.

[Anonymous]

I'm a little bit shocked by most responses.
I'm a great nanny of 10 years, and I'm all of 10 years working most days (mo-sat), I overslept on
Only 2 occasions. Stuff happens. It is totally the families responsibility to have childcare and back up set up for all times.
What if the nanny wakes up super sick? What if she gets in a car accident, what if there's a road closure...
I have no family close to myself, my friends work.
If something like that happens, some nannies might panicky at first and seek the advice of their bosses.
You should have had a neighbor or a friend come over for a few minutes, until she would get there. It's called
Back up. That way you could leave on time.
Parents who don't have back up really scare me, especially if they have important jobs to get to.
She worked for you for 2 years, you should be more understanding. If she's mature and great, omg, people oversleep,
It will happen to you too one day. One day in 2 years, that's actually very good, look at other nannies who don't take their jobs seriously
And call out every other day.
Idk but being upset about that is really not fair.
Again, not every nanny has family, friends ready to drive them to work at any second.
But what bothers me the most is that she's been with you for 2 years, and you think about
Educating her and taking an hours pay away from her. Seriously, you can't just let it go?!?!?!
Should it happen again, you can talk about it more.
If a boss did this to me, me being a 30 year old mature responsible adult working 6 days a week, 10 years of experience, I'd give you my notice,
Seriously LOL

[Anonymous]

MB here.

I wouldn't dock her pay, but I would speak to her a week or so later. I would let her know what happens when you are late.

Tell her that everyone makes mistakes. Agree on a policy that is for both of you - if you are late, she gets XXX, if she is late you get XXX. Help her see this as a problem for her too -- she is inconvenienced if you are late.

Suggest the extra set of keys. Remind her that things happen but that there are ways to plan for what to do in that case. Suggest she get the Uber app as well. And then of course remind her that this is unusual and you are sure it won't happen again.

On your end, as PPs say you need a backup plan too in case something happens that really is beyond anyone's control (car accident, etc) that keeps the nanny from being there. Do you have a partner or relative you could call? A backup nanny service? Drop in daycare at work? A SAHM or other adult with a more flexible schedule in your neighborhood who could help then? Be prepared as well so you are less nervous.

Of course if this continues you'll have to make changes, but if she's been with you for 2 years hopefully a professional conversation will get things back on track.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think its mean to dock her for 45 mins. Its not like she was on a beach sipping margaritas.

Bull. It was nanny's fault for being late, despite her saying to the contrary, and OP needs to dock pay so nanny understands there are CONSEQUENCES.

And when OP Is late does she always, or ever, pay OT? Even if she does it doesn't justify docking the nanny's pay. But, hey, OP, dock her pay but don't be surprised when you na by gives you two weeks notice.

If my nanny is late in the morning, she doesn't get paid for the time she's not at my house. And if I'm late getting home from work, she gets paid until I get home. It goes both ways. No matter whether there was traffic or something totally outside someone's control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think its mean to dock her for 45 mins. Its not like she was on a beach sipping margaritas.

Bull. It was nanny's fault for being late, despite her saying to the contrary, and OP needs to dock pay so nanny understands there are CONSEQUENCES.

And when OP Is late does she always, or ever, pay OT? Even if she does it doesn't justify docking the nanny's pay. But, hey, OP, dock her pay but don't be surprised when you na by gives you two weeks notice.

If my nanny is late in the morning, she doesn't get paid for the time she's not at my house. And if I'm late getting home from work, she gets paid until I get home. It goes both ways. No matter whether there was traffic or something totally outside someone's control.

If the nanny has a good track record of reliability, I would not dock her for being late the once. If it happened again shortly thereafter, or under similar circumstances where it's her fault, I would consider docking her pay. For a new or pretty new nanny who hasn't established a track record and goodwill, or for a nanny who has reliability issues, I would definitely dock pay to illustrate consequences.

[Anonymous]

Things can happen to parents why is it ok for parents and not for nanny. remember ,we are all human been .
So parents when you hire a nanny have a back up plan .

[Anonymous]

OP, you must be the ONLY doctor that doesn't keep patients waiting!