Fellow MB's....

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are for real, don't feel awkward. We feel bad and embarrassed for you as well. We enjoy your children more than you do.

[Anonymous]

This must be a troll.

Although yeah, as a nanny I sometimes feel like inferior because my bosses are CEO's or hold PhD's...although they've all been 10-20 years older than me.

Success isn't always about education or money or marriage. Maybe her version is different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are for real, don't feel awkward. We feel bad and embarrassed for you as well. We enjoy your children more than you do.

ZING. And totally called for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're assuming she shares your goals and measures of success OP.

Don't.

I feel some guilt about how blessed i am in live, how I can afford a full-time nanny and a nice house, how I am significantly better off than many of my friends. But that's my life, that's what I and my husband worked hard to achieve and were lucky enough to be given. We have other struggles.

Some of my friends have much better health, living and healthy parents, kids without challenges, and much tighter financial situations. There are things about their lives I envy and vice versa. Doesn't really help anything to feel that way though.

+1

Well said PP.
Being successful is highly subjective.

Also you are a "Director" of a cosmetics company....??!
Must be Arbonne because that's what label they attach to any & every
one who joins their pyramid marketing "business."

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and feel embarrassed at times that my DB/MB have so much in terms of the marriage, kids, huge house, great careers but life isn't perfect for anyone.

[Anonymous]

I think my nanny feels this way sometimes. We aren't very close, and I don't confide my personal problems to her, so I really think that everything just seems rosy.

[Anonymous]

Same here PP. My nanny and I aren't very close either and I get the impression she is jealous of me at times. Not in a nasty way, just in a wishful way.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and my bosses constantly tell me they are jealous of my travels (I get 4 weeks off during the year).

I've gone to places on their bucket lists. They are now planning trips to those places with the kids and me.

I also am happy where I am in life. I live alone, can sleep in as late as I want on weekends, bring whomever home with me. Each out every night, I can go out with friends and not have to worry about a kid at home.
I have an amazing job, excellent pay, all the benefits, live in a comfortable home, drive a nice new car, and travel the world.

I wouldn't give this up for anything

[Anonymous]

I am similar to your nanny, OP. I do feel ashamed and sad at times but wouldn't want to be married to my MB's husband as I don't think he is a nice guy. I also know they have a lot of extended family issues so it isn't all as perfect as they make out.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here: I've only ever felt jealous because I'm not a mom yet and I'd like to be. That's been an issue as I've gotten older.

I've worked for families with a variety of jobs and lifestyles; it's a nice place to visit but I wouldn't want to live there is how I'd sum up my feelings about what they have.

[Anonymous]

34 year old single nanny here with no kids. I do get where OP is coming from. I think my MB feels a bit embarrassed as she and her DH have so much materially and personally compared to me. I try not to give it too much thought as it would make it too tough to continue doing this role. Comparison is the thief of joy right?