I feel like I'm being judged based on my free time - live in nanny

[Anonymous]

Yikes!
Another reason I could never be a live-in nanny. Like ever.

Sounds like these parents are taking you for granted since you are already in the house.
You shouldn't be treated like some commodity to them.

Your free time is solely for you & you only.

If they need some evening babysitting from you, they need to ask you earlier.

The fact that the always are texting you rather than asking directly implies that perhaps they know they are being inconsiderate.

A sit-down direct conversation to clear up these issues should take place stat.

Do you have other options that you can use if you decide being a live-in may not be for you?
Like a family member or close friend?

Because if you do, then it will be much easier for you to stand up for yourself.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

They are taking advantage of you. I'm so sorry- I've been in this position, many of times. It sucks. Your employers know they have so much power over you because not only are they your bosses, but they're letting you live in their house rent free. It's a power struggle, and they always win.

Do yourself a favor, sit down and rethink your budget- see if you can afford to rent a room somewhere and find a new live-out job. That's what I did after two years of going family to family dealing with this BS. I never thought I could afford it, but I made myself. Now I'm happier than ever not living under someone's constant speculation and being at their beck-and-call. I can come and go as I please and don't owe them anything besides rent. I know quitting your job and moving out is way easier said than done, but I truly hope things work out for you.

[Anonymous]

I have a live-in and I think this can easily be resolved with your family .

The way I do it is every single week I make a schedule in which it says what time the nanny will be on and off and some days it changes like today I got home at 4:15 and other nights I get home at 10 o'clock . I let her know which nights I'm going to be home and what time she can be off the clock so she can make other plans . If I have something very far in the future that I know is going to be late and I want her to have it on her calendar I tell her and if she has something she also let me know but for the most part I leave out the schedule on Sunday night and it's super clear for the entire week except perhaps say I'm running five minutes late or something like that but it's rare since I usually try to air on over scheduling because no one likes to work after they think they are supposed to.

[Anonymous]

10 & 11 yr olds can actually stay by themselves at home for a hour or two. Some could even stay longer. Is it all possible that in the evenings they are not actually expecting you to stay home and they are ok with their kids being "alone" for an hour or two between the time you get off the clock and they arrive home? They might be assuming that you know that you do not actually have to provide care during that time and are free to relax and they expect the kids to watch after themselves.