Nanny calls child "my baby". This annoys me. Am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In your post you called her DCs nanny. In real life I'm sure you've called her my nanny or our nanny at some point. It's ok for you to claim ownership of her but not the other way around?

This is OP. Actually, NO, I would never call the nanny "My nanny" or "Our nanny" when speaking to her! How weird is that?

well only you think it's weird. People do this all.the.time. You really are overly sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Some of you are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In your post you called her DCs nanny. In real life I'm sure you've called her my nanny or our nanny at some point. It's ok for you to claim ownership of her but not the other way around?

This is OP. Actually, NO, I would never call the nanny "My nanny" or "Our nanny" when speaking to her! How weird is that?

Perhaps you're real issue is leaving your child with someone else while you do other things. Not expecting you to admit it, but just a hunch. You seem insecure about their relationship.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I agree it's odd and wrong. I have cared for many babies and had a strong bond with them. I've never referred to them as " my" or " mine". I did call them cute nicknames ( little man, sweet baby, etc) but never called them mine. I think it shows a lack of respect for the true parents. Some babbies get way too attached. I love my charges but I know clear boundaries. I would have a talk and tell her you don't feel comfortable with her calling your child
" my baby". She needs to respect your feelings and wishes.

[Anonymous]

I call the kids 'my love'. If that's weird well then I don't care and I'm not stopping.

[Anonymous]

I think this is tricky. Language means different things to different people. I suspect that the real issue is that you nanny has muddier boundaries than you are comfortable with in general and that this is just one manifestation of that, rather than the real issue.

[Anonymous]

Super creepy. Tell her to stop.

[Anonymous]

I am a MB and can see both sides. I had one nanny who was super creepy loving on my baby, in a way that crossed boundaries. Was not OK with it. (For ex., after she stopped working for us she called our current nanny and asked her if she could bring the baby out to meet her and her husband for lunch. Um... )

We now have one who is really wonderful and she is very affectionate and loving with my child, tells me often that people wonder if the child is hers, lots of hugs & kisses at goodbye, and says that she enjoys doting on her as if she were her daughter. I am completely fine with it and happy that my child is getting so much genuine care.

They were both from the same country so it's not a cultural issue... I think just a personal thing with boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Funny how you want us to treat them better than our own children, and then drop them like a hot potato as soon as "the job" is done. I worked with a newborn 65 hours a week for two years when the parents decided to get a single live-in person. The poor baby suffered abandonment according to some researchers.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny calls our girls her babies and her princesses ... she spends 50 hours a week with/or ferrying around my children. I think it's great she has affection and love for them. I also think it's good to remember that professional, full time nannies choose to spend their careers with kids, so they enjoy children more than someone like me, who spends my life in the dismal science.

[Anonymous]

My MB gave me a thank you card on Mothers Day. She wrote " your are M second mom" and sometimes she texted me picture of her baby and saying " look how cute your baby today"

She also address me as "mama M". For example "say bye bye to Mama M"

I'm bless with this!