How much to offer to a live-in nanny?

[Anonymous]

I think she is not telling me everything. I am so confused.
She said she was an Aupair for another family then the contract ended and she started living with this current family. That she is on a student visa. That she doesn't get paid but works for another family on weekends and gets paid a little. The family she lives with forgets to buy groceries so she is basically starving. I think this is abuse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she is not telling me everything. I am so confused.
She said she was an Aupair for another family then the contract ended and she started living with this current family. That she is on a student visa. That she doesn't get paid but works for another family on weekends and gets paid a little. The family she lives with forgets to buy groceries so she is basically starving. I think this is abuse

You need to ask her if she is legal to work in the US. Outside of the Au Pair program, a student visa has a lot of restrictions on work: no more than 20/hrs wk max, she needs permission if it is off-campus employment (this is an F1 visa). If it's a J1 (the au pair visa), she is only legal to work through her program.

I agree that it sounds like she is being exploited. However, you have some decisions to make here. How important is it to you that she be legal to work? How important is it to you to "save" her from the current situation? This is a bad situation all around. I might try to find out what her visa is, and then make some anonymous calls to see what you can do to help. My guess is that she is in the US at least sort of legally (perhaps she transferred to an F1 after J1 was ended), but that she is not legal to work.

You could report what's going on, but that might put her in the cross-hairs of immigration officials.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you are the one who is hoping to exploit someone on a student visa. You want to take her in, make her your nanny and pay her close to nothing ($0-$100).

A student visa means she is a student, and she is not supposed to work, other than a few hours on campus. Leave her alone, and stop pretending you are trying to save her from a dire situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are the one who is hoping to exploit someone on a student visa. You want to take her in, make her your nanny and pay her close to nothing ($0-$100).

A student visa means she is a student, and she is not supposed to work, other than a few hours on campus. Leave her alone, and stop pretending you are trying to save her from a dire situation.

What an idiot you are! Read my original post. It says "how much to pay to a live-in nanny". I wanted to offer $15 an hour but wasn't sure! Right now I am not even sure we need this headache given that she is not being clear about her visa. I know nothing about Aupairs so decided to post here and of course getting useless comments like yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she is not telling me everything. I am so confused.
She said she was an Aupair for another family then the contract ended and she started living with this current family. That she is on a student visa. That she doesn't get paid but works for another family on weekends and gets paid a little. The family she lives with forgets to buy groceries so she is basically starving. I think this is abuse

You need to ask her if she is legal to work in the US. Outside of the Au Pair program, a student visa has a lot of restrictions on work: no more than 20/hrs wk max, she needs permission if it is off-campus employment (this is an F1 visa). If it's a J1 (the au pair visa), she is only legal to work through her program.

I agree that it sounds like she is being exploited. However, you have some decisions to make here. How important is it to you that she be legal to work? How important is it to you to "save" her from the current situation? This is a bad situation all around. I might try to find out what her visa is, and then make some anonymous calls to see what you can do to help. My guess is that she is in the US at least sort of legally (perhaps she transferred to an F1 after J1 was ended), but that she is not legal to work.

You could report what's going on, but that might put her in the cross-hairs of immigration officials.

I do feel pretty bad for her. She is from my country of birth and maybe that's why I feel like helping her. She is so skinny and it's just crazy raft they forget to buy groceries for her! But no, I would not report anything and jeopardize her plans for future. She is a very nice girl.

[Anonymous]

OP, if she's on a student visa, she cannot work for you. Students on F-1 visas can work only up to 20 hrs a week, and they need permission if this work is off campus. This permission is usually granted only for work related to their major.

You have to decide if being completely legal is important to you. I have no judgment either way, I just wanted to let you know what the law says about this situation.

[Anonymous]

Most employers of domestics still pay off the books. That's why no one can verify the pay rates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you are the one who is hoping to exploit someone on a student visa. You want to take her in, make her your nanny and pay her close to nothing ($0-$100).

A student visa means she is a student, and she is not supposed to work, other than a few hours on campus. Leave her alone, and stop pretending you are trying to save her from a dire situation.

What an idiot you are! Read my original post. It says "how much to pay to a live-in nanny". I wanted to offer $15 an hour but wasn't sure! Right now I am not even sure we need this headache given that she is not being clear about her visa. I know nothing about Aupairs so decided to post here and of course getting useless comments like yours.

Simply ask her what she would want to accept your (detailed) job description. Done.