Son locked nanny in a room nanny enforcing punishment

[Anonymous]

Sadly op appears to be that mom.

[Anonymous]

1) That is not typical behavior. If it happened one to a 2yo, sure, but a repeat offender at that age is showing that he lacks boundaries and/or supervision.

2) I agree that nanny should have instituted an immediate consequence. The fact that he is just as "naughty" for the nanny says that he's either undiagnosed special needs or she is not much of a disciplinarian either.

3) You and nanny need to take a parenting class and get on the same page. Your son is not "a handful." He is demonstrating a lack of executive function on his part or a lack of limite-setting on your part. In either case, he will need you to teach him better strategies, not just wait for him to magically age into self-control.

[Anonymous]

You need to fix the lock so he can't do it. He's getting a huge reaction from everyone by acting this way, so in his mind, it's successful. I'd be very surprised if a week of anything makes any difference to a three-year-old, however.

[Anonymous]

He is a horrible brat and he needs a good
Lesson, e.g., bike is gone forever. I hoped the nanny finds a New job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I don't know where it was stated that I didn't talk to my ds about this but I did apologize profusely to our nanny when I called her that day and found out.

To the people saying my child is a monster you must not be parents yourselves because kids especially little boys can be a handful.

I'm a nanny to two little boys, definitely not a handful. You can't chalk up bad parenting to "boys will be boys"....

[Anonymous]

This cannot be real. OP your son is a douche bag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This cannot be real. OP your son is a douche bag

Honestly, it's not that her son is a monster. Op is just a push over parent who thinks these things are "kids being kids". I mean how can he learn his behavior is wrong if mommy doesn't think it is? She will be in for a wake up call soon, unfortunately she will have already ruined her son.

[Anonymous]

I think adult criminals are often spoiled rotten as children. We the people don't think evil behavior is cute... at ANY age.

Get your sorry head out of the sand, op, BEFORE it's too late.

[Anonymous]

Wow, have you talked to his doctor? This is so regular you have keys for this?

You are lucky he didn't seriously hurt himself while unsupervised. What kind of punishment did you give him, besides a motorbike? No basement playtime is a completely reasonable consequence (and a smart safety decision, it sounds like.)

If your kid was under the age of 2, it would be a different story. 3.5? Stop coddling him. You should be seriously apologizing to your nanny, and I'm an MB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This cannot be real. OP your son is a douche bag

Honestly, it's not that her son is a monster. Op is just a push over parent who thinks these things are "kids being kids". I mean how can he learn his behavior is wrong if mommy doesn't think it is? She will be in for a wake up call soon, unfortunately she will have already ruined her son.

You make a good point. OP you are a douche bag too.

[Anonymous]

My child locked me out ONCE and never again. Why? Because I was clear with him that it is dangerous and if it ever happened again I would call the police, for HIS safety. You obviously have not made the seriousness of it clear. This isn't a kid hitting. This is way over the top, and I have a "handful little boy" myself.

And seriously, who cares if you had a bike you already purchased? I purchase things all the time to be given at a later date. You know when that later date isn't? RIGHT AFTER THEY HAVE DONE SOMETHING DANGEROUS.

Your husband sounds pretty daft as well, to bolt the door knowing your son's history and to sleep through all that commotion.

[Anonymous]

Wow you're son sounds out of control. I have parents who use " boys will be boys". That's a load of BS. There are so many things wrong in this situation. First, you're son locked your nanny in the basement ( which he has done many times to you), Second, you rewarded him for his bad behavior by giving him his bike Third, you think the nanny is being too " harsh".

I say you are not being harsh enough. A 3.5 year old knows right from wrong. Your son is being a brat because he knows there are no consequences. He should not be locking someone in a basement more than once. Clearly talking isn't working. I would've showed him the toy bike and then told him because he decided to do X, he's not getting it for a week.

You're thinking is the reason he acts like such a brat. I wouldn't be surprised if he's the next Influenza kid or worse. He already knows his bad behavior will be rewarded with gifts.

[Anonymous]

Next Influenza or Brock Turner.

[Anonymous]

OP:
You need to nip his behavior in the bud. Like yesterday.

Your son is acting this way primarily because he does not face consequences of any kind for his bad behavior(s).
If you continue to allow this behavior, your son may be on the America's Most Wanted Top Ten in 2036.
And that is no laughing matter.

You are not acknowledging the seriousness of his actions. And if you don't, neither will he.

When I was a kid, behavior such as his would have landed me a much-deserved good ol' fashioned spanking. Or restrictions to stay in my room for two weeks.

But I acknowledge that this is 2016.
So to be PC, your son needs to apologize directly to his nanny. He needs to be 100% sincere and you need to remain consistent that he doesn't let this happen again.

Don't let him have access to his bike for a week or two.
And support your nanny's punishment for him. You need to work together as a team to discipline your child.

Otherwise what are you paying her for??!
Someone to be a recipient of his abuse??!

[Anonymous]

My older sister locked my mom out of the house when she was 3 while my mom was bringing groceries in. It NEVER happened again. If this has happened multiple times you need to take a look at how your parent or he is going to have a rough awakening when he starts school.