Boy colors and girl colors

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

That's what I've been doing but I'm finding it increasingly harder. If it's just the kids and me then that's what I do anyway, but the mom recently complained she couldn't put the boy in bright red leggings the girl used to wear because the color is too bright and after being all 'oh surely it's okay, he's a baby and it's just a color' I had to excuse myself and go breathe in the other room.

We're probably not a good fit. The parents both made some dubious comments about refugees and people of color that didn't sit well with me, and their parenting philosophy is probably not exactly my own. But they treat me extremely well, the pay if great and they're relocating in a few months, I'm only part-time with them and I love the kids, so I'm thinking I can stick it out. I try to be out of the house as much as possible, so it's mostly fine. It's just that the last few days the mother seems a bit unhinged about gender stereotypes and I had an overdose of that and of her.

Why are you countermanding what the parents choose to teach their children? They are their children and it's the parents' choice to raise them in whatever way they choose. You are the nanny, you either need to be in agreement with them and back them up or you need to be quiet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

That's what I've been doing but I'm finding it increasingly harder. If it's just the kids and me then that's what I do anyway, but the mom recently complained she couldn't put the boy in bright red leggings the girl used to wear because the color is too bright and after being all 'oh surely it's okay, he's a baby and it's just a color' I had to excuse myself and go breathe in the other room.

We're probably not a good fit. The parents both made some dubious comments about refugees and people of color that didn't sit well with me, and their parenting philosophy is probably not exactly my own. But they treat me extremely well, the pay if great and they're relocating in a few months, I'm only part-time with them and I love the kids, so I'm thinking I can stick it out. I try to be out of the house as much as possible, so it's mostly fine. It's just that the last few days the mother seems a bit unhinged about gender stereotypes and I had an overdose of that and of her.

Why are you countermanding what the parents choose to teach their children? They are their children and it's the parents' choice to raise them in whatever way they choose. You are the nanny, you either need to be in agreement with them and back them up or you need to be quiet.

Because I choose not to be part of a system that harms and hurts children, that's why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

That's what I've been doing but I'm finding it increasingly harder. If it's just the kids and me then that's what I do anyway, but the mom recently complained she couldn't put the boy in bright red leggings the girl used to wear because the color is too bright and after being all 'oh surely it's okay, he's a baby and it's just a color' I had to excuse myself and go breathe in the other room.

We're probably not a good fit. The parents both made some dubious comments about refugees and people of color that didn't sit well with me, and their parenting philosophy is probably not exactly my own. But they treat me extremely well, the pay if great and they're relocating in a few months, I'm only part-time with them and I love the kids, so I'm thinking I can stick it out. I try to be out of the house as much as possible, so it's mostly fine. It's just that the last few days the mother seems a bit unhinged about gender stereotypes and I had an overdose of that and of her.

Why are you countermanding what the parents choose to teach their children? They are their children and it's the parents' choice to raise them in whatever way they choose. You are the nanny, you either need to be in agreement with them and back them up or you need to be quiet.

Because I choose not to be part of a system that harms and hurts children, that's why.

*applause* Good for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

That's what I've been doing but I'm finding it increasingly harder. If it's just the kids and me then that's what I do anyway, but the mom recently complained she couldn't put the boy in bright red leggings the girl used to wear because the color is too bright and after being all 'oh surely it's okay, he's a baby and it's just a color' I had to excuse myself and go breathe in the other room.

We're probably not a good fit. The parents both made some dubious comments about refugees and people of color that didn't sit well with me, and their parenting philosophy is probably not exactly my own. But they treat me extremely well, the pay if great and they're relocating in a few months, I'm only part-time with them and I love the kids, so I'm thinking I can stick it out. I try to be out of the house as much as possible, so it's mostly fine. It's just that the last few days the mother seems a bit unhinged about gender stereotypes and I had an overdose of that and of her.

Why are you countermanding what the parents choose to teach their children? They are their children and it's the parents' choice to raise them in whatever way they choose. You are the nanny, you either need to be in agreement with them and back them up or you need to be quiet.

Because I choose not to be part of a system that harms and hurts children, that's why.

It doesn't hurt or harm the children. Apply your views to your children, not your nks when you would countermand your employer. Did you tell them during your interview that you would do things your way regardless of how they want their children raised?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

That's what I've been doing but I'm finding it increasingly harder. If it's just the kids and me then that's what I do anyway, but the mom recently complained she couldn't put the boy in bright red leggings the girl used to wear because the color is too bright and after being all 'oh surely it's okay, he's a baby and it's just a color' I had to excuse myself and go breathe in the other room.

We're probably not a good fit. The parents both made some dubious comments about refugees and people of color that didn't sit well with me, and their parenting philosophy is probably not exactly my own. But they treat me extremely well, the pay if great and they're relocating in a few months, I'm only part-time with them and I love the kids, so I'm thinking I can stick it out. I try to be out of the house as much as possible, so it's mostly fine. It's just that the last few days the mother seems a bit unhinged about gender stereotypes and I had an overdose of that and of her.

Why are you countermanding what the parents choose to teach their children? They are their children and it's the parents' choice to raise them in whatever way they choose. You are the nanny, you either need to be in agreement with them and back them up or you need to be quiet.

Because I choose not to be part of a system that harms and hurts children, that's why.

It doesn't hurt or harm the children. Apply your views to your children, not your nks when you would countermand your employer. Did you tell them during your interview that you would do things your way regardless of how they want their children raised?!

Look, why would I ever want to make the girl I love dearly feel like anything less than what she could be? Why should I be limiting her? What good reason is there? The fact that her parents are stuck in the previous century? That's not good enough.

And this idea that boys and girls should be certain things and shouldn't be others does hurt and harm them. A half of the population cannot deal with their emotions in a healthy way because they are told they should be strong and never cry; the other half is prevented from reaching their potential because they have a different purpose. And the people who don't fit into these arbitrary norms and bullied and cast away. That's bullshit. Life is so much more than these ridiculous rules, and if there is one child who is going to say 'oy, all colors are for everyone' when they're told pink is for girls because they heard me - then I've done my job as a human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd just keep pushing back against the stereotypes, in a totally matter-of-fact way, using a bright, cheerful, isn't-this-obvious kind of tone.

"Of course, boys can dance ballet! I love Mikhail Baryshnikov; he's probably one of the best dancers ever."

"Of course girls can wear blue! Sleeping Beauty had a beautiful blue dress. So did Elsa!"

"Of course boys can play with dolls!"

"Of course boys can wear pink!"

Aren't most male ballet dancers gay?

First: So? Boys can still be ballet dancers.
Second: No, they aren't. That is a really dumb stereotype. Examples I found in five minutes on Google:

Mikhail Barishnikov (married to Lisa Rinehart)
Benjamin Millepied (married to Natalie Portman)
Ivan Vasiliev (married to Maria Vinogradova)
Carlos Acosta (married to Charlotte Acosta)
Damian Woetzel (married to Heather Watts)
Robert Fairchild (married to Tiler Peck)
Troy Schumacher (married to Ashley Laracey)
Jonathan Staffer (married to Brittany Pollack)
Thiago Soares (married to Marianela Nuñez)
Carlos Guerra (married to Jennifer Kronenberg)
Sergei Polunin (dating Natalia Osipova)
Justin Peck (dating Patricia Delgado)
Yasuo Atsuji (married to Nao Sakuma)
Alex Manning (married to Ella Titus)