What did she mean ( offer)?

[Anonymous]

Op. Did you get the job

[Anonymous]

Yah op did you get the job

[Anonymous]

OP again. I seem to not have gotten the job, they have not returned any of my texts or told me anything either way. I never got anything that convinced me 100% from the responses here so I simply texted her letting her know I was not not sure if they were extending an offer and if they were I was not sure if they were the family I wanted to work for yet. I wanted her to think I had other offers or was interviewing multiple families, hoping for a better offer/rate, unfortunately I wasn't interviewing other families and now they won't respond. I can only assume they went with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I seem to not have gotten the job, they have not returned any of my texts or told me anything either way. I never got anything that convinced me 100% from the responses here so I simply texted her letting her know I was not not sure if they were extending an offer and if they were I was not sure if they were the family I wanted to work for yet. I wanted her to think I had other offers or was interviewing multiple families, hoping for a better offer/rate, unfortunately I wasn't interviewing other families and now they won't respond. I can only assume they went with someone else.

Wait , what ? Did you want the job ? Because if so you totally blew it with your text to them. You don't ask someone if they are going to hire you. Also telling them you're not sure they were the family you wanted to work for ? You basically told them you didn't want the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I seem to not have gotten the job, they have not returned any of my texts or told me anything either way. I never got anything that convinced me 100% from the responses here so I simply texted her letting her know I was not not sure if they were extending an offer and if they were I was not sure if they were the family I wanted to work for yet. I wanted her to think I had other offers or was interviewing multiple families, hoping for a better offer/rate, unfortunately I wasn't interviewing other families and now they won't respond. I can only assume they went with someone else.

Wait , what ? Did you want the job ? Because if so you totally blew it with your text to them. You don't ask someone if they are going to hire you. Also telling them you're not sure they were the family you wanted to work for ? You basically told them you didn't want the job.

Agree with this, when you try to play the game of,( I am so good I have several offers so if you want me you better make it good ), you risk losing the position. A previous post by and MB was good, saying that you were a top choice and was good news that you were getting a second interview. Many nannies looking for work try the games approach and usually blow getting the position they were interviewing for, it is a learning experience.

[Anonymous]

Oh boy, you definitely blew it. I would not play games with people like that. If you want the job you say how excited you are to meet with them again and when is a good time. You nail down dates and times and show enthusiasm, not say I'm not sure if I want to work for you. That's saying you don't want the job so of course they moved on.

[Anonymous]

That's a shame OP. Unfortunately I agree that you probably blew it with your text, though they still should have responded or followed up to let you know they chose someone else.

[Anonymous]

Wait you texted back that you weren't sure they were the family for you? That's not even "blowing" it in the traditional sense, if I were the MB, I would take that as you declining the position. How bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I seem to not have gotten the job, they have not returned any of my texts or told me anything either way. I never got anything that convinced me 100% from the responses here so I simply texted her letting her know I was not not sure if they were extending an offer and if they were I was not sure if they were the family I wanted to work for yet. I wanted her to think I had other offers or was interviewing multiple families, hoping for a better offer/rate, unfortunately I wasn't interviewing other families and now they won't respond. I can only assume they went with someone else.

Wait , what ? Did you want the job ? Because if so you totally blew it with your text to them. You don't ask someone if they are going to hire you. Also telling them you're not sure they were the family you wanted to work for ? You basically told them you didn't want the job.

I did want the job as far as the family goes, MB was very nice and the child seemed sweet and easy but I see on here that the going rate is up to $25/hr and she offered less than that so I sent the text hoping she would come up a bit. I guess I could send her a text out of the blue asking for an update and telling her I've looked at my finances and options and I am willing to settle for them? I don't know whats best here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again. I seem to not have gotten the job, they have not returned any of my texts or told me anything either way. I never got anything that convinced me 100% from the responses here so I simply texted her letting her know I was not not sure if they were extending an offer and if they were I was not sure if they were the family I wanted to work for yet. I wanted her to think I had other offers or was interviewing multiple families, hoping for a better offer/rate, unfortunately I wasn't interviewing other families and now they won't respond. I can only assume they went with someone else.

Wait , what ? Did you want the job ? Because if so you totally blew it with your text to them. You don't ask someone if they are going to hire you. Also telling them you're not sure they were the family you wanted to work for ? You basically told them you didn't want the job.

I did want the job as far as the family goes, MB was very nice and the child seemed sweet and easy but I see on here that the going rate is up to $25/hr and she offered less than that so I sent the text hoping she would come up a bit. I guess I could send her a text out of the blue asking for an update and telling her I've looked at my finances and options and I am willing to settle for them? I don't know whats best here.

OP, you are an idiot, that's all there is to it. No. You do not text her again saying you will settle!
Please find a new job field, on with much less responsibility and simple common sense required.

[Anonymous]

Up to $25/hour? Those are top, top pay rates for one child. As in, almost no one makes that. If she was offering market rate, and you came back with "I'm not sure you're the right family for me," it sounded like a brush off.

You need to decide what your hourly rate is, not try to play games with potential employers. You might be able to negotiate $1-$3 more per hour, especially if the initial offer is low, but you can't just expect people to jump when you play hard to get.

I want a nanny who is excited about my job, not one I have to chase and grudgingly agrees. It 's a bad idea to chase romantic partners, and a bad idea to chase nannies. A good relationship only comes out of being upfront and honest about your needs and feelings, in both cases.

[Anonymous]

A professional and experienced nanny could
probably earn $25 per hour. But you are
neither of these.

[Anonymous]

$25/hour for one kid as a starting rate for a full time job? Absent special needs, I just can't imagine. That's on the highish end for a nanny share. I seriously hope you're not getting all of your salary advice from DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Up to $25/hour? Those are top, top pay rates for one child. As in, almost no one makes that. If she was offering market rate, and you came back with "I'm not sure you're the right family for me," it sounded like a brush off.

You need to decide what your hourly rate is, not try to play games with potential employers. You might be able to negotiate $1-$3 more per hour, especially if the initial offer is low, but you can't just expect people to jump when you play hard to get.

I want a nanny who is excited about my job, not one I have to chase and grudgingly agrees. It's a bad idea to chase romantic partners, and a bad idea to chase nannies. A good relationship only comes out of being upfront and honest about your needs and feelings, in both cases.

+1 If I interview a potential nanny and she doesn't seem pleased about both the job AND the benefits that I'm offering, then I would look elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anyone else think we're being trolled "I see on here that the going rate is $25 an hour..."

Please.