Do I pay sitter for playdate?

[Anonymous]

A parent here. If I were the nanny's primary employer I would have absolutely needed this cleared with me first. (Not sure if that was the case here, perhaps it was discussed in advance between the two families)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A parent here. If I were the nanny's primary employer I would have absolutely needed this cleared with me first. (Not sure if that was the case here, perhaps it was discussed in advance between the two families)

It was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A parent here. If I were the nanny's primary employer I would have absolutely needed this cleared with me first. (Not sure if that was the case here, perhaps it was discussed in advance between the two families)

If she requires that kind of micromanagement, she isn't much of a responsible sitter.

[Anonymous]

how dare you op! cheapskate!!! she went out of her way a dragged other kids to accommodate you so you could do personal stuff. i don't believe you when you say you all play together sometimes and all watch the kids. you would've mentioned it in the op

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A parent here. If I were the nanny's primary employer I would have absolutely needed this cleared with me first. (Not sure if that was the case here, perhaps it was discussed in advance between the two families)

what does this have to do with what the op asked?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:how dare you op! cheapskate!!! she went out of her way a dragged other kids to accommodate you so you could do personal stuff. i don't believe you when you say you all play together sometimes and all watch the kids. you would've mentioned it in the op

OP here. It was implied in the OP that we had joint play dates. How dare I what? Ask a question? If I were a cheapskate, I wouldn't have bothered asking.

[Anonymous]

What did you decide to do, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Did you want to be the nanny's charity, OP?

Of course not. I don't know how this works. No need to be rude.

Are you really this dense? You pay her her regular hourly rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A parent here. If I were the nanny's primary employer I would have absolutely needed this cleared with me first. (Not sure if that was the case here, perhaps it was discussed in advance between the two families)

what does this have to do with what the op asked?

Mostly because if she was on the clock taking care of my kids it wouldn't seem quite right for her to be getting paid to watch someone else's kid at the same time without a prior arrangement (which there was in this case, so no issue)

[Anonymous]

Absolutely pay her since she is providing a service to you allowing you those free hours to get things done.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because she knew you were in a pinch and you left her in charge of the kids.

That said, I hope she checked with her NF. That's kind of not kosher.