Nanny personal appointments

[Anonymous]

So you're letting her go.

What did you share this story for? It doesn't seem like you have a question and surely your friends would be better recipients of a frustrated vent.

[Anonymous]

In general, when an employee starts taking lots of time off for appointments without any concern for the effect on his/her job or the way his/her employer will start to feel, you can assume that employee is ready to move on, even if actually pulling the trigger and quitting is something he/she is unwilling to do.

Your nanny checked out. She probably doesn't want the headache of looking for a new job right now, so didn't quit, but I'm sure this won't be a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In general, when an employee starts taking lots of time off for appointments without any concern for the effect on his/her job or the way his/her employer will start to feel, you can assume that employee is ready to move on, even if actually pulling the trigger and quitting is something he/she is unwilling to do.

Your nanny checked out. She probably doesn't want the headache of looking for a new job right now, so didn't quit, but I'm sure this won't be a surprise.

In most office settings this would be the common way of job interviewing. Not sure how nannies operate.

[Anonymous]

Why isn't she just taking the kids with her when she can? When I was trying to find a new place before my lease ended I had permission to look at a couple of places with charge in tow and take him to the bank with me etc. sometimes being a nanny affects quality of life because we don't usually get off until EVERYTHING business wise has closed.

Picking up her son and the likes could be done with the kids. Unless she is adamant about being off that's another story

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You said she will be let go, so what is your question?

Where was that said? I just read a warning would be given

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're letting her go.

What did you share this story for? It doesn't seem like you have a question and surely your friends would be better recipients of a frustrated vent.

A warning is the same as being let go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are at our limit. Our nanny of three years has been needing to take appointments during the week on too frequent a basis. It is negatively affecting both of our jobs, time and share of mind. She has 5 trips to divorce court, she has 4 trips for "testing" at a doctor, she has to pick her adult kid up at the airport, then another half day to drop the adult kid off at the airport, dentist, more testing, etc., etc.

This either causes us to take half day vacations to care for our two children or waste time at the office emailing/texting with nanny to find mutually good appt times for her and ua to take off or we email/call all the sitters and backup care to find someone with availability. It's a joke and we're giving her a warning soon. A full time nanny job is not for her, or she needs to work less hours. I'd rather have one nanny for the kids, not two so she will be let go. Not to mention all the time she is on her cell phone on the job scheduling and chatting.

"..... so she will be let go."

[Anonymous]

Are you confused now, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are at our limit. Our nanny of three years has been needing to take appointments during the week on too frequent a basis. It is negatively affecting both of our jobs, time and share of mind. She has 5 trips to divorce court, she has 4 trips for "testing" at a doctor, she has to pick her adult kid up at the airport, then another half day to drop the adult kid off at the airport, dentist, more testing, etc., etc.

This either causes us to take half day vacations to care for our two children or waste time at the office emailing/texting with nanny to find mutually good appt times for her and ua to take off or we email/call all the sitters and backup care to find someone with availability. It's a joke and we're giving her a warning soon. A full time nanny job is not for her, or she needs to work less hours. I'd rather have one nanny for the kids, not two so she will be let go. Not to mention all the time she is on her cell phone on the job scheduling and chatting.

"..... so she will be let go."

That was a hypothetical if she had to choose between having 2 part time nannies versus one that is unreliable as her current one is. Op said more than once that they were giving a warning. So she would be let go instead of having to keep enduring this or getting another form of care to accommodate the conflicts

[Anonymous]

That didn't sound like a hypothetical at all. It sounded like a rant after already deciding to let her go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- I bring the kids to my appts. They read a book. It's called life, and yes I have my bosses permission. They told me I don't even have to ask anymore, they'd rather I take the kids than not come to work. I think it's ridiculous taking off time to go to the doctor. What would a sahm do??

MB here. This is how we handle it. Of course, if our nanny *wants* to take a day off for her appts, she absolutely can, but if she chooses to take my DD with her, I have no problem with that. She is also welcome to take DD on personal errands if she needs to. If she needs to go to the bank, pick up groceries, whatever, she can do them with DD in tow, if she wishes. Just as I would do if I were a SAHM. She has been with us for 5+ years and it has never been a problem. She goes above and beyond every day, and, as a bonus for me, often asks if she can pick up anything for us when they are out. I treat her as I wish to be treated. In other words, I don't micromanage her day and trust her to do her job.

Of course, OP is in a different situation and I agree with PPs who suggest that she no longer seems to want (or be able to) do the job at hand and it may be time for a change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- I bring the kids to my appts. They read a book. It's called life, and yes I have my bosses permission. They told me I don't even have to ask anymore, they'd rather I take the kids than not come to work. I think it's ridiculous taking off time to go to the doctor. What would a sahm do??

MB here. This is how we handle it. Of course, if our nanny *wants* to take a day off for her appts, she absolutely can, but if she chooses to take my DD with her, I have no problem with that. She is also welcome to take DD on personal errands if she needs to. If she needs to go to the bank, pick up groceries, whatever, she can do them with DD in tow, if she wishes. Just as I would do if I were a SAHM. She has been with us for 5+ years and it has never been a problem. She goes above and beyond every day, and, as a bonus for me, often asks if she can pick up anything for us when they are out. I treat her as I wish to be treated. In other words, I don't micromanage her day and trust her to do her job.

Of course, OP is in a different situation and I agree with PPs who suggest that she no longer seems to want (or be able to) do the job at hand and it may be time for a change.

[b]

You sound like you might be my MB ? If you are, I think you're a great Mom and an amazing employer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That didn't sound like a hypothetical at all. It sounded like a rant after already deciding to let her go.

the only person ranting here is you. like 5x. move on already, you don't have a point.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a shoddy nanny.

I wouldn't offer her a warning.... I would just fire her on the spot for poor job performance.

She hasn't taken her responsibility to you + your husband seriously and you both have accomodated her to the hilt.

If her job means anything to her, she would be much more reliable.

[Anonymous]

She is interviewing for other jobs. Not very successfully so far by the looks of it.