Not Happy at Work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very careful because a 4-year-long job is an important reference for you. I would probably try to tough it out. Are your days full? If you have time in the day that you are filling with extra stuff (not directly related to day-to-day functioning), maybe you could talk to them about cutting those hours and taking some time for yourself (take a class, go to the gym, volunteer) so that there is part of your day you enjoy.

This is really good, and smart, advice. It's only a few more months OP, and i bet the family would rather work with you to keep those months stable and easy for them. Maybe there is a compromise solution in here.

This would mean cut pay so she should suffer even more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be very careful because a 4-year-long job is an important reference for you. I would probably try to tough it out. Are your days full? If you have time in the day that you are filling with extra stuff (not directly related to day-to-day functioning), maybe you could talk to them about cutting those hours and taking some time for yourself (take a class, go to the gym, volunteer) so that there is part of your day you enjoy.

This is really good, and smart, advice. It's only a few more months OP, and i bet the family would rather work with you to keep those months stable and easy for them. Maybe there is a compromise solution in here.

This would mean cut pay so she should suffer even more?

I have no idea what it would mean - that would be for OP and her employers to figure out. I just think it's a really good idea to at least have a conversation w/ them about the next few months. I would imagine they would be interested in keeping OP, rather than having to deal w/ a short-term solution. And perhaps there is a version of a compromise that would work for OP also.

Or she can just find another job and leave - she has the right to do that. I just think the pp raised a really good point about the long-term reference potentially being quite important for OP in the future.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like easy money, OP. Not sure what you're complaining about.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should not try to keep so busy after you have completed the housekeeping and errands the family needs you to do. Use the downtime to recharge and to conduct your job search farther down the line. I once felt like you did--liked my employer, had to put in six more months, and had great compensation but there were stresses in the job and it was becoming boring and repetitive. So I gave notice and took another job. The new job turned out to be much more stressful so I ended up quitting and taking a job with less compensation and better working conditions. The pay difference took a bit of adjustment. Looking back, I should have just toughed it out. The months pass quicker than you think.

[Anonymous]

It's a reasonable time to
Start looking for a new good full time job anyway - there will be people looking for a nanny once the summer starts to continue on into school year. It can take a while to find the right fit so if start now and see what shakes out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a reasonable time to
Start looking for a new good full time job anyway - there will be people looking for a nanny once the summer starts to continue on into school year. It can take a while to find the right fit so if start now and see what shakes out.

This is good advice, OP.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they have another job position for you . after two months.

[Anonymous]

Get the heck out of there. They are taking advantage of you!!

At the very least, you should be job hunting to you have a new job to go to. Don't be rude or impolite, but take care of yourself.

Transitions away from families that we care about are incredibly hard, but you must look out for yourself. Believe me, they are already talking to their friends and planning on how to go on without you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with the same family since the child was a baby (4 years), my job will be ending once the child goes back to school in the Fall but I'm seriously not happy at work anymore. My job has transitioned from a full time nanny into a full time maid since the child has been placed in a full day program. I take the child to the program in the morning and don't seem him again until the late afternoon. While he is gone, I cook dinner, laundry, clean, run errands, and try to do anything and everything to keep myself busy. The pay is great but I'm not happy. I have no desire to come to work and clean and be a housekeeper. I thought that I would be able to troop through it for the last year but I can't. Is it wrong of me to put a notice in before my time is up? The family that I work for is great but also has downfalls which make the situation worse.

What did you decide, OP?