Severance or parting gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it odd that she refused any assistance from OP to find another position?

Why? The best (and luckiest!) nanny don't need help.

*nannies

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it odd that she refused any assistance from OP to find another position?

No, I find it quite practical. If the employer tries to "help," the nanny feels obligated to interview with families that are completely unsuitable. Additionally, many parents will "help" by asking their friends, and nannies usually don't want to feel like they have to take a position they don't like. I never want my employer's help finding a new position. A reference letter with a call or just a reference call is quite enough.

[Anonymous]

pay out the rest of her contract, you chose the lifestyle change not her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it odd that she refused any assistance from OP to find another position?

God no. my last mb gave me a months notice and offered to speak of me to her moms at the schools, post something on the neighborhood website and reach out to others that she knew needed help. I declined it all. I don't want them involved in my business or the possibility that they may be friends and discuss my rate etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it odd that she refused any assistance from OP to find another position?

No, I find it quite practical. If the employer tries to "help," the nanny feels obligated to interview with families that are completely unsuitable. Additionally, many parents will "help" by asking their friends, and nannies usually don't want to feel like they have to take a position they don't like. I never want my employer's help finding a new position. A reference letter with a call or just a reference call is quite enough.

+1 Also, if the new position ended up not being a good fit the family could become upset and you risk losing a good reference from your original family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone else find it odd that she refused any assistance from OP to find another position?

No, I find it quite practical. If the employer tries to "help," the nanny feels obligated to interview with families that are completely unsuitable. Additionally, many parents will "help" by asking their friends, and nannies usually don't want to feel like they have to take a position they don't like. I never want my employer's help finding a new position. A reference letter with a call or just a reference call is quite enough.

+1 Also, if the new position ended up not being a good fit the family could become upset and you risk losing a good reference from your original family.

Thank you for your responses, pps.

[Anonymous]

In nanny industry one month notice is typical. You do t have work agreement saying one month? A gift should be thoughtful but she needs money not gifts. So I'd say if you are choosing one oe the other severance is way to go.

[Anonymous]

Write a good letter of reference. A written letter of reference is so important.
That's best gift you can give her with severance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Write a good letter of reference. A written letter of reference is so important.
That's best gift you can give her with severance

A letter is worthless to me, as families assume that it's falsified if they can't contact the reference. I need past employers to give adequate notice and take 2-4 calls when I'm job hunting. Other than that, I don't need or want any help.