how would you handle this with new nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know from experience how easy it is to forget to put that darn little mold thing in the lid of the sippi cup so please forgive…just tell her to watch out for it. As for the dog, just send her friendly reminders on her phone about him when they are heading out. Honestly don't approach it as if she is an awful person cause we are all humans and make mistakes. Her flow and mistakes should get better with more time and experience.

Example: my former MB used to do this and I really appreciated it cause I forget quite easily. She will text me "hey guys, don't forget sunscreen while going to pool…going to be 90 degrees today" or "hey guys, please remember to refill some water and food for the dog for me. thanks." It never bothered me. I was their nanny but really we worked as a team when it came to care of their child.

You didn't mind the MB micromanaging you, and that's fine for you. Most nannies don't like it.

[Anonymous]

I am a nanny and on occasion if I cannot do something, I let the parents know and they do what they can. For instance, they have an old electric can opener and when I have tried using it to open Spaghetti-O's and such, I just figure the darn thing out. So they open the can for me and just pour the Spaghetti-O's in a tupperware then leave it in the fridge where I can warm it up later. Same for cutting some fruits. I can cut fruit, but darn those kiwis, they are so tough. So the mother cuts some up ahead of time and of course, leaves it in a covered container in the fridge.

I am not too familiar with the cups you mentioned, my charge has sippy cups that never spill, yet you just insert the top and it is done. Perhaps you can switch to a different sippy cup. I mean if you had to do a large number amount of stuff for this nanny, I would understand your gripe. But I think all of us fall short on some minor things in life and this may be just one of hers.

Regarding the dog, it sounds like she has a lot of responsibility toward him. This typically is not a nanny duty, but I am assuming you told her during the interview that she would be responsible for your pet as well as your child. And that you let her know that caring for your pet along with her child would be equally important. None of the "Oh we have a dog...But don't worry, he's easy to care for."

If she agreed to take on pet care alongside childcare then yes, she should be following your instructions.

I would offer a friendly reminder first and see how she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know from experience how easy it is to forget to put that darn little mold thing in the lid of the sippi cup so please forgive…just tell her to watch out for it. As for the dog, just send her friendly reminders on her phone about him when they are heading out. Honestly don't approach it as if she is an awful person cause we are all humans and make mistakes. Her flow and mistakes should get better with more time and experience.

Example: my former MB used to do this and I really appreciated it cause I forget quite easily. She will text me "hey guys, don't forget sunscreen while going to pool…going to be 90 degrees today" or "hey guys, please remember to refill some water and food for the dog for me. thanks." It never bothered me. I was their nanny but really we worked as a team when it came to care of their child.

You didn't mind the MB micromanaging you, and that's fine for you. Most nannies don't like it.

It wasn't micromanaging as she didn't do it in a disrespectful way or every single day. I knew my shortcoming(forgetfulness) and she helped me remember basic things. If i already put the sunscreen in our bag, I just respond "oh already took it, thanks for reminding me", she will answer "you are the best! enjoy the pool!" Not all nannies get offended by every single little things; this is why some don't keep a job long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know from experience how easy it is to forget to put that darn little mold thing in the lid of the sippi cup so please forgive…just tell her to watch out for it. As for the dog, just send her friendly reminders on her phone about him when they are heading out. Honestly don't approach it as if she is an awful person cause we are all humans and make mistakes. Her flow and mistakes should get better with more time and experience.

Example: my former MB used to do this and I really appreciated it cause I forget quite easily. She will text me "hey guys, don't forget sunscreen while going to pool…going to be 90 degrees today" or "hey guys, please remember to refill some water and food for the dog for me. thanks." It never bothered me. I was their nanny but really we worked as a team when it came to care of their child.

You didn't mind the MB micromanaging you, and that's fine for you. Most nannies don't like it.

It wasn't micromanaging as she didn't do it in a disrespectful way or every single day. I knew my shortcoming(forgetfulness) and she helped me remember basic things. If i already put the sunscreen in our bag, I just respond "oh already took it, thanks for reminding me", she will answer "you are the best! enjoy the pool!" Not all nannies get offended by every single little things; this is why some don't keep a job long.

I don't get offended when I am told things the first few times. But when the items are common sense (like sunscreen in the summer, regardless of whether you're going to the park or the pool), and you're reminded frequently? That's micromanaging. Yes, if you're forgetful, it's needed, and kudos to both you and your boss for working it out without resentment or annoyance. However, I would have requested a meeting the third time that I was reminded, and I would have asked whether they thought I was competent for the job. I'm hired by parents who trust me enough to leave their children with me 24/7 for weeks or months at a time. It's one thing to remind me to drop the check off with the landlord at the beginning of the month, and completely another to call and ask if I have towels, sunscreen, bathing suits and toys for the trip to the pool for lessons and playing.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes as parents you should understand that the nanny is not perfect. I am a nanny myself , and the fact that my focus is on the child 24/7 can cause my to be distracted from things as simple as preparing a cup. I was forced to quit a job because a dad got upset at me and yelled at the top of his lungs with the child in the room. We all make mistakes but from the looks of things that's are being pointed out, it's seems that you guys are digging for dirt. I feel as if all parents are the same way and when you do prove them wrong they feel dumb and go digging again. That makes the nanny uncomfortable. If you're going to have issues with someone not being perfect that's the key reason as to why you should be a SAHM! (Nanny's view)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Buy easier to use sippy cups.

Why is a kid old enough for ballet classes still using sippy cups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Buy easier to use sippy cups.

Why is a kid old enough for ballet classes still using sippy cups.

Kids can start ballet at 2, but I wouldn't hand them a normal cup when we're walking/in the car.