Are any MBs secure and happy in their position with their nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As MB. I also have no idea what you are talking about. No, it is part of the job. I do not think most people should need this. What MBs do need, is an update on the day, any issues baby/kid is having, what they are eating and learning anything. That is, they do need some conversation and we need the nanny to be professional and not have any anger or ego issues herself as a nanny when talking to me.

I kind of wonder why you got the impression that you need to do this at all.

Remember if you have an MB, the MB has a job and hence a boss too. I'll bet some MBs are butt kissers at work but that is not the first nor the last of her job description. It goes the same in any job. Just be professional and don't bring personal issues.

I mean it is *NOT* part of the job.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. What even are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. I'm not entirely sure what you're talking about. Most of my (largely lovely and wonderful) MBs had moments when they weren't sure if what they were doing/trying was the way to go with their child, and I think my 'hey, I've seen this before, it's nothing to worry about, give it time' has gone a long way. Everybody on the planet has a moment of doubt and I think it's human to try and support them in that moment. I've had that done to me, and I sure hope that's how I try to treat others. Then again, I've never had a horrible DCUM-like MB.

[Anonymous]

I have to do a lot of "Oh, he missed you" and reassure my MB that the baby does take after her side of the family (no clue why this is so important to her but it is).

Once, after a doctor's appointment, my charge cried when his mother left - and I saw her smiling as she walked away.

My first MB was not like this at all. She was totally confident and loved the way her baby reached for me and was happy to see me. She complimented me all the time and was very appreciative of the bond I had with her child. Not all MBs are insecure - however the one I have now sure is.

[Anonymous]

MB here who also has no idea what you're talking about. Maybe if you gave some more specific examples of what you're talking about, we could be more helpful.

Otherwise, yes, I'm plenty secure and happy in my position with my nanny and she appears so with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here who also has no idea what you're talking about. Maybe if you gave some more specific examples of what you're talking about, we could be more helpful.

Otherwise, yes, I'm plenty secure and happy in my position with my nanny and she appears so with me.

If you're secure, you would have no idea. Good for you.

[Anonymous]

It is ridiculous to take the position that you have no clue what OP is talking about. It is great if you don't feel that way but so many articles have been written about "nanny jealousy" that any MB or nanny who claims not to know what it is is either lying or stunningly under-read.

I am very grateful that my son adores his nanny. His nanny is wonderful and an amazing teacher and comfort to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is ridiculous to take the position that you have no clue what OP is talking about. It is great if you don't feel that way but so many articles have been written about "nanny jealousy" that any MB or nanny who claims not to know what it is is either lying or stunningly under-read.

I am very grateful that my son adores his nanny. His nanny is wonderful and an amazing teacher and comfort to him.

I'm a nanny and have had only two long term families. Both MB were extremely confident and secure women. They did not need me to stroke their ego. I'm not sure why I would bother to read about "nanny jealousy". Normally when I'm researching I'm trying to find creative things to do with my charges as they got older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is ridiculous to take the position that you have no clue what OP is talking about. It is great if you don't feel that way but so many articles have been written about "nanny jealousy" that any MB or nanny who claims not to know what it is is either lying or stunningly under-read.

I am very grateful that my son adores his nanny. His nanny is wonderful and an amazing teacher and comfort to him.

I'm a nanny and have had only two long term families. Both MB were extremely confident and secure women. They did not need me to stroke their ego. I'm not sure why I would bother to read about "nanny jealousy". Normally when I'm researching I'm trying to find creative things to do with my charges as they got older.

You will become extremely narrow-minded if you only seek to read things that will immediately benefit you. "Nanny Jealousy" has been written about extensively. Honestly, PP, just try reading any newspaper and be open to things outside of your world - it will make you both a better nanny and a more well-rounded and interesting person.

[Anonymous]

I had to do the charge-missed-you-so-much routine all the time with my MB as well as tell her all the time that she was a good mother. Finally, I just had enough and stopped. I am paid to be her child's nanny and not her nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to do the charge-missed-you-so-much routine all the time with my MB as well as tell her all the time that she was a good mother. Finally, I just had enough and stopped. I am paid to be her child's nanny and not her nanny.

+1 I just do not do it either. It is exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had to do the charge-missed-you-so-much routine all the time with my MB as well as tell her all the time that she was a good mother. Finally, I just had enough and stopped. I am paid to be her child's nanny and not her nanny.

+1 I just do not do it either. It is exhausting.

+2 There's a reason parents keep calling you THEIR nanny. My wages need to double before I'll be THEIR nanny.

[Anonymous]

What is most amazing to me is that insecure mothers rarely (if ever) think they are insecure.

I have to stroke my MB's ego daily. Yes, it is exhausting but part of the current job or else she gets very mean towards me. She even told her then 16 month old child that he hurt her feelings by not being happy to see her when she came home unexpectedly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, no, I don't experience this at all. I'm an MB. I'm happy that my child has many caregivers who love him.

This sums up how I feel. I only want my child surrounded in love and positive energy. I'm not fearful that my child will grow more attached to my nanny.
My guess is that the women who need that ego boost also need it all life areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here who also has no idea what you're talking about. Maybe if you gave some more specific examples of what you're talking about, we could be more helpful.

Otherwise, yes, I'm plenty secure and happy in my position with my nanny and she appears so with me.

If you're secure, you would have no idea. Good for you.

Well, considering you have provided zero examples of whatever you think you're trying to talk about, no smart and thinking person would have any idea how to read your tiny mind.

Since our nanny has chosen to say to stay with us for six years, she's apparently secure and happy, as are we.

Sorry to disappoint you.

Try making sense next time you post.