How to handle a bad reference?

[Anonymous]

OP i dont see as a something good to interview with so many families. I think i would be pissed if 15 families call me. I dont. Think you are that great. If you were, you would stick to 2-3 families for few years.

[Anonymous]

You are ennoying OP. Why cant you just choose 1 or 2 families that you would like to work for and give your references only for them.

[Anonymous]

When I moved to a new region, I obviously didn't have any local contacts and had to use references from a few years earlier. They received one call from my agency, and two calls from families I wanted to work for. That was it. And I sent them a thank you card every time they provided a reference for me. You should not be giving out their contact info so willy-nilly.

[Anonymous]

OP here 12:14 - That's you opinion and completely wrong. The positions ended due to circumstances out of my control. One of the families even invited me to move with them for a job offer that they accepted in Seattle. The other position ends because the mom got laid off. This is the newest one and I was with them for over a year. I received a stellar recommendation from both families. The positions ended ong does not speak to how well I do or do not do my job.

12:17 - I realize and I have been doing it wrong with including references in the packet for all families. I have foes that mistake and will only give references to a select few. If I am so annoying, why are you taking your time to read my post? Get a damn life troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here 12:14 - That's you opinion and completely wrong. The positions ended due to circumstances out of my control. One of the families even invited me to move with them for a job offer that they accepted in Seattle. The other position ends because the mom got laid off. This is the newest one and I was with them for over a year. I received a stellar recommendation from both families. The positions ended ong does not speak to how well I do or do not do my job.

12:17 - I realize and I have been doing it wrong with including references in the packet for all families. I have foes that mistake and will only give references to a select few. If I am so annoying, why are you taking your time to read my post? Get a damn life troll.

Your attitude explains why you have so many interviews over and over again. Not suprised you can't keep your job

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here 12:14 - That's you opinion and completely wrong. The positions ended due to circumstances out of my control. One of the families even invited me to move with them for a job offer that they accepted in Seattle. The other position ends because the mom got laid off. This is the newest one and I was with them for over a year. I received a stellar recommendation from both families. The positions ended ong does not speak to how well I do or do not do my job.

12:17 - I realize and I have been doing it wrong with including references in the packet for all families. I have foes that mistake and will only give references to a select few. If I am so annoying, why are you taking your time to read my post? Get a damn life troll.

Your attitude explains why you have so many interviews over and over again. Not suprised you can't keep your job

Do you read English?

[Anonymous]

If I got 20 calls for some one who worked for me 2.5 years ago, I would be annoyed too. And all those calls are coming in clusters, when you're on an interview blitz.

You should only give out your references after the first round of interviews to the families you are genuinely interested in working with. 9 families? That's way too many to be honestly considering at once. Surely there were a top 3 you could have focused on.

[Anonymous]

Only give out reference details to jobs you are serious about.

If you had 9 offers, which ones were you serious about? You clearly couldn't take all 9. So you pick the 2 or maybe even 3 that you are serious about and give those people references. And if they are going to be contacting someone you have not spoken to in quite a while a quick email or text heads up is a very nice thing to do.

[Anonymous]

I usually stop using someone as a reference when I haven't worked for them for a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here 12:14 - That's you opinion and completely wrong. The positions ended due to circumstances out of my control. One of the families even invited me to move with them for a job offer that they accepted in Seattle. The other position ends because the mom got laid off. This is the newest one and I was with them for over a year. I received a stellar recommendation from both families. The positions ended ong does not speak to how well I do or do not do my job.

12:17 - I realize and I have been doing it wrong with including references in the packet for all families. I have foes that mistake and will only give references to a select few. If I am so annoying, why are you taking your time to read my post? Get a damn life troll.

Your attitude explains why you have so many interviews over and over again. Not suprised you can't keep your job

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually stop using someone as a reference when I haven't worked for them for a year.

That doesn't make any sense unless you're job hopping like crazy.