is this really a huge deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jeez people, she ASKED if it was ok. Op said no, problem solved. Obviously she felt comfortable enough with OP to ask without fear of reprisals and now you want to fire her for being honest? Next time something comes up she's not going to ask, that's for damn sure. If you fire her or berate her for asking, you're going to end up with one of the lying by omission PPs upthread. Whatever happened to no such thing as a stupid question? Only applies to your questions, huh? You'll end up with a nanny who's so paralyzed with fear over losing her job by asking the wrong question that she'll never speak and then you'll be complaining about that. Drop it. Seriously. Now she knows where you stand. Somewhere along the way op have her the impression this might be ok or at the very least they had an open enough relationship she felt comfortable asking questions even if they might seem dumb.

Furthermore, we don't know but maybe op had asked her to do something unreasonable, or too many errands or so knows what, and this was nannys way of saying I don't have time unless I go during nap time so scale back your demands. We don't know the full story.

No adult who even considers it acceptable to leave two toddlers alone will ever be trusted w/ my kids. No responsible adult thinks that is a good idea.

Period.

+1 It is like asking, "Is it okay if I have sex with your husband?" Never acceptable and a sign of a much bigger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please let this be a troll post.

I totally agree with you PP.

No parent on this planet can be that stupid to think it is acceptable for a caregiver to leave the premises and run an errand. Why would they even be on a forum asking if it was okay?

It's so obvious it is NOT.

[Anonymous]

I know this is going to sound really shocking to all of you but.... more families do that then you'd know. and I am talking mom and dad, not even nanny!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is foreign, isn't she?

And yes, I would replace her immediately.

Why being racist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is foreign, isn't she?

And yes, I would replace her immediately.

Why being racist?

It's not and I had the same thought as the PP. I have found that older, foreign women would generally think is is ok. We had a home daycare provider who was Bolivian who thought the same, I found out she was taking the kids to the bus stop 4 blocks from the house and waiting there for 20 minutes or so while my child and another slept at home. Once I discovered that of course we left but she was just shocked and thought it was stupid of me to be concerned and she did mention something about back home, blah, blah, blah,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your nanny is foreign, isn't she?

And yes, I would replace her immediately.

Why being racist?

It's not and I had the same thought as the PP. I have found that older, foreign women would generally think is is ok. We had a home daycare provider who was Bolivian who thought the same, I found out she was taking the kids to the bus stop 4 blocks from the house and waiting there for 20 minutes or so while my child and another slept at home. Once I discovered that of course we left but she was just shocked and thought it was stupid of me to be concerned and she did mention something about back home, blah, blah, blah,

Unlicensed daycare. You take your chances when you use one.

[Anonymous]

OP -- You don't work from home, right? I assume not, but that's the only logical explanation I can possibly think of for this question.