Nanny share: Should hosting family pay less?

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Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever had a nanny share nanny go to non-hosting family's house early to get kids around and then bring them to hosting family's house?

Of course.

I asked because I've never heard of a nanny doing this, but was talking with two families who each expect it (rotating houses every two weeks). They're deciding whether nanny would also be returning kids to the non-hosting house at the end of the day. This seems like it would be more convenient to the parents, yes, and nanny would get a few more hours. However, it also seems like that's eliminating the natural times that the parents might discuss issues, instead wanting nanny to be the go-between.

I certainly hope they respectfully ask the nanny if she's interested.
If the price is right, she'll probably say yes.

No, they are hiring for 1-3 months from now, and the pick up in the morning is non-negotiable. They're currently deciding whether or not to have the nanny do the evening drop off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever had a nanny share nanny go to non-hosting family's house early to get kids around and then bring them to hosting family's house?

Of course.

I asked because I've never heard of a nanny doing this, but was talking with two families who each expect it (rotating houses every two weeks). They're deciding whether nanny would also be returning kids to the non-hosting house at the end of the day. This seems like it would be more convenient to the parents, yes, and nanny would get a few more hours. However, it also seems like that's eliminating the natural times that the parents might discuss issues, instead wanting nanny to be the go-between.

I certainly hope they respectfully ask the nanny if she's interested.
If the price is right, she'll probably say yes.

No, they are hiring for 1-3 months from now, and the pick up in the morning is non-negotiable. They're currently deciding whether or not to have the nanny do the evening drop off.

Why is this a dilemma for them?

[Anonymous]

I would love to host, saved me time. Sharing battery costs wipes cots? Unreal.

[Anonymous]

"Anonymous
Has anyone ever had a nanny share nanny go to non-hosting family's house early to get kids around and then bring them to hosting family's house?"

We have done this with our current share partner and I tthink the last one too. Prior to that the other family did pick up - probably one of the reasons we got to be much closer with them than the other 2. That said it is a huge help for the non-host family and I recommend it so long as the nanny's time is paid for of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Anonymous
Has anyone ever had a nanny share nanny go to non-hosting family's house early to get kids around and then bring them to hosting family's house?"

We have done this with our current share partner and I tthink the last one too. Prior to that the other family did pick up - probably one of the reasons we got to be much closer with them than the other 2. That said it is a huge help for the non-host family and I recommend it so long as the nanny's time is paid for of course.

I would not really recommend for parents to see less of their children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone ever had a nanny share nanny go to non-hosting family's house early to get kids around and then bring them to hosting family's house?

I never heard of that but I'm sure this can be arranged if the nanny is willing. I suppose it's easier when the families live very close by and the nanny can drop off the non-hosting family child on her way to wherever she's going.

[Anonymous]

We have been hosting for almost 2 years. We didn't have a choice because the other family has a very small house. There are advantages to being the host family and its definitely moer convenient. But its also inconvenient when if you are sick or need to work from home.

I will confirm there are many, many cost implications that I didn't realize when we first made this decision. Some are very small (like batteries) but over time these add up and some are significant and are hundreds of dollars (Heat, AC and water).

Our kitchenware and appliances are needing repair more. We just paid $300 to repair our dishwasher that gets used almost every day. Our Supplies get used- paper towels, toilet paper, dish soap, hand soap, counter cleaner, laundry detergent, dishwasher detergent, toothpaste, etc. General wear and tear on our furniture, walls, floors, etc. They also use our car one a week.

For food, We have a Nanny that cooks all the means for the kids. Each family buys groceries for 4 weeks at a time. That works out great.

Now having lived through it, I believe there should be some added monthly costs for the non hosting family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been hosting for almost 2 years. We didn't have a choice because the other family has a very small house. There are advantages to being the host family and its definitely moer convenient. But its also inconvenient when if you are sick or need to work from home.

I will confirm there are many, many cost implications that I didn't realize when we first made this decision. Some are very small (like batteries) but over time these add up and some are significant and are hundreds of dollars (Heat, AC and water).

Our kitchenware and appliances are needing repair more. We just paid $300 to repair our dishwasher that gets used almost every day. Our Supplies get used- paper towels, toilet paper, dish soap, hand soap, counter cleaner, laundry detergent, dishwasher detergent, toothpaste, etc. General wear and tear on our furniture, walls, floors, etc. They also use our car one a week.

For food, We have a Nanny that cooks all the means for the kids. Each family buys groceries for 4 weeks at a time. That works out great.

Now having lived through it, I believe there should be some added monthly costs for the non hosting family.

You should try doing the non-hosting gig, then see how you feel.

[Anonymous]

I would feel the same...and so does our share family. The only difference is the pick up and drop off their child and pack some clothes. Food is all provided here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been hosting for almost 2 years. We didn't have a choice because the other family has a very small house. There are advantages to being the host family and its definitely moer convenient. But its also inconvenient when if you are sick or need to work from home.

I will confirm there are many, many cost implications that I didn't realize when we first made this decision. Some are very small (like batteries) but over time these add up and some are significant and are hundreds of dollars (Heat, AC and water).

Our kitchenware and appliances are needing repair more. We just paid $300 to repair our dishwasher that gets used almost every day. Our Supplies get used- paper towels, toilet paper, dish soap, hand soap, counter cleaner, laundry detergent, dishwasher detergent, toothpaste, etc. General wear and tear on our furniture, walls, floors, etc. They also use our car one a week.

For food, We have a Nanny that cooks all the means for the kids. Each family buys groceries for 4 weeks at a time. That works out great.

Now having lived through it, I believe there should be some added monthly costs for the non hosting family.

But think of the headaches and time you have saved by being the host family. Should you pay an extra fee for the convenience of that extra 30 minutes morning and evening of not schlepping your kid to childcare? As a share nanny, I really think it's the host families that really make out in the deal. I do more cooking for their kid and their family, it's much easier for them to arrange extra hours with me, and they have a bit more control over the logistics of day to day share operation. They don't have to do anything for their kid in the morning, they just have to get ready. I dress him, feed him breakfast, give him his baths in the evenings, do his laundry AND cloth diapers, and clean his nursery. These are all benefits the non host family doesn't get. They get childcare, and I prep their child's lunch and afternoon snack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been hosting for almost 2 years. We didn't have a choice because the other family has a very small house. There are advantages to being the host family and its definitely moer convenient. But its also inconvenient when if you are sick or need to work from home.

I will confirm there are many, many cost implications that I didn't realize when we first made this decision. Some are very small (like batteries) but over time these add up and some are significant and are hundreds of dollars (Heat, AC and water).

Our kitchenware and appliances are needing repair more. We just paid $300 to repair our dishwasher that gets used almost every day. Our Supplies get used- paper towels, toilet paper, dish soap, hand soap, counter cleaner, laundry detergent, dishwasher detergent, toothpaste, etc. General wear and tear on our furniture, walls, floors, etc. They also use our car one a week.

For food, We have a Nanny that cooks all the means for the kids. Each family buys groceries for 4 weeks at a time. That works out great.

Now having lived through it, I believe there should be some added monthly costs for the non hosting family.

But think of the headaches and time you have saved by being the host family. Should you pay an extra fee for the convenience of that extra 30 minutes morning and evening of not schlepping your kid to childcare? As a share nanny, I really think it's the host families that really make out in the deal. I do more cooking for their kid and their family, it's much easier for them to arrange extra hours with me, and they have a bit more control over the logistics of day to day share operation. They don't have to do anything for their kid in the morning, they just have to get ready. I dress him, feed him breakfast, give him his baths in the evenings, do his laundry AND cloth diapers, and clean his nursery. These are all benefits the non host family doesn't get. They get childcare, and I prep their child's lunch and afternoon snack.

I agree with this, as a former non-hosting share partner. We always split the costs equally. When we left the share, the hosting partner told me that with the next baby, we should try to host because it's way easier to host. They never had to scramble with getting the baby out of the house on time, and they had the benefit of the nanny doing their child's laundry and a few chores here and there.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for providing your valuable input. There are definitely different view points to this topic. At the end of the day each family situation is different, each nanny is different and each families view of "how much is convenience worth" is different. My recommendation is whatever your viewpoint, its a topic that should be reviewed per family if you are entering in to this for the first time.