nanny and personal phone calls

[Anonymous]

I never made personal telephone calls or text from work except on my lunch hour or a dire emergency. I do not see why our nanny has to.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter what parents do when they're bored. Parents are the employers and they set the expectations. Period

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter what parents do when they're bored. Parents are the employers and they set the expectations. Period

+1 And I am a nanny. I am also an older nanny who has worked in other fields and understand the employer/employee relationship. Some of the posters on this forum are silly little girls.

[Anonymous]

Another nanny here who has never made a personal call or texted anyone when my charges were not napping (and I was taking my lunch break). I have never had the need to and feel it is dangerous for my charges to have my attention diverted elsewhere.

I do not understand how other nannies can have such complicated lives so as not to be able to handle their personal responsibilities when they have down time when their charges are sleeping. I see nannies CONSTANTLY texting and talking on their phones when they are pushing their charges in a stroller, in the library, in the park, on the playground (yesterday I saw a nanny talking on her phone while pushing her toddler charge on the swing). Who the hell are these women talking to?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another nanny here who has never made a personal call or texted anyone when my charges were not napping (and I was taking my lunch break). I have never had the need to and feel it is dangerous for my charges to have my attention diverted elsewhere.

I do not understand how other nannies can have such complicated lives so as not to be able to handle their personal responsibilities when they have down time when their charges are sleeping. I see nannies CONSTANTLY texting and talking on their phones when they are pushing their charges in a stroller, in the library, in the park, on the playground (yesterday I saw a nanny talking on her phone while pushing her toddler charge on the swing). Who the hell are these women talking to?!

Hence, the difference between a nanny and a sitter. So unfortunate how many parents don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Could you approach is along the lines of "I realize that I should have laid this out from the beginning, so I'm sorry if this comes as a surprise, but I had assumed that personal phone use would be limited while on duty. If you need to use the phone to arrange a play date, or call us if charge is sick during the day, then that makes sense and I want you to be able to do that, but do you think personal calls could be confined to nap time going forward?"

[Anonymous]

WHO has a job where they can take personal cell one calls constantly? Who? A teacher? A police officer? A stock broker? A lawyer with billable hours? The mailman?

Nannies need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never made personal telephone calls or text from work except on my lunch hour or a dire emergency. I do not see why our nanny has to.

Bull feathers! Everybody makes a personal call at work sometimes. If you talk to your nanny, it is PERSONAL. ANY call relating to your family is PERSONAL. You're full of $&it.

[Anonymous]

Take her phone away from her for a week and tell her she can have it back on Friday if she starts doing her job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never made personal telephone calls or text from work except on my lunch hour or a dire emergency. I do not see why our nanny has to.

Bull feathers! Everybody makes a personal call at work sometimes. If you talk to your nanny, it is PERSONAL. ANY call relating to your family is PERSONAL. You're full of $&it.

You are wrong. I have never made one personal telephone call from work except on my lunch hour. I know it is difficult for you silly little girls to believe but it is the God's truth. My DH and nanny know they can call me and have me paged in an emergency but, thank God, we have never had an emergency.

I do not live/work with my phone attached to my hand like you silly little girls do either. My phone is in my purse all day long except on my lunch hour. If nanny or DH had to reach me they would call my place of employment.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. I work with 3 under three and we do not have overlapping naptimes most days and do not do screen time, so I don't get a lunch break. I still only rarely make personal calls at work. Maybe once a week tops, and it is always things that MUST be dealt with during business hours (I work 8-7). I had this conversation with MB before the baby was born and she agreed that she trusts me to manage a phone call here and there. I text occasionally, but mostly it's just me and the kiddos. OP you ahould take a second look at whether your nanny is as committed as you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Hard to find anyone who wants to completely focus on a child for 10-12 hours a day.

One may even wonder how healthy that is for the child, or the adult, for the matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hard to find anyone who wants to completely focus on a child for 10-12 hours a day.

One may even wonder how healthy that is for the child, or the adult, for the matter.

...Especially during the summer, when older children don't need to nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hard to find anyone who wants to completely focus on a child for 10-12 hours a day.

One may even wonder how healthy that is for the child, or the adult, for the matter.

...Especially during the summer, when older children don't need to nap.

For God sake, then do something PRODUCTIVE and JOB RELATED. You are presenting a false choice in saying it is either focusing on the child or talking/texting on your phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I work with 3 under three and we do not have overlapping naptimes most days and do not do screen time, so I don't get a lunch break. I still only rarely make personal calls at work. Maybe once a week tops, and it is always things that MUST be dealt with during business hours (I work 8-7). I had this conversation with MB before the baby was born and she agreed that she trusts me to manage a phone call here and there. I text occasionally, but mostly it's just me and the kiddos. OP you ahould take a second look at whether your nanny is as committed as you deserve.

+1 If you do not have a break during the course of the day, you do have to (occasionally) make a non-work related phone call. I cannot imagine any employer having an issue with that. However, the general abuse I see with nannies on their phones is not related to the occasional phone call.